I think it’s impossible for a human being not to live in a fantasy world.
We are all delusional, because we believe that the illusions we experience (with the definitions and explanations we have to categorize them) are actually accurate depictions of a “reality” out there (/existing outside our minds). Okay, I don’t believe this, as in I hold this position as it were rational, but I act as if these illusions/interpretations actually are reality, because our social-based languages, cultures and institutions are based on these delusions.
Instead of thinking of this as either
A) giving mind/attention/energy/whatever to a fantasy or
B) giving mind to reality
it is more accurate to think of it as
A) giving mind to a fantasy that makes your life/subjective experiences more bearable (both in the short term and long term) or
B) giving mind to a fantasy that makes your experiences more unbearable (usually both, but at least in the long term - ie extended short-term).
Most of the time, what differentiates (counterproductive/countercontentment) “fantasy” pursuits from (also fantasy) productive/practical/healthy “reality” pursuits is how culturally acceptable an action/mindset is (ie how much or little cultural values/institutions/etc have been tailored to encourage and promote it, and how much environmental acceptance/aid or resistance/danger it will experience).
To avoid confusion, I’m going to explain what I mean by culture (as I will use it below) before I use it.
[i]By “culture” I don’t mean fine art and good manners, I mean explanations (with accompanying value judgements) for phenomenon commonly found/considered in the society (as well as that which may happen less frequently, if the society deems it a threat to the “functional” workings of its system as has managed to minimize the danger).
Setting up an allegory:
An individual’s observable actions (the habitual workings of the body) express and follow the individual’s mind/thoughts/concerns/beliefs (assuming the body is acting according to conscious subjective considerations), and the mind is slightly altered in order to consistently produce actions (of the body) that minimize the mind’s discomfort – discomfort for the mind is/results from deeming (something in) the environment “bad”, leading to a chain-reaction of (being in conflict with/not accepting) “bad” environments.
The problem with this is that the mind seeks stability. Cognitive dissonance, which produces anxiety, is the result of the mind experiencing seemingly conflicting thoughts/actions/values/etc at once. The mind needs to feel assured that a certain situation or action is right or wrong before it can act and move on (secure with its ability to handle future situations). As a result of this need for consistency, the mind organizes all of its actions/thoughts according to certain contexts (which result from an overall, consistent judgement/value of habitual actions/thoughts).
The allergory:
If a society (all its observable phenomenon – streets, buildings, movement of people interacting and doing certain things, its clean water source, level of crime, police force, pollution, greenery, etc) is the body, culture is the mind (conscious(ness)) – the beliefs, values, concerns, plans, etc. [/i]
The more culture (fueling/guiding/directing a group of people) – the more values and expectations resulting in more “right” behaviors that “ought” to be performed, the more specific/limited/restricted an individual’s actions (and thus, their “practical”/“good” mind/thoughts/conscious self) become.
It is one thing for a small tribe with a strong tradition/solid upbringing (secure socialization process) to live the only possible existence they know the only way they know in the only world they know (in this case their behavior may be very restricted, but in most cases there isn’t much of an alternative/other possiblity to compare that to, so it isn’t experienced as a restriction, it is experienced as the thing one does), it is another (an affect of writing, the printing press, mass media, multiculturalism and the internet) when one is exposed to a massive amount of information/words/concepts that one hasn’t seen or experienced firsthand, constructing in the mind the potential (and curse) to imagine a limitless amount of possibilities (as well as arguments and points of view that can crumble the columns on which the “righteousness” of one’s actions lie).
The well-to-do businessman is making his money and, by the culture’s standards, successful, but hour after hour day in and day out he’s forcing his mind and body to “stay on task” and “move forward” towards something completely opposed to who he is. He’s “successful”, but for (at least) 40-50 hours of his week, (at least) around 30-40% of his waking life, he’s unhappy, conflicted and tired of not (taking advantage of his existence and) living his life by being himself as he could he.
So when he’s not working he fulfills this need (to explore what life has to offer, to go on an adventure, or to get excited/motivated about something, or be silly or spontaneous or whatever he can’t have/let out due to his job and/or cultural expectations) by getting (oftentimes, way too) into sports (personalizing his team and demonizing the other with/as the source of all his frustrations), obtaining warmth/emotional reward with alcohol, pills, etc, putting oneself in the shoes of a character/situation in movies, on reality tv, in a comic book or manga, whatever.
Most of these “successful” people wouldn’t dare quit their jobs (probably for good reason); some people, with some golden combination of financial wealth and/or traits which may or may not include intelligence, ignorance, antisocial tendencies, charm, creativity, attention-seeking, brownnosing, etc luck into a job (or lack of needing one) with which they can harmoniously and joyfully let out all or most of their natural actions. Most people don’t and won’t have this good fortune, so they have to somehow experience and release those emotions/needs/parts of themselves that they painfully keep under the surface.
People are different, so certain activities and hobbies aren’t going to work for everyone. As long as one’s “therapy” doesn’t stand in the other person’s way, why give a shit, why judge them? They’re just confused, frustrated people who, like all of us, just want to have something to which they can attach themselves and unload all the shit that’s been rotting away their spirits.
The Greeks understood this: People went to the theater to watch/experience (myth-based) tragedies where a “hero” protagonist (who just wanted to do good) suffers from a horrible misfortunate. This (like all myths) is the story of a(ll healthy/empathetic/social) human being(s) frustration in trying to do good but suffering anyway, and by associating/attaching their frustrations with the hero’s, the audience can (healthily) purge their own struggle/conflict-based frustrations in socially/culturally-acceptable manner (that doesn’t damage their relationships/reputation/etc) while still maintaining the value/righteousness/“heroicism” of trying to be a “good” person (defined by/in conforming to one’s culture).
The Jesus myth and its focus in (the Catholic) mass isn’t much different. I understand this isn’t the case for all religion’s practices and myths (including some that are or could be called “Christian”), but mass is pretty much just a Greek-influenced tragedy, with Jesus as the hero who suffers misfortunate/sacrifices himself for mankind (just as most people put up with a lot of shit, and internally suffer because of it, for the sake of honoring (culturally-defined/maintaining) “goodness”/God.
Today with multiculturalism and (the beginning of) Postmodernism (as I see it and its potential), more and more people realize that certain religious myths/figures may not actually exist (as entities outside the mind/imagination of a human being). I find it hard to believe that that many people actually ever did, though. I just don’t think they bothered questioning their church’s myths, because everyone else was going to church and, for the most part, it gave them some peace of mind. I think when theists nowadays try to defend God, or their faith, they are mostly arguing that their idea/feeling of/association with “God”, and what comes from/with that, is “real” to them in that it has provided a base/structure on which they can order/make sense/give meaning to their experiences and lives, comforting them and helping them stay “on track” (in accordance with cultural/societal expectations/necessities).
There are few things that annoy me more than (Richard Dawkins-like) a(nti)theists who just have to militantly “enlighten”/attack the “lunacy” of religions (and their myths). You’ve seen these people, right? The “brights” who proudly state that they only accept and base their worldviews and actions on rationality and logic?
It’s fucking impossible to only act and believe according to logic/rationality. Even the wrongness of rape, murder and the “correct” interpretations of stable “selves” existing through periods of time/change are only “facts”/“truths” for pragmatic reasons (that’s how our mind’s naturally make sense of certain phenomenon, and since we all want to avoid discomfort, we might as well accept these illusions/illogical beliefs as truths). Even an extremely thoughtful, intelligent and (striving to be) ethical person, likely to experience a lot of frustration/anxiety/mild depression here and there due to an inability to reach a logically-stable philosophy to interpret and guide all situations/actions, is going to assume something is right/wrong from time time (because he reached a satisfactory/good enough conclusion in the past), even though there have been many life-experiences/changes in beliefs, values, that may, if explored, show him his past errors.
Humans have to just assume certain (not logically/rationally-demonstrated) beliefs in order to enjoy their lives, so as long as they aren’t fucking with other people’s therapy (like those sophomoric antitheists), realize you do the same thing, in some form or another, and move on.