Becoming a better person

ended6 · March 3, 2015, 2:11pm

Hiya guys, Ive decided i need to make some changes in life, personally, i think i struggle with empathy and caring about other people’s feelings, stuff like that etc…Just wanted to know if you guys can help me? thanks

ended6 · March 4, 2015, 9:03am

Stop being paranoid, guys! I’m being serious…

Mr_Reasonable · March 4, 2015, 9:11am

Ethics is pretty basic really unless you’re trying to justify some crazy shit…then people try and make it complicated. Live up to your aptitudes, don’t harm others or the world around you. Pretty easy. Give or take a few details, that should make you a better person.

Lev_Muishkin · March 4, 2015, 10:52am

I think you might need to say more.

turtle · March 4, 2015, 12:03pm

mannequin----please be very careful what you say here…

AutSider · March 4, 2015, 11:23pm

Pfffft. Your avatar isn’t nearly colorful enough, not to mention it needs more flowers. Just one bible quote? Not even a fanatic. Praying in church? You’re supposed to pray EVERYWHERE, ALL THE TIME. Your only recourse of action is to pray and beg God for forgiveness [-o<

Therefore, I logically deduce with my impeccable intellect that you are faking it!

ended6 · March 5, 2015, 11:30am

God damn it! got me

Arcturus_Descending · March 7, 2015, 8:50pm

Well, that would depend. Do you think there is still hope for you?

ended6 · May 1, 2015, 5:45pm

I dunno, there might be…I hope there is, I’m hanging on to life with my pinky finger, almost slipping…I just feel like nobody understands me, ok yeah I use to try my mothers clothes on when I was a teen, but so, it made me feel like i can finally accept myself for once…can’t I just feel special once in myself? I mean really, just look at me, just being intentionally vulgar all the time and crying out for help, I clearly dont mean any of those things, but how else will I draw attention to my gender indentity issues? Please help me!! Should I have surgery and get a vagina, I would really like one…

humunculus · May 2, 2015, 3:37am

There’s your problem. If you have empathy and actually care, it’s not just stuff like that etc - it’s central. If you don’t care, why struggle?

Make up you mind! Do you want to make your life better? If so, you need to identify what’s wrong with it and then come up with a plan to fix those problems, one at a time.

zinnat · May 2, 2015, 5:31am

I think that i can. I have said this three times already to three different persons. Here it is-

Before anything else, the first thing to learn is to establish direct interaction between conscious and subconscious mind. Here is very simple method of it and this will help in many other ways too. I have said this twice before in different threads too.

All you need is 20-25 min in 24 hours for this.

When you go to the bed, do not sleep at once. Devote roughly half an hour to yourself daily. When you go to the bed in the night, after finishing all your work, Just lay down calmly for some seconds there on the bed and close your eyes. Let some breaths go in and out smoothly then try to remember what you did in the whole day from waking up till the bed. Start from the event one, whether important or not. Then try to remember your state of mind while doing different actions, like whether you had a fight with your boss or employees, love or quarrel with you spouse, etc. Go in the details and try to see the motives behind your actions, examine your frame of mind doing a particular action, and, also try to judge whether your actions and intentions were right or not, and then sleep.

That is all you have to do.

But, please understand that though it looks very simple, but it is not. It would be somewhat thrilling for some initial days, but, sooner or later, that moment would come when your mind would refuse to stick to it and tells you quietly that let us bunk it today. And, if you fall in the trap, it would argue more profoundly next day for avoiding it by telling you that you have some more important things to think about, so why engage in this useless exercise. And, if you make a gap of some days, then you have to start all over again.

Just remember two things.
Never open your eyes doing so otherwise that system would not be activated and eat slightly less at dinner to avoid falling asleep immediately.

Secondly, this has nothing to do with any religion/God or any kind of faith. It is purely a mental exercise and everyone can do that, whether theist or atheist.

Try this and see what happens!

with love,
sanjay

Arcturus_Descending · May 2, 2015, 1:38pm

First, mannequin, I want to tell you that I’ve decided to let you cleanse yourself - not that i can actually “let you” do that but it is for you to do or not to do as you so wish. So, no more images of mannequin put out in the rain though rain is wonderful.
I’m beginning to see the error[s] of my ways - or more so, the continuing errors of my ways. We often focus on the work necessary to be done on others because it keeps us from seeing the work necessary to be done on ourselves.

I feel the same way too sometimes and that can drag someone down. But for me the important thing is to try to understand myself more and more. It’s really a never-ending, sometimes agonizing process. Look at it this way, mannequin. If you don’t often understand yourself (and do you) how can we expect others to? The thing to do is just to focus on coming to understand ourselves.

Your pinky finger huh? Well, that just won’t do. Better to just whip those legs up and around a strong tree branch and dangle from there til you’re stronger.

But if you do mean all of those things - well, to thine own self be true. But there are always more options than one, you know.

Well, if you think that that would add to the quality of your life, then go for it. After all, it IS YOUR LIFE to lead.
If you do go to Holland, be sure to smell the tulips. There are all kinds of flowers in this world and they all have their own kind of beauty and scent.

Amorphos · May 2, 2015, 1:59pm

mannequin

Everything you are is perfectly natural and everything which suggests the world is better than you is a lie. Carry on and get a vagina if you want.

Arcturus_Descending · May 2, 2015, 2:01pm

See, this is what i’ve always liked about you.

Amorphos · May 2, 2015, 4:21pm

glad there was something.

Arcturus_Descending · May 2, 2015, 5:30pm

I have never believed in throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

AutSider · May 2, 2015, 5:39pm

I can’t stop laughing, this is so precious.

Arcturus_Descending · May 2, 2015, 5:43pm

Which part of it?
Anyway, as for the last line, wouldn’t that be true or at least subjectively so?

Lev_Muishkin · May 3, 2015, 9:41pm

Become a better person in two easy steps.

decide what you mean by better person.
Do that!

Arcturus_Descending · May 4, 2015, 2:22pm

Oh, Lev, I don’t know. What that just called to mind was: “Hell is paved with good intentions”.

After deciding that, one just might “hopefully” change his/her mind, depending on what “better’” means to him/her.

Don’t you think that’s a process though - good intentions don’t always lead to transformation, do they?
What more is necessary, do You think?