what good does blame do…
example-----------a bad carpenter blames his tools
Makes people feel better by convincing them they haven’t actually fucked up because it was something, or someone else.
A bad carpenter knows he/she is bad at what they do. Its not to make them feel better, its to make others/clients trust them. Its not blame in that incident, it is excuse.
A driver borrowing another’s car thinking it is a safe car to drive can blame the car or owner if an accident occurs due to the car malfunctioning. Its an excuse as well but, it does make all but, the owner feel better.
Blame infers guilt and defers the focus for correction, thus “blame-shifting”. But quite often impetuous blaming of the inanimate or most simple-mindedly correlated object or person is a release of repressed frustration and not necessarily taken seriously by the blamer.
Blaming others or things usually hides the indictment of blaming oneself.
and if you are blaming others you are diverting attention to the hardest thing…looking at your own demons
On the other side of the coin, some people blame themselves when it is clearly a fault of others or things that things go awry.
My demons are stirred up by the negativity of others.
of course…it gives you another chance to look at your own demons
In causal terms blame doesn’t mean anything, but in subjective terms the person being led by causal effects is the only one who can really do anything about it. ergo behaviour needs to be addressed.
So instead of ‘person A’ = x,y,z [killer, rapist etc] ~ the function of transient acts and behaviours; person ‘A’ is suffering from x,y,z, i.e. No one is guilty.
=D>
Usually done in situations where the blamer feels there is a blame to go around and he’s making sure it doesn’t fall on his shoulders.