No, I don’t mean you, PoR. I mean the rest of you. Irregardless of your personna here, how do you come across with people “in real life”? Are you a wallflower, meek and milquetoasty? Do you fascinate and intrigue people? Do you hold them as those hypnotized, eating right out of the palm of your hand? Are you the kind of person that just bristles at the thought of interpersonal contact?
How close is your real personality to your “ILP character”? I’m curious- please chime in with your boasts or laments.
I’m pretty funny in real life, but I have a tendancy to tell too many jokes, or to never shut up. I use rhetoric to fascinate people, but it’s usually just in light fun.
I’m fairly charismatic I’d say, some of that comes from being the 6’7 college athlete I am
I think you are wrong. A question such as how close are the real you to the cyber you, would prompt some fullon introspectivity from Marge. I guess that’s not a particular easy task and everybody is kind tired on that. The most probable explaination here however, remains to be the obtrusiveness of the questions asked. Privacy of many ILPers are probably their foremost concern, if you take what GCT and moonoq listed descriptions for granted, for instance if Satyr or Xanderman was really a dollfucker, then he wouldn’t be joining us here. As for myself, my whole life is being spent on knowing Uniqor. So sorry, I’m simply unable to anwser the question in any satisfactory manner.
Um, I didn’t ask anyone if their last date was inflatable. I simply asked whether or not they were charismatic in person. Frankly, given that one poster described his premarriage life right down to the cum stains in his sweats, I didn’t think that was too personal.
Besides, most people here love to talk about their favorite subject: themselves.
However that’s what comes to their minds first. So they shy away fast. Sounds unreasonable I know, but it at least shows modesty of knwing shame.
Wrong again. That’s what I’ve been saynig all along, that nobody gives himself out here devoid of excessive ornataion or undeserving decoration. Nobody. Not even when good old aspacia talks about her succeful son so passionately, in which she likes to add a few rather unfair comparision between her son and herself, just to stress on the glory of his achievements, or to tell you something like “my poverty and failure has now been redempted and paid for in this way”. Trust no one, especially when they talk about themselves.
This is not a jab at anyone here, but perhaps most of the charismatic people don’t really use internet forums in the frequency that we do because they are naturally drawn to more RL social activities…?
I’m sure you’re right,Gobbo. But here we are anyway. I still think everyones favorite subject is themselves. Let’s talk about you- so what do you think of me? Even though we hide beyond nics and pseudonyms, there’s still enough ego in our ILP Characters to get in fights, for example.
Am I the only one here that likes to speculate what other ILPhs might be like? Would I like you or instantly despise you if we met? Gobbo seems like he’s pretty much a normal college guy, for instance. I could see playing a pickup game with him (and him takin’ me to the rack, laughing all the way- I suck at BBall). He’s probably charismatic. I’d bet Shy is pretty charismatic, too. In her line of work you probably have to be outgoing to be successful. Tab & Thirst seem like the guys who’d be wearing lampshades and Zeroxing their butts at the company Xmas party. I could go on.
I am just wondering if we’re all social misfits or average people who like ILP. It doesn’t seem like a threatening question to me.
No I don’t see it as threatening at all. I mean, chances are none of us will ever meet so who cares what people know about your life? It’s almost like sitting down beside someone on the bus and having a chat with them. I see ILP as a sort of world bus.
There are the people you can immediately notice as the funny ones, or the attractive/charismatic ones, but there are also the people who are underneath if you put in the time to find it.
‘Putting in the Time’ is why we’re here I think. Phaedrus is right, I am just a average college guy… I get tired of dealing with the alias’ people put forth in reality so I turn to what we see as ‘fake’ personas on the net, but in cyberreality, they are so much more real than what goes on in real life. Yeah we exclude certain info here and there, Detrop makes up stories about killing contractors, but think about how much bullshit you dish out in real life… I don’t know about you guys, but I do it alot… .then again being immersed in the hip hop/b-ball culture, it’s hard not to.
Some people are guarded, and I understand I can’t compare my life to anyone elses… but i think Phaedrus is right. Everyone -wants- to open up, because in the end that’s all we have.
I enjoy a certain level of anonimity, but I don’t much reason to lie. As Gobbo says, the odds of meeting any of you in person are infinitesimally remote, so why bother?
This issue of who we are in “public” and who we
are here is a interesting one. Imp seems to me
is actually the most likely of us, to be most nice
and polite and say, yes mam and no sir. That is often
how this works. those we think are the complete jerks
actually are the nicer ones in person. For the most part
people want to have an image of being nice and friendly,
whither they are or not is not important, they want that image.
But the chances of most of us meeting anyone else is slim,
so we can act “out of character” as it were. So the flaming little
wars that occur here would never occur in a situation such as
a pub or restaurant if we were to meet in person. People want
to have a image of being nice. But the rules get tweaked here,
due to the anonymous nature of the net.
I think i am as arrogant and provoking as i am here…
I know for a fact that I’m the type of person who is either loved or hated but rarely ignored… people seem to react strongly to me… because i tend to put myself out there 100% all the time… for better or worse… and i love a good fight… verbal or otherwise…
Also… I’m grate fun at parties… I drink allot… and make passes at every available and sufficiently attractive woman until one of them takes the bait…
I’m in good shape physicaly… I’m a genius according to all IQ tests i’ve taken… and financially i’m doing very well for someone my age and with my background… My arrogance is my only flaw as far as I am concerned… but even that has it’s uses…
oh and i do love to talk about myself… as I’m the most interresting person I know…
In real life I am extremely, almost freakishly, charismatic. I have the ability to talk about anything with anybody at any time and have a knack for making people laugh.
Seriously, I think that this is because of my communist leanings. I think that that the lady slicing meat at the supermarket is just as valuable as the head of some company, or a guru. I’m interested in you. This also has to do with the fact that I understand the existential horror felt by many people, since no one pays them any attention. Attention is “money” if you know what I mean.
I also enjoy hearing about the mundane interests of regular folks. I used to love listening to a friend talk about his lawnmower collection, and what he was going to do to them. This provides a nice break for me as I tend to focus on difficult philosophical issues or worse yet, worry about them.
However, there is something about me that attracts people when words aren’t even spoken, women love me, children will come up and give me a hug once in awhile (always, always black kids!!!), and I get along with animals.
Some of this scares my wife as she believes that it makes me stick out in a rather dangerous city, but on the flip side that can be good too.
I’m not very amusing because I like to have meaningful – thought prevoking conversations… Wait, I can be ‘fun’ if you like absolute insanity. I spend the bulk of my time saying “POOOP,… HHAUHAUAHA…BOLULUBAAUA!” because there isn’t anything real to say, but other times I say real things… all depends… god damnit I dunno.
I have good people skills. It’s not too hard for me to make friends… but I’m so sensative that I can’t handle being friends with basterds [maybe that makes me good. I’m anti-basterd].
I mean the rest of you. Irregardless of your personna here, how do you come across with people “in real life”? Are you a wallflower, meek and milquetoasty? Do you fascinate and intrigue people? Do you hold them as those hypnotized, eating right out of the palm of your hand? Are you the kind of person that just bristles at the thought of interpersonal contact?
I simply asked whether or not they were charismatic in person. Frankly, given that one poster described his premarriage life right down to the cum stains in his sweats, I didn’t think that was too personal.
