The difference between man and woman is physical. Different organs - different balance of chemicals.
That’s it.
Having a propensity for an action does not obligate the action. One ought not have to act always as odds predict. No person ought be obligated to adjust to insincerity.
All actions have consequences. If one is aware of them, and continues on, so be it. If one judges an alternate of the common to meet one’s ideals, so be it.
To attack one’s identity or nature is unreasonable. If one can’t change, then critique is cruel.
All ought be allowed to be sincere to their identity without shame, guilty or fear of persecution.
Gender contributes to one’s identity, but it’s only one element of the composition that is the human being. To force one to comply to a stereotype based on a single factor is foolish, and if that factor be gender - sexist.
Gender/sex is whatever we want it to be, whatever it is or needs to be for the individual or society. Nothing is set in stone, really. It is strange when people try to define gender as X or Y or -X or -Y.
What is gender to YOU? That is the first question you ought to ask. Don’t let some supposed objectivity dictate what your own identity means to you, and f you try to dictate in that way to others know it will create levels of resistance in them. No one likes their self-valuing fucked with.
That aside, it’s very interesting to try and rationally derive gender/sex differences; there are many possible domains that can be used as standards, such as social utility, historical imperatives, natural selection, various moral systems, individuality, futurism, etc.
Pick a domain/s and we can start some investigations.
I agree that one shouldn’t arbitrarily criticize others for that which they can’t change; such as their physical gender, yet if people can form their identity to be seperate from their nature, then their identity is by default that which can be changed.
In philosophical terms gender prejudice is an example to tewo things; a naturalistic fallacy and what Hume called the Is/ought problem.
Just because a man is different from a women is no reason to that we ought to treat them differently because of their gender. and though we are naturally different is not a reason in itself to restrict the horizons of each of us in those terms. For women having the ability to bear children is not a reason to do so, and after having a child is not reason that her husband is not as well equipped to raise that child.
And on it goes…
You put the cart before the horse. What is a human being if not a sex-based category? Identity evolves from possessing different organs and ratio of chemicals. An entity discovers the world from being endowed with a particular sexual make-up. Sexual roles and instincts are innate to idenity. To deny that is antinatural.
A woman need not be ashamed of wearing skimpy clothes and feel proud of her sexuality and revel in her instincts, while a man is condemned and persecuted should he act on his?
Being a human being ought not to be an elimination of this difference of male and female. Being a human being ought to be about emphasizing your sexuality in anchoring to higher ends. The best a man can achieve being born a man, the best a woman can achieve being born a woman.
Why are we so focussed on defining boundaries? It seems to me that much time is wasted in drawing lines, when the real issue is to acknowledge our shared human experience.