I’ve been undergoing therapy lately. That’s right, therapy. And self-therapy no less. No, no, not through self-help books and the like but forcing myself to engage in a subject matter which is a very touchy one for me in the hopes that if I become more informed about it and exposed to a diversity of views about it, I will gain a better handle on my “issues”. The issue is sexism and feminism, and the therapy is youtube.
I’ve been typing “sexism” and “feminism” into the youtube search bar for the past week now, and I’ve come across a wide variety of views, some enlightening, some ignorant, some humorous, some serious, some calm and level-head, some angry and fanatical, some appealing, some offensive, some by men (for and against), some by women (for and against).
I want to start a discussion on feminism and sexism in today’s society and across the globe generally (consider it part of my therapy).
I want to start with a definition of “sexism” (which you are free to debate) and a definition “feminism” (which isn’t mine so you can debate it all you want, but you’d have to take it up with the feminists themselves).
Sexism: the attitude that one sex is inherently inferior or less worthy than the other because of their sex (which does not include differences demonstrable by scientific/emperical fact–ex. men are physically superior to women in muscular strength, women are superior to men in child bearing capabilities).
Feminism: the belief that there ought to be equality between the sexes with an emphasis on helping to raise women up to a level of equality with men.
Now I have learnt via youtube that there is a distinction often made between what might be called “moderate feminism” and “radical feminism” (feminazis). Some argue that radical feminists don’t really adhere to the above definition (whether they admit it or not, whether they are aware of it or not) and are more aptly described as believing (or acting as if they believe) that women are superior to men and ought to have more rights and priviledges than men. Some argue that moderate feminism can be contrast with radical feminism chiefly by the latters hatred of men (as opposed to their championing of women). If this is true, then radical feminism is sexist (according to my above definition) whereas moderate feminism is not.
To my surprise, I found (via youtube) that there is a great number (possibly the majority) of women in America (and elsewhere in the western world) who are against feminism. Whether that’s moderate or radical feminism is unclear, but according to their reasoning, I would guess the latter. However, feminism in recent years has acquired enough of a stigma that these women are dispensing with the label all together. It’s no wonder that recently I’ve been hearing women say “I’m not a feminist but…”. This usually takes me by surprise a little bit–What? Your not a feminist? Why not? Don’t you want to be part of a movement that fights for women’s right? Aren’t you proud of being a woman?–well, it’s not that they aren’t proud and it’s not that they don’t believe in women’s rights; it’s that feminism–radical feminism–is coming dangerously close to biggotry in recent years.
But that’s not all. An aversion to being identified with a sexist group seems to be the least of their concerns. It turns out that the leaders of the radical feminist groups are actually making life miserable for women across America and the West in numerous ways. Some of the top concerns of American/Western women are:
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That women who want nothing more out of life but to be a stay-at-home mom and home maker, which represents a huge portion of the female population if not the majority, are being made to feel by radical feminists that such a choice is shameful and undignified–so much so that many women are ashamed to admit it even to their peers.
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Radical feminists are making women feel ashamed about their desires to form relationships with, get married to, and generally fall in love with men.
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Radical feminists are making a lot of noise over trivial issues domenstically (such as being treated as sex objects, glass ceilings in the work force, not being taken seriously in traditional public male rolls, etc.) but paying no attention to dramatically more serious women’s rights issues across the globe (such as honor killing and acid face washes in the middle east, female genital mutilation in Africa, the barring of education to girls, infanticide of newborn girls in China, etc.). This is not to say that such domenstic issues aren’t important, but that when juxtaposed next to these more global issues, harping about the former and ignoring the latter makes radical feminists look like spoiled little rich princesses (not to mention plainly uneducated about these more global issues).
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Women in America and the West are learning that a lot of what they have been taught in their post-secondary education when it comes to feminist issues (in courses like sociology, anthropology, history, polisci) has been overwelmingly determined as part of the curriculum by radical feminists and is demonstrably untrue (I can link you to a youtube video that gives examples of this).
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That many of the policies lobbied for by radical feminists, and being passed in legislation, are harming the economy and making it more difficult for women (and people in general) to get jobs. An example of this is that businesses are going under because they are being forced to higher women who are plainly unqualified for jobs just to meet quotas imposed on them, and in some cases being charged with discrimination (thus weaking the business and in some cases destroying it outright) simply because too few or no women applied. This weakens the economy and therefore makes jobs more scarce, and that in turn makes it more difficult for women (and men) to get jobs.
Now if you want a smattering of the youtube videos I have been watching, just do what I did. Enter “sexism” and “feminism” into the youtube search bar and take your pick. One excellent source that I stumbled across is this:
youtube.com/watch?v=qH-mjGNqlHs
The video itself is very interesting, but what’s more interesting is the link that’s immediately available at the begin (right in the middle of the viewing pane) which takes you to a playlist of 87 videos (it says 80 but it’s actually 87) featuring women who are speaking out against radical feminism (or feminism all together). It’s a smattering that runs the gamut from amateur teenagers speaking right into their webcams at home to professionals delivering speaches and lectures in formal conferences and media programs. It’s actually quite shocking what I hear.
Now a warning to the women out there: this isn’t for the faint of heart. I don’t know how faint your heart is, or whether you’ll find it as shocking I do, but I feel I should warn you that some of the videos might be offensive (I just don’t know). But I don’t think it need be offensive. Maybe “challenging” is a better word. This is not to say that you will be moved by it in any way, or that it will be at all new to you (I don’t know–being a man, I’m not sure what a woman finds shocking, offensive, or what she has already been exposed to or believes in her heart of hearts). I also feel I should warn you (and the men on here as well) that some of these videos encourage women to submit to their husband’s authority, but it becomes obvious after a short while of watching these videos that most of them (I’m prepared to say all of them) are religiously motivated (i.e. you should submit to your husbands because the Bible says so). If you choose to skip over these ones, I don’t blame you. I started doing that myself when I learnt to identify them almost as soon as they began. I’m more interested in the views of the women who are citing objective facts (scientific, statistical, documented government policies, etc.) or have rationally thought-out arguments that are valid in a secular context (and this represents most of the videos).
I also want to encourage you to look up girlwriteswhat on youtube as she has some fascinating views on the whole feminism/sexism topic in America and the West.
Well, if you choose not to watch these videos (I won’t blame you–there’s a lot of them), I at least would like to hear what you have to say (regardless of your sex) because I really need to hash out these issues with people in order to get over my psychological hang-ups