Thank you for the lead, SIATD. I guess I don’t know Pav. The guy I was talking about was maybe Romanian? The Adler once commented on the shape of his head from one of the many pix he posted, stating it looked Eastern European. The one I’m thinking about went to Mexico and showed a bunch of pix from his travels. He may have had a hot companion but I can’t remember if they were platonic. And there was a picture of him trying to skate somewhere in the US. Oh, and I think he often wore a tight suit to cover his slim/gangly frame. Seriously, I can’t remember what I had for breakfast three days ago but some of the crap that still bounces around in my brain is scary…scary and sad…
As for our “history,” I have some fond memories as well. One thing I remember is I once used “actually” to preface something I was about to say in the process of contradicting you; you claimed that people tend to say “actually” before they are about to tell a falsehood (or something like that). I rolled my eyes because you were wrong in certain contexts–namely, when it represents a kind of mannerism when one is about to correct, contradict or put someone down. However, it did stick with me and yes, when people are about to lie when I interview/assess them, they do often say “actually”–along with a bunch of other “tells.” Again, the things I remember…
Oh, and I’m not sure if you were the one who said this (I know someone else who did but when I heard her say it, I knew I had heard it before), but I think long ago someone on this site mentioned a great “subtle” insult: “You are as smart as you are handsome/beautiful.” With that in mind, I smiled at the unintentional or intentional meaning behind “I am a much happier person now than I was then”–i.e., when you and I were embroiled in silliness… =D> No, I’m not being paranoid…I just thought it would have been a clever way of poking at me…
You can use all the labels as you want, dfetc. I don’t know how old you are but I’ve seen the same strategy since the advent of the internet and BBS sites many years ago–whoops, I’m implying an argument from authority by making an allusion to my age…oy…; and of course, philosophers have been playing that game since long before I ever set foot on this earth. And of course, the oldest trick in the layperson’s book is to borrow from the realm of psychology and to use “projection” a la “I know you are but what am I?”
Yes, all these terms can be applied and, in some cases, they accurately describe someone’s behaviours. However, in real life–which is the place I prefer to inhabit most of the time, dfetc–one can make such assertions to show, for instance, that he–in this case, I–has made certain statements repeatedly in public, meaning that they could be scrutinized by many thousands/millions(?) of people, including my colleagues. Hence, if I am wrong in some way, they can challenge me as my name is obviously known to my students and it’s flashed on the screen or mentioned on the radio several times whenever I’m speaking publicly; to me, that is a far better test of my credibility than some random/anonymous online pedophile or pedophile advocate. Of course, you would not know that this is the main reason I mention my history of making such statements publicly, so I’ll forgive you this one time. And yes, I know how my forgiveness comes across here. That is intentional and is directed at only you, no one else. So call it what you will and call my actions whatever else you want. That is a game that I do not play any more. Please re-read my post about rigidity to understand why that is. And if you wish to continue your mental masturbation, please find another partner because I will not engage with you further, as you saw in the DSM/pedophile thread (aside from a little crack I couldn’t resist).
Actually, there was an advert on TV in this country years ago, I can’t remember the product, that pointed this out to me when I was young. I was simply recycling a bit of pop psychology that had been fed to me in order to make me feel better about buying something. Obviously it stuck with me for a while before I used as part of my insurgent reaction to your incursion. And that’s ‘actually’ in the sense of ‘actually’ rather than in the sense of ‘I’m playing for time to figure out how to lie my way out of your question’.
That does sound like the sort of thing I would have said, though again if I did say it I’m sure I picked it up somewhere else. I certainly did not intend the meaning behind being happier, I just meant that I am happier, and I’m sure you helped me learn a few things about myself in amongst the silliness.
I’m telling myself maybe you are confusing which is really real between “the illusion” and “the desert of the real”?
Too bad you allow yourself to become triggered by this subject that needs patience and compassion to enter; you’re missing such great discussion where someone of your expertise’s insight would be so valuable,
A paradigm shift in attitudes toward pedophilia is happening now? The old positions were entrenched and polarized; at one end were emotionally charged mob reactions like ‘he should be castrated’ or even ‘he should be hung’, while at the other end were observations such as those by academic Arne Fred… viewtopic.php?f=15&t=180334&p=2347650#p2347650
Foucault’s response was that, “[t]his notion of consent is a trap”. That’s because contractualism is something that happens on the level of egoic consciousness: the capitalopatriarchy; whereas, what is true i… viewtopic.php?f=15&t=180334&p=2348137#p2348137
It’s actually a great line (now I’m obsessed with the darn word…). I used it a number of times and it’s interesting that only certain people seem to pick up on the potential insult behind it. But to be fair to them, if said with supposed sincerity, there’s no reason to infer anything negative about it–so I would add a tiny bit of inflection to make the irony or sarcasm more noticeable; but since I try not to be a jerk in real life, I never said it to someone I actua…errr…genuinely thought was not attractive or intelligent…
As for your statement, I did truly interpret it in a positive manner. And truth be told, I learned a lot about myself during my initial time on ILP and I really hope it helped me grow as a person. It did certainly show me how obsessed I could become when trying to prove a point. It also revealed to me how powerful the defence mechanism of rationalization can be, at least in my case…
I’ve kinda given up on the internet philosophy schtick, mainly due to the fact I’ve solved philosophy, and know the answers to everything.
Well. Something like that anyway.
Glad to see you’re still alive. I’ve just hit 44, have two kids in primary school, working at the same university and didn’t win the lottery today goddamnit.
Great to hear from you. Yup, still alive and doing well on this end of the world. I saw your gif on your website–looking great and your kids are adorable. I tried to comment on the site but the security thing was giving me a hard time and seemed a bit fishy (don’t ask…); not sure if it ended up getting through. I would comment further on what’s going on but I still need to maintain my public anonymity. I’ll PM you.
Alright, I must admit reading this a coupla decades later is pretty trippy. (Check it out, I even made “most clever” on a #legends list a decade ago o.o)
Atlanta, specifically. I’m kinda too lazy to dig for the specific picture (yes, I remember it), but this should be just as good. Same suit, anyways.
