That bolded portion is not very Jesus like. Those moments can go on for years. Certainly in cases of sexual abuse by a not having remorse parent…Contact with people who see this ‘not forgiving’ by the child as not loving is abusive.
The lilies of the field do not forgive. Nor do they blame. Nor to most people think they remember. Me, I’m a pagan so I’m not so sure about those last two.
Love does not leave room for parasites. Guilt does. (if one has the power to leave the situation, it is not love that stays there.)
I was concerned you would take the long term relationship example as being an example of how it is hard. That is not my issue. I have moral ideas and goals that are very hard. My bringing up the ltr was that it can, though not necessarily always will, reveal ‘what is really going on’ when ideals like yours are adhered to. So to be very clear I was not in any way saying ‘Oh, but in a relationship you will find these things tough and you’ll think twice.’ Nah. I have things I do and face that are tough. It was merely that the other person, that close, increases the liklihood of showing you power games, smugness, guilt, manipulation, etc., masquerading as love. Unfortunately this can be missed in any situation.