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Pav, I wanted to thank you for your well thought-out response to me earlier. Without knowing anything about Ohio welfare laws, I certainly can’t and wouldn’t try to counter any of your specifics. In fact I would agree with you whole-heartedly on pretty much every one of your points.

The only thing I would say is that, contrary to popular belief, being on the Left doesn’t mean you think money should be thrown indiscriminately at every problem. I consider myself very liberal, but I wouldn’t vote for giving anyone free tuition AND paying them cash on top of that just to attend college. I’m not sure how something like that ever got legislated.

I do believe that if we want to live in the best possible society, we have a responsibility for each other and we should help those that truly need help. And before someone chimes in and says “if you feel that strongly, then you can give your own money to charities,” I do give my own money to charities. I’m talking about at a societal level here.

We ALL benefit from having a healthy, well-educated workforce and citizenry. I believe if we spent time and money on children from a very young age, we’d have to pay less once those children reach adulthood; less in healthcare, less in welfare, and less in the justice system. It’s not simply do-gooder altruism, although I do genuinely care about [most] people; it just makes good fiscal sense.

The problem is, there is no instant gratification with that policy, and it’s tough for any politician to win on a platform that doesn’t demonstrate immediate results.

people often try to dismiss minor injustices by pointing out that life isn’t easy. i don’t see how that really dismisses anything at all.

that’s a prejudice Anita. things happen, often they are unfortunate, but that doesn’t necessarily mean people need to be blamed. you’re basically making a blanket moral condemnation of anyone who has an unwanted pregnancy. i think it’s correct to call your rant a conservative one.

well shit. i guess that means i have to change my mind then.

It’s not intended to dismiss anything. It’s pointing out a simple truth.

Talk about dismissive - not to mention passive - “things happen”?

No, it’s not a blanket condemnation. There are those who have unwanted pregnancies through no fault or responsibility of their own. I certainly don’t “condemn” them. I’m calling to task those who take a laissez-faire approach to sex and then bitch and moan about having to deal with the consequences. I don’t know how you can’t see that as a problem.

i agree that life isn’t easy. but your implication as i read it was that it doesn’t matter if the child support system is unjust, because people who have sex without wanting children should face crappy consequences. as if they deserve to face punishment because they had sex solely for pleasure. clearly you at least feel comfortable judging them when bad things happen to them.

circumstances matter. so does context. people get preagnant for a whoooole lot of reasons. if you are speaking as generally and as broadly as you seem to be, the most you can fairly say is that it happens.

i don’t understand why people who have a laissez-faire approach to sex should have to suffer anymore than someone who is chaste. sure, sex has consequences like anything else, but unfair legal and financial penalties don’t need to be added to them.

Once sexual services are considered part of the deal, I can’t see how emotions are somehow separate. It was the OP that brought in sex and not you, so my response is not necessarily to your position, but then yours is different than those ideas in the OP. In any case I disagree. I think this has been part of the contract, that the men have considered themselves entitled to emotional support in return for financtial support. This means the slippers and the drink and the listening to the day’s war stories have been prioritized over the woman’s parallel needs to be pampered emotiophysically. And this has been a standard complaint of women in traditional marriages - or better put standard complaints have come out of this dynamic. Given that these kinds of services have to be paid for if it was not the wives doing them - even the supportive listening (with as much return priority) - these are a part of the economic relations in a traditional family.

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I implied nothing of the kind. You inferred, and incorrectly. Did you read that single post and nothing else of mine in this thread? If so, you are responding out of context.

Circumstances sometimes matter. You’re speaking in even broader terms.

I guess I should have said laissez-faire approach to birth control. I’m not making any statement about chastity or casual sex, except as it relates to irresponsible casual sex.

Typical feminist response. The woman is ALWAYS responsible for birth control. The man is just having fun and it’s not his fault if she takes it seriously. All he wanted was a little penis/vaginal rubbing and if she ends up preggers, it’s her own damned fault. It’s not like he enters into sex thinking, “Gee, I hope I make a baby” That isn’t even on his radar. For a man, the consequence of sex is sex, nothing more, nothing less.

How is abortion a right over a woman’s [mothers] body, when the foetus is not that woman’s body it is its own.

Quite true. Do you think a Father should have the ability to divest himself of responsibility for the child prior to the child’s birth if he files an Affidavit, in Court, stating that he wants for the baby to be aborted, but the Mother doesn’t want that?

I appreciate the sentiment, well, the first part anyway.

I would suggest that if a woman is not physically forced to have unprotected sex, then there is nothing forcing her to have unprotected sex, regardless of her access (or lack thereof) to birth control. She could just not have sex.

I agree with you, though it is very difficult to selectively legalize abortion. I will say that one problem I have occasionally heard of to take place is for a male to rely on the oral statement of a female that she is on some form of birth control, such as pills. I would say it is still his fault for not wrapping it up, but it is still quite misleading for a female to say she is on BCP’s when she is not.

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Encore!!!

Thank you for both your reasonableness and for engaging me in this discussion.

Minnesota Time

I disagree with that, you have to crunch the numbers in terms of what sort of assistance the women receive, when single, in addition to the child support that the guy is paying compared to the standard of living she had when she was married to him.

For instance, if a guy were to be the only one working in his family and he made $30,000 where the wife was unemployed, and they got divorced where she continued to be unemployed:

1.) The kids had free healthcare in any case. MinnesotaCare will assist both parents when both parents are married with significantly reduced premiums. The Mother will keep her MinnesotaCare after the divorce, but…uh-oh…Daddy loses MinnesotaCare by $48. Married, they may not have more than $20,000 in total assets, single, he may not have more than $10,000 in assets.

house.leg.state.mn.us/hrd/pubs/mncare.pdf

2.) The guy will pay $795/month in child support.

childsupportcalculator.dhs.state … lator.aspx

3.) The Mother will no longer pay anything for rent if she gets on income-based housing because no income = no rent. She will also pay nothing for utilities.

4.) Filling in the proper information here:

snap-step1.usda.gov/fns/index.jsp

It would seem that the Mother will get $325-$335/month in food stamps.

5.) The Mother (if she at least has a G.E.D.) will get free access to college education, but no bonus cash in Minnesota. She is expected to come up with 46.3%, but the amount she is not expected to come up with will more than cover tuition/fees/books, just no extra money.

6.) The childcare costs will undoubtedly be covered for college:

getreadyforcollege.org/gPg.c … fa0f2a72f9

I’m going to use 60% of my personal housing expenses to determine this, just for the Hell of it to see how she does:

1.) $795 child support * 12 = $9,540

2.) $330 foodstamps * 12 = $3,960

3.) My mortgage payment is $509, so let’s say that reasonable rent would be $305.4…12 = $3,664.80…and that’s actually impossibly low.

4.) My Electric/Heating bill budget amount is $348 so let’s say $208.80 * 12 = $2,505.60

5.) My cell phone bill (they get free cell phones with limited minutes) is $60/month, so $36 * 12 = $432

6.) My trash bill is $18/month, so $10.80 * 12 = $129.60

7.) I’ve also filled out the form, just to see, and such an individual would (still) qualify for $123/month cash assistance. (It’s Federal) $123 * 12 = $1,476

***Ultimately, you have a value income…that I’ve intentionally low-balled of $21,708 for not working while the ex-husband will see $15,084 of his money after child support and taxes are taken out of the equation. Except, she doesn’t have to do anything for that and gets to dictate when or not he gets to see his kids. In the meantime, he’s going to pay numbers for his cost-of-living closer to what I pay than what I’ve intentionally low-balled for the ex-wife.

Again, there is NOWHERE for rent with three bedrooms for $305.40, in fact, one of the reasons that I bought a house is because it is cheaper for me every month than renting actually was, so you can really add another $2,500 to her.

NOW, let’s factor in these school benefits:

Okay, you pay $184.04/credit hour at Dakota Technical College:

dctc.edu/future-students/pay … /index.cfm

The single Mother will have to take at least 15 credit hours to be considered full-time, so $184.04 * 15 = $2,760.60

That’s per semester as DCTC runs by semester, so the value on that is $8,281.80/year. (Three per year)

That brings the single Mother’s value up to $21,708 + 8,281.80 = $29,989.80/year. Her value for going to college for 20 hours a week has now exceeded the husband’s value further.

I am having trouble finding childcare costs anywhere, so I found some numbers for Dakota County. It looks like they get $6.32/hour for a school-age kid. There are now 35 academic weeks (or so), so you are looking at $6.32 * 35 * 20 = $4,424

edocs.dhs.state.mn.us/lfserver/ … -6441A-ENG

Her new value is $34,413.80/year. She is worth only $3,586.20 less per year than I am where I work 65 hours/week and SUPPORT a family of four and she does nothing except attends classes 20 hours/week. Furthermore, I also have taxes taken out and make student loan payments of $121/month. When it is all said and done, she’s worth more than I am.

She is financially better off than she was with her husband. Her husband is FAR worse off financially. The value she has as a family of three exceeds the value that they had as a family of four. He works, she doesn’t. Everything she has is Government-provided, nothing he has is Government-provided, and in fact, since he cannot claim the kids, he will have to pay Federal and State (Especially State) taxes that he will not get back…something he did not have to do before as far as Federal was concerned. In Minnesota, he still would not be refunded everything he paid in State tax as a family of four.

She’s worth more than him annually sitting at home doing nothing (144%)! If she goes to college, she is worth 228% of what he takes home per year.

I don’t think my wife will ever divorce me, but just in case, I am never moving to Minnesota…

I rest my case.

You’re absolutely right. Most people equate Socialism to Communism, or Socialism to a Welfare State. When I say I am a Socialist, people think I am mildly retarded, but they have no idea what Socialism is really supposed to consist of. Let there be no question that an individual MUST work in my system, unless he/she is married, then he/she has the option not to work provided the spouse works.

It does, but you really have to pick and choose your spots. For instance, did you know that Schwann’s can now accept the foodstamp card in the State of Ohio!? It’s a home-delivery food service with prices that are…less than reasonable for someone on foodstamps. Great food. I’ll buy some of their ice cream and mixed vegetables when I am in a high-roller mood. Couple of times a year.

Ain’t that the truth.

Why can’t women just have political opinions and we accept that? Why do we need to seek some explanation other than that they are thinking human beings, and make up their minds in much the same way as men do?

For what it’s worth women have a long history of political activism. They have been there since the beginning of the labor violent labor struggles. Were talking 19th century, well before woman’s suffrage. They fought side by side with men, and did a lot of organizing and writing. They were threatened, beaten, imprisoned and sometimes killed along with men. I know nothing but feminine leftest faggotry.

Same goes for the civil rights movement. Killed, put in prison, etc. But they couldn’t have been doing this for social justice, because segregation was demeaning and wrong. No only men can have a social conscience, right boys?

The fact is, just about every time there has been a struggle for human rights or social justice, women have been a big part of it, and willing to make equal if not greater sacrifices than men.

The woman’s Lib movement came about in the 1970’s largely because women who were active in the civil rights movement of the 60’s were pissed off. They were pissed off because even though they were working just as hard in the cause, the men gave them the shit jobs like getting coffee and stuffing envelopes. So they stood up for themselves and accomplished a lot.

Now here we are today, some forty years later. Still questioning their motives, still marginalizing them. And the crazy thing is they don’t talk anywhere near as much shit about us as we do of them. You can bet your ass that if we have another social justice issue that needs fighting, the women will be there fighting hard by our side. God knows we need them.

well i apologize for getting it wrong then, but that’s how the statement came across to me in the context of the posts that immediately preceded it, which were discussing child support.

fair enough

This is actually a pretty astute observation. I do love short posts.

If a guy does not want the child he can always sign away his parental control, he can dissapear there are other legal things a guy can do. A woman will become a slave to society , a second class citizen , a walking incubator. Society effectively says she is no longer in control of herself. She is owned by law as an incubating slave. Is that what you want for women?, for a daughter? Once law removes the woman’s right to choose, then what other private civil liberties will be taken? Sorry you can’t marry a black person or a white person, there are just too many of that kind around. Oh and hey anyone with genetic flaws must have surgery to remove their ability to have children. So yea, lets enslave women’s bodies as incubators. Sounds right to me… Do you really want kids to be born from mothers that did not want them? what sort of things will that walking incubator do during pregnancy? Stop her you say??? Well then we have to imprison her til the baby is born to protect that little life… hmm. Sure that is a wonderful society.

Something along those lines, yeah. There ought be a legit, legal way for the father to opt out, as there is for the mother. If there is a right to choose then men should have it too.

Perhaps make the bureaucratic hurdles that much higher each time to help deter serial impregnaters.

I don’t think he can just do that if she demands a paternity test, though. If he doesn’t want rights to the child to begin with, all he need do is refuse to sign the birth certificate, but provided the child is alive, I don’t think that does anything to eliminate his need to pay support.

The right to choose what? I’m really finding myself having to repeat that I am Pro-Choice in this thread a lot. I mainly disagreed with your use of the term, “Slave.” My point is not that abortion should be illegal, it is that if they make abortion illegal, then the only thing anyone is a slave to is not having sex if you REALLY are not prepared to get pregnant or get someone pregnant. I’ve been having sex for quite some time, but before I was married, I was prepared for the possibility that if I fucked up and got someone pregnant before I was ready to impregnate someone that I would have to get two jobs and take care of the situation financially.

If you’re interested in what I want for my daughter, I want my daughter not to have sex before she is married. I also want my son not to have sex before he is married. It will be made very clear to them that if they get pregnant or impregnate someone, (gender-dependent) that they will need to take responsiblity for their actions and will have to find their own place to live as soon as they turn eighteen…if they get pregnant/impregnate someone before that. If they are already eighteen, they will have sixty days to find a place to live for themselves. If they do not get pregnant/impregnate anyone, then they are responsible only to themselves and may live with me for as long as they like for a negligible amount of rent after they turn eighteen and are out of H.S., they will certainly have to be in college, have a job or be looking for a job, though. They will not have to pay anything at all if they are in college or between jobs.

I mean, you can’t have your kids living with you after they have kids, or it just completely creates a culture in the household that makes that acceptable and easy for them to do. Life’s not meant to be easy. If they fall on tough times like a job loss and it’s temporary, that’s fine, but there will be a contract specifying the maximum amount of time they (and their kid[s]) can live with me.

Illegalizing abortion is a far cry from illegalizing interracial marriage, there are any number of Civil Rights laws that prevent that from happening.

The rest of your post is too much of an extreme deviation of the actual subject, especially given that I have stated I am, actually, Pro-Choice for me to want to address. If you really have a huge problem with it, then move to a different State. That’s a boycott, of sorts. Federal funding on many things is population-based and they will also no longer get your tax dollars.

Well, it takes two to get pregnant. I think a guy should wear a condom and a woman who does not want to get pregnant should also use some form of birth control. Never trust the other person, in that regard.

Anyway, I think the suggestion is basically reasonable. She’ll have plenty of advance notice that she is on her own if she does not go through with the abortion as the guy has stated, legally, that he would prefer an abortion. We might get some dissenters on this one, UPF, but it seems pretty fundamentally fair to me.

Sorry, I still have the malware operating that underlines things or shows them in blue, but link to games.

That said, I still wonder why the thread has gone from its title to a discussion of unwanted pregnancies, the right to abort, and a father’s responsibilities.

If a man doesn’t want to impregnate a sexual partner, he should either abstain from sex or wear a condom. (Thanks, Anita, for trying to remind men of their equal responsibilities.) Why should a man expect a woman to have total responsibility in the matter? Guys, there’s an easy answer to unwanted pregnancies–Keep it zipped! Or donate money for research into, and development of, male contraceptives. Or both. Just who is totally responsible for sexual activity? Why expect women to do anything you’re not willing to do, as well.

In the State of WA., the divorced mother, if working, is required to provide for the children in the same proportion of her income as her divorced husband. Washington is an equal opportunity state! If a man is required to give 10% of his income to his child, the woman is required to give 10% of her income to the child, as well. I don’t know about paying college tuition plus living expenses to an unmarried mother, but I find that excessive and wonder why any state would do that, since States’ tax money is a large portion of human services. I suggest learning how Federal tax monies are allocated to the states before making any further comment. If any state provides welfare money for both living expenses and college tuition, just how much of it comes from Federal taxes and how much comes from State taxes. Either way, it’s up to the citizens of the State, through their representatives, to change the way the money is allocated.

What does being a woman have to do with leftist ‘liberalism’–nothing. Just as many women are right-wing conservatives.

Just another reminder, guys, keep it down and covered rather than bare and raised. Otherwise, you share the consequences.