I want to talk with you before you take that final step and then it will be too late. Please, Mommy, before you take my life away, remember, everything is possible! I want you to know that I want to live! Please do not throw me away! How can I be less to you than your most priceless treasure? Someone is waiting to help us. Everything will be all right. All we need to do is have faith and courage, Mommy. Just trust - and you will be given the strength – to love me and to care for me. We are never alone! There are so many people who want to help us – who will help us! All we have to do is believe and reach out to them. How can this be the only answer, Mommy? There are other answers and other ways in.
I am your flesh and blood – I am your baby – I belong to you. I DESERVE TO LIVE! It doesn’t really matter how you think I came into your life. I have been given to you as a gift. You were chosen to be mine – from out of the Universe.
I don’t think you really want to separate us. Please - I am begging you - don’t listen to those people who tell you that this is the only way for us. Don’t even listen to your own thoughts. Listen to what is in your heart, Mommy. Your heart right now is waiting to speak to you –just listen. My little heart is beating so close to yours - though you may not hear it or feel it. My precious little body – perhaps so infinitesimally small you can hold me in your hand, is waiting for the day when my Mommy - You - will take me in her arms for the first time. Please, just close your eyes and be in that moment when you will hold me and look into my eyes for the first time.
Please, don’t let them rip us apart! I don’t care what they tell you. If you do this, it will hurt me so much and I will be so afraid. Mommy, can you even begin to imagine the pain you may live with for the rest of your life, missing me and wanting me?
Please – don’t let it be too late for us. Take me home with you right Now. I love you, Mommy.
´Better a letter to God asking why he put you in the womb of someone who does not want a child.
Or a letter to yourself, if you had a choice which womb to choose.
Arc as a mom that has been in such a position, I appreciate that letter. It resonates with the war that occurs within. doubts , fears , pain, suffering. When you know you carry life within and you have options to not carry it, your mind fights and wars with itself. Should I , Can I How will I care for this life ? Especially if there is that chance you will have to do it alone. Unplanned babies are terrifying to a single pregnant woman or girl. Is she strong enough, good enough financially able, mentally able… To bring life into this world and do it with confidence is not easy. I am all for the woman having options because I have walked that road. I have seen women that feel it is morally right to keep that child but, not really want it or love it, so the kid ends up abused or messed up. Not all women should be mothers. Not all children should be born. Death would be the most merciful gift to a fetus that will more than likely be unloved , abused, starved to death or die of a painful desease. To me a child is a gift that needs to be loved and nurtured, its a gift to its species not just its parents. Not all humans are capable of being what a parent should be so there must be options.
I have many, many times, moresillystuff, asked myself just about that same question and pondered the same, too, before I realized that it was no God who does that…but I still in all asked the question many times. And the bottom line for me is that I am just glad that I am here…and who I am is because of everything that I had to go through and I wouldn’t really change a thing because of it. It simply is what it is and so how can it be otherwise.
I have transcended many things in my life, and the bottom line for me, is that I still have a life, it was not taken away from me…I was able to become reconciled with those statements you posited…just as we all become reconciled with what it is we must face…I still had a journey that was mine. As long as there is life, the possibilities are endless and who are we to decide someone else’s fate when our own is in our own hands, for the most part.
and God “puts” us nowhere. we are where we are either out of Love or irresponsibility towards one another.
Yes. You just said it yourself, Kris. A child is still a “gift” whether someone wants it or not. It is a gift to the world. And there are other ways out or ways in, but we choose to take the easiest.
An unborn child is still a human life but yet we make our possessions, our favorite books, our favorite addictions, drugs, liquor…more important than that human life.
I wonder where the world would be today if mothers of yesterday did away with their children who have done so much to further us in the world…Jonah Salk, Eli Whitney, Einstein, Edison, Schweitzer, Martin Luther King, all of the artists and the musicians, the poets…ad infinitum.
What we do is more a convenience because we simply don’t have the patience to wait…to give the child up to a family who could really want to give that child love. We enjoy the ride and then we choose to get off.
Yes, and I understand women’s rights. We are so free to choose what we want and don’t want these days…even human life…a voice who cannot speak for itself is lost because such little value is placed on human life and more is placed on individual freedom.
I wonder what all of those unborn children, if they could have spoken from the womb, what they would have said to us?
It’s a shitty guilt trip you’re using to get emotionally distraught women to do what your priest wants women to do. There’s no logic or reason to it. It’s bullshit propaganda from the mind of a sickly Christian. If it is ever read by a woman considering abortion, it will hurt her and make her feel guilty, when there is absolutely no reason why she should. “I” didn’t exist as “I” while in my dad’s sack. I didn’t exist as I as a zygote. I’m not going around feeling guilty whenever I bust a nut outside of a vagina, and even if I did which I absolutely do not, then I wouldn’t be a gargantuan prick about it by making my guilt infectious. And I certainly wouldn’t call this literary-born disease “art.”
I wonder if they took a poll how many women who have had abortions would say “if only”. If only they had taken a little more time to reconsider their options. Many women actually do wish they had taken more time and these same women say that they would not have made the decision that they did. And the guilt and the pain may be there. In reading a letter like this, yes, you are probably right, someone might feel guilty and they would probably suffer because of it. But in reality, what they are feeling they have already felt. And in a strange sort of way, this letter might actually make a person feel “less alone” because it gives rise to the reality and validity of her suffering… knowing that people are aware of and understanding what she is going through.
It is your perception that a woman considering abortion should not feel guilt and that is your perception. Reading this would make her feel guilty. At the same time, she might reconsider. Isn’t it our conscience, our sense of right and wrong, that makes us take a step back to reconsider what we are about to do or not to do. And you would take guilt away from a human being and the opportunity to “see” just for the sole purpose that she shouldn’t feel guilty!!! What kind of a world do you think we would have if no one ever felt guilt for the things they did and had the opportunity to change because of that?
Of course, guilt in and of itself serves no purpose unless it leads to a conscious awareness of something. Otherwise, all guilt is, in that case, is not accepting responsibility for our actions and nothing more than a pity party.
You are certainly entitled to your perceptions but don’t you think they may be off a bit. You say…
Wanting to give a woman more of an opportunity to really “see” what it is she is about to do before she makes that final choice is not “bullshit propaganda” and it is not about manipulation. There are many atheists who would not consider abortion and there are many Christians, so-called “sickly” or not who would consider and have had abortions. And this is not only a religious choice, it is a question of ethics and morality though the laws call it murder after a child is born but just a few months before it’s legal to take that life. The heart is beating for months but the life is not considered “human”. At whatever biological stages a human being’s development is, it is still a human being, an unborn child and worthy of protection.
You are a philosopher and yet at the same time you see no logic or reason for causing someone to question and to doubt the validity of their thoughts, feelings and actions that they are going to take that is both life changing to them and to an unborn child? And it is just about raising more conscious awareness before the decision is made.
If what you wanted was this, your letter was a poor choice. because you are not that fetus. You have no right to put words in its mouth. No fetus could write that letter. And that letter is a guilt trip. A better approach, if your intentions are really what they say they are, are to speak
one adult to another.
And say what you said in this post.
Even a cursory knowledge of psychology would let you know this is less likely to cause guilt than your approach.
Better yet, it is more honest. You are an adult.
Further notice your assumption that women do not consider such things.
“I am your flesh and blood – I am your baby – I belong to you. I DESERVE TO LIVE!”
You are not politely and straight forwardly asking women to reconsider their choice to abort. You are not giving women perspective they don’t have. You do not and cannot have perspective they don’t have. You don’t have any arguments for your position that a zygote is alive and a human being. Alls you have is your religious dogma, which doesn’t even have a base in scripture, by the way. Your position has as it’s origins the whims of priests.
I’m really curious what gave the fetus the kind of consciousness to know it was a separate being from its mother
and then the language to start lobbying.
While I completely agree that abortion is not a good option it still must be. If Birth control was 100% effective and was used worldwide, abortion would be gone. A gift is not always welcome, it comes at times with unbearable burdens, impossible demands and it can be very intimidating. An aborted fetus is preferred over a baby dead in a dumpster or starving or beaten… such pain these babies feel for such an extended time is far worse then the death of abortion done right. There are the abortions that make even the strongest vomit. These people that incompetantly do these things are subhuman. They in my mind are lower than any creature on earth. But they exist because there is that niche to be filled.
Sadly it must be filled because sometimes a girl or woman is backed so far into a corner there is no other way. So she must trust in someone to help her. If the medical field and the Govt’ keep forcing women into this corner then is she to fully blame? Uneducated poor and conrered by religion and hormones some women lose their ability to be rational to choose with courage, to stand. And so we must as women that are in better positions reach out to give more options to fight for more options for those in a lousy place. To prevent horrors that occur. This would include fighting for healthier laws, better Birth control , free birth control and free doctors that are truly proffessional and certified. Until these are done we must accept the sadness of abortion rather than the misery and grief of more unloved and abused children on an already overstressed system. I fully agree with you Arc, I just cannot abide by it for the sake of the little ones that are born into a horrible short existence. I have said this before and as cold as it is I must stand by it: Better a hundred aborted fetuses than one brutalized infant. Can you imagine an infant looking into the eyes of an adult as it is beaten starved or worse? Your letter to the mother is correct, but, see past the unborn to the born. The eyes and the heart never forget the paingiver.
I do not know why women tend to be so emotional about this abortion issue. In my most depressed moments, I have even pondered why my mother didn’t do it with me in the first place…
I have oftened wondered what the economy and societies would be if life were truly respected. Respect means to not give life too. To give life when there is no want or capablity to raise a child creates social and economic issues that snake through the world. Is bearing a child a right or priviledge? Is giving life more important than nurturing life? It sickens my husband and I every time we see or hear of neglected or abused or murdered children, perhaps because we could only have one when we wanted a housefull is the reason we get sickened and angry. A fetus feels pain for a minute or two, compared to the infant that is abused daily or left alone or handed over to an uncaring system that has too many children already. To me one is much more merciful then the other. Respect and love means doing the hard thing even if society says its not right.
