So you’re on board with “pro-life” = “pro-death” because it’s accepted, therefore it must not be disingenuous? The definition for moderator that you’re using is synonymous with “cop” and completely redundant. The “moderator” label is a holdover from televised debates where moderators actually moderated rather than played the role of police, but the practice online has morphed from the old role of the moderator to that of a cop, which I feel is counterproductive and evidenced by your frustrations.
I feel like you’re making a critique of a practice and disguising it as a critique of language use.
Well, it’s both functional and a potential George Carlin skit. You admitted yourself that the status quo is not working and that you don’t have time nor desire to “play cop”, so teach people to argue properly and pass the torch to some regulars in an effort to create a self-sustaining organism. You’re good with people, so teach people to be as you are.
Discussion moderator
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
[i]A discussion moderator or debate moderator is a person whose role is to act as a neutral participant in a debate or discussion, holds participants to time limits and tries to keep them from straying off the topic of the questions being raised in the debate. Sometimes moderators may ask questions intended to allow the debate participants to fully develop their argument in order to ensure the debate moves at pace.
In panel discussions commonly held at academic conferences, the moderator usually introduces the participants and solicits questions from the audience. On television and radio shows, a moderator will often take calls from people having differing views, and will use those calls as a starting point to ask questions of guests on the show. Perhaps the most prominent role of moderators is in political debates, which have become a common feature of election campaigns. The moderator may have complete control over which questions to ask, or may act as a filter by selecting questions from the audience.[/i] en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discussion_moderator
That seems less synonymous with a “cop” who lurks in the background handing out citations or executions.