Boredom and loneliness are awful mood states that can lead to good and bad behavior. I am thinking right now about all the trouble people get into when they don’t recognize that it is just old B/L.
But for many, that recognition doesn’t change a thing.
If anything, they proceed to self-destruct.
On the other hand, others begin to recreate and build as a result of flowing through that. We can either bcome a shipwreck or a rebuilt ship. 
good stuff arc.
i will bet there are a lot of bored and lonely people on ILP.
I plan to become b and l soon so I’ll fit in again. Sometimes I get bored when I don’t have enough to do at work.
jonquil at work sometimes here: 
almost never bored, but often lonely.
hey turtle, what kind of trouble did you have in mind?
when i get bored and/or lonely i cant stand it.
so how do you get out of it? do you cause trouble?
It has occurred to me that boredom and loneliness may be as a result of attachment too.
Let us pick our selves up, shake our selves off, and move into ever-flowing life…
Who would like to walk around the world with me – like those two did? Let us take that trip! Of course, before we go, I think that it might be a good idea that we all sign an Agreement that we will NOT speak of our experience on the internet. This will hold those moments as so much more intimate and meaningful.
When we have returned, we shall all agree on a place to meet (preferably on a beach with the sound of the surf as background music…ah…sigh). Then we shall all gather together in the darkness and under the moonlight before a beautiful roaring bonfire. We will have already written ‘something dear to our hearts’ on a sheet of paper which we shall then throw into the fire as a sign of celebration and affirmation of life.
We shall have coffee, toast many marshmallows before our fire and have wine if you choose. Then after a solemn moment of silence, in tune with and before the Universe, we shall walk back into our journey and remember! We shall all recall our memories and speak of them. We shall also speak of any inner experiences and epiphanies that came to us during that wonderful journey around the world and with each other. Of course, If you so choose to. I realize that one’s own inner experience is quite intimate and some may not be up to nakedly, revealing those moments. .
Afterwards, we shall all dance together under the moon – the moon is quite magical and can draw a dance out of anyone - and then, we shall howl and howl and howl and howl……in rhythm with the crashing waves of the surf……………
VIVA LA LOCA!!!
Would anyone care to come with me?
CARPE DIEM!!!
turtle, there have been some interesting philosophical discussions on “boredom” on this site, particularly regarding Kierkegaard. If you don’t think it will bore you too much, you could look them up and tell us what you think. In fact, you might consider it an exercise in learning how much boredom you can take, so then other things that bore you might then seem actually interesting. 
thank you jonquil. been there done that. it struck me that people go to war when they get bored.
“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.”
Ah… 
Detachment, yes - to allow life to surge through when we lose these limitations, even and especially the pleasant ones.
Detachment has value because it allows for, leads to and is even necessary to the formation of new attachments, new meanings, loves, ideas, bliss
This journey sounds wonderful - walk backwards through time, through our creation, the creation of the world… to share such memories and experiences.
“As one climbs a mountain roadway, and looks off on the landscape through the forest trees or from some overtopping crag, at each step he sees more and more of the outlying beauty of field and lake and forest and hill and river, till he reaches the summit, where the whole vast scene opens to the view, and enthuses his soul with delight. So life should be a constant lookout, through the gray mists, through the falling shadows, through the running tears, till he comes to the shining top of life in God Himself, where the fogs lift, and the shadows fall, and the view is all undisturbed.”
“We live in deeds, not years; in thoughts, not breaths;
In feelings, not in figures on a dial.
We should count time by heart-throbs. He most lives
Who thinks most, feels the noblest, acts the best.”
“This is life’s greatest moment, when the soul unfolds capacities which reach beyond earth’s boundaries.”
Let’s go
Have you ever tries using your feelings of boredom or loneliness for self-exploration? In those moments, dive within yourself, into these sentimental states that are so overwhelming - just be in them. What happens? Every emotion is divine in that it is a direct conduit into your own soul - why is this feeling here, why is it so powerful, and how is it that this single feeling shapes my entire experience in this moment?
We cannot choose our feelings, directly, but we can encompass them, work to become deeper and become that which incorporates the feeling into a larger whole. Draw the feeling inside and do not reject it - become that which gives definition and depth to the experience. Define it, give it meaning, create it in the moment, as conscious experience… use every passion as a means to becoming more.
We are larger than our feelings - feelings and thoughts are not us, we are that which is experiencing these states. When we become too attached to them, when we identify ourselves with them we lose ourselves. Remember that you are the experiencing “I”, the self, the divine conscious subject that is living this experience, both creating it and sharing in its creation.
"Life! we’ve been long together
Through pleasant and through cloudy weather;
Tis hard to part when friends are dear,—
Perhaps 'twill cost a sigh, a tear.
Then steal away, give little warning.
Choose thine own time,
Say not “Good-night,” but in some brighter clime,
Bid me “Good-morning.”
“Your true traveller finds boredom agreeable rather than painful. It is the symbol of his liberty—his excessive freedom. He accepts his boredom, when it comes, not merely philosophically, but almost with pleasure.”
Just reading this OP brings back memories of times I decided to get in trouble because I was bored. I (usually a “we”, actually) never did seem to get caught so I missed out on the trouble, but being mischievous is fun all on it’s own.
I prefer being alone and can entertain myself quite nicely. Books, creating things , cleaning sorting etc ,work is always good for boredom and lonliness. Never could figure out how folks got that way, there is always something to do if you look.
Alone. Never lonely.
When I get to the state of unbearable boredom I meditate.
Agreed. Rarely am I ever bored when I’m alone.
edit Although, I did get bored last week, on Thursday night, so I went to visit a friend at the bar he works at. That was even more boring
Yea, at a certain point just before you turn legal Bars are exciting places, then you go to them when you are legal have a great time, you go as often as possible for awhile, then one day you step into one and you see your future, They sit there at that bar with a drink in one hand and their head in the other… Bars can get boring once you realize there is more out there.Ooooooor you just went on the wrong night
You know, I never was much of a drinker before I turned 21, to be honest. Until I was 20, I had only been drunk once in my life. I started to drink a bit more after that, but once I turned 21 it was ON. I went through a few party phases with drinking still, though. Got drunk every weekend with my friends for 2 years, but rarely did we actually go to the bar. Then I kind of quit for awhile, and then the year before I went to Job Corps I started drinking a lot again. Up until I left for JC, I was getting drunk six days a week, going to the bar 2 or 3 times and then drinking at my friend’s house on the nights we didn’t feel like going out. Once I got into JC and decided to actually take advantage of the program, things like drinking just kind of fell off the priority list. I pretty much don’t drink at all anymore beyond maybe having a two drinks over the course of an evening, but I never made a decision to quit. I just kind of lost interest as other things became more important, and once I had lost that interest I forgot why I ever found it interesting to begin with.
Weird, if it were me, serving the Obama social control army would have driven me to drinking, not the other way around.