Well ive taken a psych lab in animal behavior and have learned quite a bit about other animals and ourselves in regard to mating habits. I wouldnât say humans are incapable of monogamy, but instead that it is against human nature to be one.
I know it seems as if its sad, ive been told that what i think is sad by others too, but its just what is without any bullshit if youâre honest, its easier to accept things as they are, Iâve found.
How? Itâs hard to describe more like a feeling, intimacy but with a genuine affection and care as well. Feeling good being with the one you love simply because they are there. Like an embrace.
The girl is rarely right about much, but besides that commentary, what do you mean by ârightâ? I just think weâre different in the way of thinking about it in general of course. In general guys wanna fuck, and girls want a guy who will stick around after and so they associate these girl feelings with girl wants like all that you mentioned prior. Most guys just wanna fuck and get out whether they admit to it or not
Wanna hear my theory? No? Well, Iâll tell it anyway:
Men have the reputation for being promiscuous while women have the reputation for being monogomous. Our evolutionary rolls are typically brought in to explain this. It is said that men want to spread their seed and so they want to fuck as many women as they can, while women want a committed exclusive relationship because they need the father of their offspring to stick around and help with the child rearing and defend the family against enemies/predators.
While I agree with this for the most part, I think another look at these evolutionary rolls reveals that women should be just as promiscuous as men. Why would women need to be monogomous for their mate to stick around and help with child rearing and defending the family? What they would actually need is for the man himself to be monogomous. If the man buggers off and starts fucking other women, then theyâre in trouble. But if she can get him to settle down and commit to the family, and only this one family, she has a better chance of nurturing her offspring towards success. Meanwhile, it makes no difference to her if her second or third or fourth child comes from a different mate. Hell, if she can get the whole lot of them to be committed to her and their respective offspring, then sheâll amass a whole army of strong capable men to protect and provide for her and her children.
But of course, she canât convince these men to be monogomous unless she herself acts according to her own prescription. Otherwise, sheâs just a hypocrit. And so, I believe that women end up earning the reputation as the monogomous ones only because they in fact do try to be monogomous in an attempt to quell their conscience, a conscience which urges them to preach the morality of monogomy to their mates.
I think you can have it both ways. Like some girls Iâm friends with. Some of the fatter and uglier girls I went to college with for instance. Smart, funny, pleasant in conversation, sometimes even bordering on intellectually stimulating. So I get to enjoy what itâs like to be best friends w/ not just one woman, but several. I get all that good stuff.
But then when Iâm ready for the poontang, Iâm looking for something from the mid 80s, under 5â7, under 140lbs with good shiny hair, smooth skin, and firmness all over except the parts that are supposed to be squishy. She should also have some stamina, and the confidence with her body to act like an outright freak, without having to sacrifice her self esteem.
Also, at the end of the day, if you can keep a couple strung along for conversations, and a couple of hot ones for having sex with, then you literaly get to live in a world of estrogen without any real obligation to any of them.