does anyone think that somewhere there is another person with whom you are perfectly compatible? i was recently (like two/three weeks ago) introduces to this girl one of my friends knew. id say within ten minutes of conversation i was in love with her. problem: i was informed that when you met your “soul mate” you would both know it. i wouldnt think this was a problem except that she is now dating my best friend, which, for me anyways, sucks horribly. anyways, that story isnt really related to my question but id like to know if a) you believe in soul mates and b) if you have any advice for me. thanks
well i dont know if i beelive that there is someone out there who is PERFECTLY compatable with you. But there is one person out there who is more compatable with you then anyone else in the world. I mean statistically its gota be true. I mean lets say ya dated every woman on earth and gave each one a distinct rating (i know this prolly isnt actually possible to do, but its logically possible) in the end there will be one that has a raiting higher then everyone else. Unforutnatley since we all cant do this we will prolly never meet this “perfect” gal since you will never meet every single girl in the world. Hell i love my girlfriend and i hope to marry her someday… but i objectivly doubt she is “perfect” for me.
And any advise? well if i was you i would just sit and be frustraited. I follow a sort of moral code when it comes to other guys. And one of its rules is never go behind anouther guys back to get a girl. Ive been in the same position as you. eventually i got over it. he even knew how i felt and i got alota respect for not doin anythin. But since i dont believe in any set rules o ranything like that i say do as ya please. if ya figure shes owrth it go for it. but ya will prolly regret it in the end.
I’ve been pondering the question myself, but I don’t think it is true. I’ve heard it’s not whether your perfect for each other it’s what kind of music you make together. I think I heard that on Good Will Hunting. Anyway, Are you right together? I think many of the coulpes you see now are not really happy they are just looking for security, and there is none in this world. The only security in the world is that I’m here now, and hopefully your on the other end reading this.
I do!! I do!!
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I believe that there ARE soulmates…and we can find more than one during our lifetime. The key to finding more than one is not comparing and respecting people for their differences.
(note: this is different from putting up with shit)
I had a similar problem, and dear alex gave me and some other kids gave me some lovely advice.:
ilovephilosophy.com/phpbb/vi … p?t=138115
enjoy!!
I would like to but for some reason I doubt it to the point that I hate the idea. I’m afraid that if I met my soulmate she would be some 90 year old lady. That would seriously piss me off. What annoys me the most is that most people don’t even meet all that many people. The chances of you finding someone compatible for you are so small and then you make them smaller by not searching everywhere for them. Reminds me of the question from seinfeld. What percent of the population do you consider datable?
As for advice… I’m bad with that. I just had about 20 ideas run through my head. Now that I’m thinking them over none of them sound good.
thanks frighter (and others.) i guess for now ill just wait and be frustrated… oh well
Yes I believe in soul mates. Not to the extremes most people take it to mean.
call me a hopeless romantic, but that is so sweet!!
i don’t know whether or not i believe in soulmates. i do believe that everybody is able to feel love towards everyone else in this world. as in, on some level, you can be that close to every single person. sometimes it needs work, and maybe you think that makes it invalid, but it is possible. i know that sounds like true tree-hugging hippy crap.
i think i’d like to believe in soulmates.
People change too much for there to be soulmates. It would involve you both changing thoughts at the same time. Then if everyone had one there would be only half the amount of individuals out there. This is looking at it in an annoying logical point of view though. I guess I’ll stop now.
It’s ok cba1067950, trust me women can think logically, but don’t try to explain them. It’ll just get you in more trouble. lol, thanx clarice… 
the ancient greeks believed that the insert name of species here - i can’t remember were so jealous of humanities perfection that they took everybody and split them up, and that there was one person out there who would complete you. i think that’s lovely.
So lovely to you is searching 8 billion people for completion? I mean I’d like the idea better if say the girl that completed me lived atmost a couple blocks away but jeez now I might actually have to look for someone I like.
I don’t want to think that there is no such thing as a soulmate. What’s the use of looking for someone, or dating if there’s not? Is everyone looking to get their hearts broken these days, or what? I believe there is such a thing, but that having one would take a serious commitment to working through as many obsticles that could possibly pop up.
I think soulmate is a word conjured up by hopeless romantics to personify their wishful belief that there is someone in the world who is their perfect match and who will put an end to all their problems. It then mutated into common usage so that any old tom dick and harry says “oh she’s my soulmate” after two weeks of contact. Soulmate is just a word to describe someone you get on with well. Calling them a soulmate doesn’t disclude them from treating you like shit, stabbing you in the back and maybe at one point, leaving you completely.
People who believe in soulmates spend more time discussing whether they exist than they do going out to find them.
That’s soooo not true Ben.
Do you honestly believe that there isnt someone out there who just is that missing piece from your life? The person that you just instantly click with.??
You know you are… You cant deny your hormonal instinct for want of love. 
Regardless of time frame, two weeks, a day … a year, 5 years… the person can still be your soulmate.
The only problem is that the word is just so overused and used loosely that people nowadays are either bad judge of characters or just want to love so badly that the next person they come in contact with is their soulmate .
I’m a believer and you know YOU ARE TOO.
xxoooxxx
I remember very well the January snowstorm that gave us a day off of school. My buddy and I decided to go ice-skating. As I was putting on my skates I looked up to see a girl skating by. Little pink fluttery hearts cascaded cartoon-like out of my head, despite the fact that I knew she’d never give me the time of day. As it turns out she was willing to give me the time of all her days.
I know how stupid this sounds. I know I’m supposed to be complaining about my wife like the other guys down at the gym. I know no one wants to hear about my eternal love. I’m supposed to be cynically biding my time until the inevitable divorce occurs. Or else we’re supposed to stay together, to soldier on together like zombies for the sake of the kids. After a quarter of a century I’m supposed to be sick of the sight of her. I know this is how it’s supposed to be, only it isn’t how it is.
She flew away last week to visit her parents. I found myself the other night with my chin on the dresser looking at a picture of her. It’s an empty house and an empty life without her. My sister told us that soon after we were settled in our marriage we’d feel that something was missing, and that would be the signal to have a child. We waited for the missing feeling, but it never came. So be it.
Again, I apologize if my story might be making you ill. I know it’s not supposed to be this way. I’m supposed to be be lusting away for younger women. What’s wrong with me?
I don’t have any great insight as to why I’ve been so lucky when I’ve seen so many of my friends and family fail in love. The world is so terribly complex. People are even more complex. Yet here I am telling you that for me it all comes down to just abandoning oneself to one pure hearted woman.
I wake up some mornings with her head on my chest. Occasionally there’s a morning dove down in the garden. She likes to coo softly along with it. I wake up with this soft vibration filling my chest and look down to see her waist length braided hair lying across me. She knows who I am. She knows me far better than I know myself, and yet this is how she prefers to return to life in the morning. My greatest hope is that the last thing I should see on this earth are her hazel eyes and loving smile. I would go easily to sleep for an infinity. Is love supposed to be like this? I don’t know what it’s supposed to be like. I only know what it is like.
Michael
AWWWWWWWWWWWWW… sorry I had to do it before someone else did. Not that I don’t admire what you have because I do but it’s something that makes me feel better when I turn things like this into a competition and win. 
I’m so tired…
Well I’d love someone more if I was atleast a decent match with them if I knew that the chances of finding someone that completed me were slim to none. My opinion anyway. I’d value something more if my chances of finding it were less.
Sorry I don’t mean to attack you but I just so happen to disagree with you. Why would you want a relationship that you consider work? To me that seems destined to destroy itself.
Polemarchus,
your life is truly a gift. Many believe their lives to be torment, always greedy for more, never satisfied even with the greatest riches in the world. From what I have read about you from you previous posts and agglomerating them all, including the one above, I have come to realize that there is a reason things work out for those who dare to believe. I had this realization for many years, but had only myself to compare it too. My theory is that, a truly good person has good things happen to them. It is like Plato’s belief, that a truly virtuous person will naturally be good at all things. It is not to be taken in the general context in which it is written, I wish not to explain but leave the readers to draw their own conclusions. Many will confuse this with the notion of those people in school that do not bother anyone but the jocks always bother them. To me, these people are not virtuous or good (necessarily). Some of those people who don’t do anything bad is only because they don’t dare to do it because of what the bigger and stronger would do to them. Once given a chance, this person being bigger and stronger would do the same things in the bully’s circumstances or even worse.
You see, the chances of you and your wife mixing so well is a one in a million chance (under-exagerating). What about the chances of both of you not wanting kids, that’s yet another one in a million chance, but there is also the way you live, which as I have stated before would not be something too many would be happy with given the current possible amenities. Yet the both of you are okay living in the conditions that you do, that is once again a one in a million chance. Hence, why I say that your life is a gift.
You inspire and bring confidence to my heart Polemarchus. I believe my title of ‘Magnanimous’ is better suited to you, especially lately. My anger and frustration have been getting the better of me for the last few months; this is not like me, I was never like that. I am working on fixing it.
I wish to ask you, did you know from the moment you spoke or your eyes met with hers? After the time you had the thought that she would not give you the time of day. I always love to hear stories of how couples met and got together, I wish not to pry, and will completely understand if you wish not to share; especially on a message board, but I could not resist asking.
What’s your take?
Dearest Polemarchus,
It’s guys like you I want to get me pregnant. 
My friend and I were just in awe with what you wrote.
You know, not to go on a tangent, Girls are more attracted to guys like you who show they can commit to one single individual…wow.
and you’re a rare commodity.
so if things dont work out between you and your wife, I’m always here , “baby”
Your number 1 heifer,
Natsilicious
natty, natty, natty,
being awestruck has made you foolish and careless. you said you are attracted to people who commit to one individual. You then suggest that if Polemarchus were to break with his wife (rather a crass comment given the situation) he should come and find you. But then he wouldn’t be committed to one individual thus negating the reason for him to come and look for you.
women will come and go, but logic is true forever. beautiful.
- ben