Are friends liabilities?

How should people view friends? In an equitable manner with efficacious quid pro quo expectations? Some friends can be viewed as ‘high maintenance’ due to their overbearing need to control that friendship. What should one do in having such a relationship with another?

“I scratch your back you scratch mine contract” sugarcoated in gifts and hugs

True friends are motivated by love and bysomething I’ll call altruism, for lack of a better word. That said, true friends are few and far between. IMO most people are more aquaintances than friends, people with just enough common interests or goals and geographical proximity to make associating expedient. Those types of relationships are based on expediency more than deep affection.

I have little patience for ‘high maintenance’ people and those who need to run the show all the time.

Lol and how many friendships do you have that follow those guidelines?

I find this to be true. Most of those ‘type of friends’ I have are email friends. This may sound odd, but they are the most satisfactory of my acquaintances due to the low maintenance situation involved with them.

It depends how you define friend. I think a lot of, maybe most, people would define friends to be assets. By definition then, the answer is no. Friends are assets.

If you have a friend you don’t like anymore, you can either try to resolve your differences or part ways. Some friends are worth trying to work things out with and some aren’t.

Only if they get really pissed and don’t pay the bill.

Yes, they are.

A friend is using you to advance him/herself.

Your friend does not care for you like you care for yourself. Your friend would not die for you.

Only your father dies for you. Only your mother dies for you.

Only your brother dies for you. Only your sister dies for you.

Hmm…some ineteresting insights. Maybe the word ‘friend’ should be reevaluated.

Why would you die for your brother but not your friend?

You tell me why.

I woundnt make the distinction. You did.

If my friend is not my brother (or sister), then he is no friend of mine.

He is using me to further himself. My brother does the same, but we are bound-by-blood.

Your duty and loyalty is to blood? The whole us and them thing. I understand.

My duty and loyalty is to self-mastery. Nobody else can offer me more than what I already have.