I do not make you, nor anyone else, feel anything. You do it to yourself. As the ancient Stoics pointed out, it is all in our interpretation of what happened …the painful emotions follow from there, (as do, alternatively, the positive ones. Study up on “the ABCs of practical therapy for thinking people” [and the D and the E as well.] Dr. Albert Ellis has explained it in many of his writings.
To save readers the trouble of looking it up, I shall spell it out here: how to keep your emotional balance (when all others are losing theirs…) and how not to get insulted. Here are seven paragraphs I scribbled, based upon what I learned about how to avoid emotional pain - and how to get over it when you have some - from my personal friend, the late Al Ellis.
THE ABCs OF PRACTICAL THERAPY FOR THINKING PEOPLE
Here are the ABCs of it: A stands for the activating event [say, for example some words that one has just read on a computer screen]; C is the emotional consequence [one is offended, or up-tight, or in some way hung up over it.]
However, in between A and C is B. What does the “B” symbolize?
B stands for ‘Belief system’ (a person’s value structure; one’s self-identity, one’s principles.), and it is B that causes C, not A. The knock on the door, the screaming, the words on that monitor – those are examples of an activating event. Be aware, however, that the activating event, A, did NOT cause the painful emotion; your beliefs about it did.
B may include one’s philosophy of life; it is how one interprets an event, due to one’s beliefs about it.
If one has illogical beliefs they likely will result in negative or painful emotions (such as depressing oneself, feeling very depressed -even to the point of considering suicide).
The next two steps, the therapeutic ones, are abbreviated D and E.
D represents Disputing. Use the Socratic dialectic on one’s own thinking, the way Socrates would raise questions. We are to dispute our illogical views, and severely question them. Will they stand up? If one successfully shows that his/her thinking was NOT as sound as one at first thought they were - and one rejects the foolish thinking, then E happens.
E is the new emotion, a positive, gratifying one (e.g., pleasure, joy, serenity, gratitude, hopefulness, etc.)
Those are the ABCs, and the D and E, of rational-behavioral, emotive psychotherapy. It can be self-administered IF one is aware of them and is a reflective, thoughtful person.
James Saint, drussus, and even lizbeth lately are concerned about those who take advantage of the gullible, those who appear kind on the surface but are inwardly plotting to betray people, those who manipulate and use people for their own self-centered ends, the con-artists, and, in general, those who commit evil acts.
I came upon this quotation from Phil McGraw, TVs “Dr. Phil,” who just published a new book with the title LIFE CODE. Here is the excerpt:
The “bad guys” can be sneaky about taking what belongs to you, whether it be your mate, or your money." **
He is referring to back-stabers, abusers, impostors, takers, exploiters or the reckless. He lumps the group all together under the single concept “BAITER,” as a handy way of referring to all such “bad guys.” {He, and I too, hold that there are no evil people, just those who commit evil acts. ]
{Such conduct is that which defiles or disvalues an individual - either by means of a person, a thing, or an idea; the act in some way trangresses the dignity of another, fails to give honor and respect, fails - in other words - to Intrinsically value the individual …which is precisely what Ethics directs us to do.}
**“The key” he says, “is that once you start to pay attention instead of naively trusting, they are pretty easy to spot. Once a BAITER knows you are on to them, they will quickly move on.”
So a rule for ‘winning the game of life’ is: Don’t be naive. Be skeptical. Trust but verify. Know the tricks and the cons. Be aware. Be mindful.
[And see the definition of the “realist” in the manuscript LIVING THE GOOD LIFE, which is the first link in the signature below. It’s in the section on Optimism and Pessimism.]
Some people can be skeptical about some things and still be naive about others. One needs experience to develop skepticism and the experience often comes from having been ‘taken in’ by the ‘baiter,’ sometimes more than once. Children aren’t natural skeptics and some are well into adulthood before they learn not to ‘trust’ other people.
Plus, even some adults (like me) always meet new people openly and honestly and expect the new people to be the same. It’s hard not to. It’s also hard for me to question everything all the time. I think that would drive me absolutely garbanzo beans! Fortunately, as one matures, it’s easier to face disappointment.
Just saying. 
BTW, I’m a well-educated (MA in English from the U of Nebr.) adult.