Balance

[Just_A_Gal]

Ive made an amazing self-discovery and also a stronger reason to believe in balance.

It all started when i started to think deeply about why i admire a man named “Sean”.
Because there hasn’t been a day in my life, after i got to know him, that i haven’t though of him at least once.
So i searched online the psychology of likeing a person…the psychology is that its not the person your in love with rather what they symbolize to you and represents. So i though Sean to me symbolized for the most part well off in life and wise. So i wanted to be like him and be a part of him to be part of his lifestyle. Every time i would do something i would think to myself
“is this what he would do” or “would he like this”
i was becoming obsessed with changing myself and being more mature and wise like him.

WHEN i realized i was afraid to mature because they supposedly matured and when they mature they loose their innocence.
Innocence= ignorance= unconditional happiness
I wanted happiness like he had and wanted to be mature.

When i realized that in order to mature i needed to accept i was immature and impatient
maturity takes its time and i needed to accept it and let it be.
The i though that when their irony there is a balance
like in order to mature i had to accept i was immature
…like how love is the only emotion that functions with though and not pure feelings.
Its a balance between thought and feelings …witch led me to think…

HOW DOSE BALANCE EXIST IN A SOCIETY?
Right and wrong is perspective therefor all is gray because black and white, wrong and right don’t make sense…gray just means different. Like in a rainbow all the colors exist thanks to the others and none could exist without the other. They are all different and together they can make white and black…but one color can’t make white or black.
Just how people are different, they all together have a general perspective or “good” and “bad”…that though led to…

WHY IS BALANCE NECESSARY IN THE UNIVERSE
Then i though…without no balance there is not life and death…
therefore no physical change,
therefore no molecular change,
therefore no motion,
and maybe no time…
continuity of nothing and everything in a molecular state of stillness there would be no air or liquid…
no energy to change the molecules from different states of matter.
Therefore without balance there would be no energy and the law of conservation of energy would be invalid.
But energy is present and cannot be destroyed and neither can balace in the universe.

Thanks to “Sean” for this chain of thought.:3<3

[anon]

Do you think maturing necessarily means losing your innocence? I think it’s possible to maintain innocence while being or becoming mature. But then maybe it depends on what “innocence” means to you. I’m not thinking of it as lack of experience, but as maintaining a fresh attitude - the ability to not get bogged down by preconceptions - not being imprisoned by one’s past.

Just a thought, Just a Gal. Anway, thanks for a refreshing post.

[Ingenium]

Just A Gal, I appreciated how you wrote about your admiration for someone that you’ve encountered who seems wise. And I liked how you decided to go deeper with it and explore what the admiration means for you, then come up with some new questions to contemplate, about innocence, maturity, wisdom. I think you have the makings of a “Sean”, which is probably what led to your noticing those fine things about him in the first place. Think about that: perhaps some day in the future a young person will experience that same sense of admiration for the wisdom YOU’VE acquired.

As far as being ‘afraid to mature’, I actually think the fear is of the unknown, not about maturing per se. I define ‘maturity’ as an ability to apply reason and learning from past experience when you’re developing a point of view about something or making choices. And I’d suggest that innocence is one of those very vague sort of terms that means different things to different people. For example, it has been used as a way to designate women, especially younger ones, as childlike and ignorant as a means of controlling their behavior. So I have to admit that I get suspicious when I come across such a designation.

Also, it’s probably rare that there’s some explicit point in time in a person’s life where they come to a realization that they aren’t ‘innocent’ anymore, although some people may experience life-altering events that make them think so. But even if there is, I think the idea of ‘innocence lost’ as something negative is kind of silly when you think about it. I agree with anon (what a surprise) that one can maintain an approach to life that is open to finding a certain wonder in things in this world (sometimes) but is still solidly based on reason and a realistic, intelligent assessment of one’s life experiences. I dunno…perhaps you have to first come to a sense that you’ve lost the innocence to gain the necessary insight to see that it’s not a big deal.