But these acknowledgments all rely on a view of people as basically functional and whole, with problems understood as exceptions. It feels very different to begin with the assumption that there is no integrated, hardy wholeâ€”that each of us is an awkward attempt to make life work.
Of course there are those who have solved this problem in elegant ways. Many lives may indeed be perfectly full, balanced, and aligned. My suggestion is that this is better understood as a rare achievment than as our natural state.
Do we all live in danger of going so mad we can no longer function
To say that accepting them constitutes success would seem to require that we believe "success" is entirely subjective, and consists only of a lack of personal distaste for who one is. Is that a position on which you'd like to elaborate?
Still, I'm reluctant to agree that acceptance of who one is would constitute the admittedly vague construct I've suggested of being whole, integrated, and healthy. One might accept (as your comments seem to acknowledge) aspects of oneself we would tend to agree are dysfunctional: "I'm the kind of person who can't get along with a partner." "I can't hold a job." "I can't stop hitting my kids." To come to terms with these exceptionalities is a useful step in feeling better and indeed in working toward a more desirable, functional way of life.
so, returning to your examples, no man can possibly say 'i beat my kids' 'i can't get along with chicks' or 'i can't get a job' and believe he has found his 'true' self, or any self at that.
. the very possibilty of its achievement baffles me; what, some people have souls but others don't? is this calvanism?a thing which is rarely achieved
if they were to search internally, while they might never become wise yogis or a well-rounded person, would probably achieve they best that they can. this is the most anyone can hope for.
so, i don't think an overhaul is required. i think a simple understanding of who we are is enough to make us sane.
You admit the existence of such things as wisdom and well-roundedness
This would appear to mean even knowing a mixed-up, dysfunctional self
Contradiction arises only when the mind has a fixed point of desire; that is when the mind does not regard all desire as moving, transient, but seizes upon one desire and makes that into a permanency--only then, when other desires arise, is there contradiction. But all desires are in constant movement, there is no fixation of desire. There is no fixed point in desire; but the mind establishes a fixed point because it treats everything as a means to arrive, to gain; and there must be contradiction, conflict, as long as one is arriving.
Trix, you are my best critic; and for that, i am most appreciative
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