Suppose for some reason a person begins to feel the truth of this. They see that though they can be considerate towards others there are these times when they become rude, mean, and actually dangerous even though the person may be worthy of compassion. Wars are even created from such growing tension They begin to see that the cause of their hurtful acts isn’t really the other person but something psychological in themselves that takes them over. It will continue this way since the future is an extension of the present.
If this is true, how would you suggest a person changing the present in a way that would not be forgotten tomorrow as they become this thing honking their horn, cursing out, and giving the finger to the driver that cut in front of them?
A self defeating patteren much like the abusive spouce. They will have a frustraition in the relationship that they beat down with force. This is rewarded with an adrenialine release and the quietness of the abused. Yet since it doesn’t actually solve the problem, they let this frustraition build,… and it becomes a downward spiral.
Take away the reward. Or intervien with an equal and opposite force.
