How does a weak ego develop

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How does a weak ego develop

Postby qwertz » Sat Jan 07, 2012 9:18 pm

I'm curious if someone can point me to any research on the topic (if something like this could be studied scientifically), though not psychoanalytical, and also I'm curious as to what your intuition or anecdotal evidence tells you.
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Re: How does a weak ego develop

Postby Moreno » Sat Jan 07, 2012 11:30 pm

qwertz wrote:I'm curious if someone can point me to any research on the topic (if something like this could be studied scientifically), though not psychoanalytical, and also I'm curious as to what your intuition or anecdotal evidence tells you.

If you are not noticed as a child then you don't really exist in some way.
If your boundaries are repeatedly crossed as a child, you don't know how to have one, or you are afraid to have one. Sexual abuse can lead to this, for example.
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Re: How does a weak ego develop

Postby qwertz » Sun Jan 08, 2012 1:11 pm

By "boundaries crossed" you mean any form of treatment that shows a lack of respect?

What about more standard types of parenting (by standard I mean that don't include something immediately remarkable such as abuse)? What kind of parents do you think produce a strong and what kind produce a weak ego?
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Re: How does a weak ego develop

Postby lizbethrose » Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:54 am

Mareno started off in the right direction, but it seems to go beyond a lack of recognition of self-ness in a child. There's also constantly telling the child s/he is wrong, no matter what. How can a child believe in itself when no adult accepts him/her as a thinking, feeling, person?
"Be what you would seem to be - or, if you'd like it put more simply - never imagine yourself not to be otherwise than what it might appear to others that what you were or might have been was not otherwise than what you had been would have appeared to them to be otherwise."
— Lewis Carroll
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Re: How does a weak ego develop

Postby Tetralix » Thu Jan 19, 2012 6:52 pm

I am not sure what you mean by ''a strong and weak ego''. I presume you mean the amount of self importance of the conscious subject.
I believe that the ego is never done with evolving. The degree of regard for our own importance in relation to reality changes with every experience we have.

I have been thinking about what sort of experiences would affect the ego but that might be something very subjective but my gut feeling tells me some things work the same for us all. Experiences where other beings acknowledge and respect you will enforce and support the ego,things like friendship, love, raising a child or even something as small as a smile. I believe that deep inside every human wants to be acknowledged for what he is by his peers. if that is lacking then the ego will suffer.

qwertz wrote:By "boundaries crossed" you mean any form of treatment that shows a lack of respect?

What about more standard types of parenting (by standard I mean that don't include something immediately remarkable such as abuse)? What kind of parents do you think produce a strong and what kind produce a weak ego?


A very strong ego is not necessarily a good trait either since such a person would be very rigid and would have a difficult time handling with hardship because of an inflated feeling of pride and self importance. While a person with a very low ego would suffer from self imposed hardship from a lack of self worth. I think that the parents that accept, support and love the child for what it is will produce a human with a healthy ego.
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