Arcturus Descending
“There is the more intimate kind of sharing, which is more profound and meaningful and satisfying, which allows us silly humans to feel connected on a much deeper level, where people may see us at our core, a place where we actually live and breathe that is not shared with many. Without this, many go hungry and loneliness creeps in.”
Our desire to talk is strongly related to our want of feeling connected. This connection then becomes a new topic of conversation - in what way do you like to feel connected?
And within a society obsessed with the notion – and upkeep – of a personal self and the freedoms related to that self, one needs to keep propagating it: self survival! If needed, indeed even through silly, void conversations.
“there is talk and there is talk”
“I intuit that at times it is the sharing, the intimacy, even the every day run-of-the-mill conversations which can bring us to a further understanding of what those desires are. I think that half of the time we do not even realize them.”
I think you might be correct. I would say that we have many desires but our desire to talk is closer to the primordial. By bouncing topics of conversation off each other we are then able to come to realize our desires - providing we can filter out the noise of an overproduced social reality - in which case meditating on interactions is a useful tool to separate out ourselves from our social interaction.
“We can’t ask the right questions if we do not know what we are about just as we cannot ask the right questions, philosophically speaking, in a forum, unless we have an idea of what IS and what we are looking for, to know.”
“We” how ever is not limited to just “oneself” but a group or many groups of people. To feel complete as an individual is what most people are trying to achieve one way or the other. One of my friends once said to me “within each one of us is a little bit of dictator”, immediately I laughed but I do see some truth in it - his perception of reality.
More than you probably can guess - harmony on the other hand would rely on the pair of us coming to a complete understanding on the topic - given subjective reality we could never truly know whether that has been achieved or not. Is red the same to you as it is to me? How could we know?
The simplest words spoken to make us feel connected: You are my friend. I understand. I get where you are coming from. et cetera.
Never complete but hopefully sufficient.