Looks or personality, which is more important in a woman?
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I just saw the saddest thing on TV where they did an experiment where they introduced men to a gorgeous model who was offensive and talked about farting and then they introduced them to a really cool, sweet, average looking woman. 9 out of the 10 men chose the model.
So be honest guys, if you had a choice between a drop dead gorgeous woman who was offensive and rude or a really cool , sweet, average looking woman who was nice and cool to be around, who would you pick ??? BE HONEST!!!
In theory, I cannot say for sure… but you’re assuming that men should like sweet, nice girls. Whose to say guys don’t like offensive woman who fart and such just like they do? Most men might find the whole ‘sweet’ and ‘nice’ routine as superficial, and offensive, farting girls as down to Earth. I would like to see the results if the personalities were swapped around.
…of course, I don’t disagree that most guys would want to sex-up the hot chick no matter what the personality. Thats instinct baby! Toga, toga, toga!
In an atomised society where anomie is prevalent in almost every facet of human conception and behaviour who has the time or necessary philosophical/psychological technique to actually bother to get to know someone?
I don’t think I’ve ever come across a person with a personality. No pun intended.
And if these guys knew they were part of a study, it is difficult to believe that the results were not skewed - such is the force of societal pressure. I would also like to know the ages involved. Believe it or not, children, things change as you get older.
Also, it is fashionable now to talk about farts and stuff - raunch “culture” - was this really offensive, or just hip? Did the boys think it was merely hip?
Another problem is the very attempt to reduce attraction to one factor. It just isn’t. But I think that Imp’s point is that these boys were not expected to wish to spend the rest of their lives with this woman. I used to be able to tolerate a lot to get laid by an attractive woman. But that’s just getting laid.
Like anything else, the answer lies somewhere in the middle.
What do you call someone you get along with wonderfully, but aren’t sexually attracted to?
A friend.
Now, there needs to be something to go beyond that, and that is looks. However, since the way the game is setup right now, you can’t really befriend someone and then choose to date them so instead you go for people with good looks and hope that they have a personality.
If not, eh, well it was fun wasn’t it?
Also, I agree with W.C. The whole ‘nice girl’ routine gets real old real fast. What women want other women to be like is very different from what men want women to be like.
Like Capris. I have yet to meet a man who actively likes capris. Indeed, most men I know find them actively off-putting. But women wear them, and think they look good in them.
Xunzian - you mean capri pants? Very, very few women look good in them. But I am told that women dress for each other, and not for men. We have covered your other point elsewhere - you just don’t want to befriend any woman that you want to date, yes. They won’t date a friend, generally. They’ll date an enemy, or just to “steal” from another woman. But not a friend. That’s the problem for men - women will not find a friend sexually attractive - it’s a causal relationship.
i think this is kinda silly if the model had been boring and dumb and BITCHY the guys mighta chose the average woman… but rude farting joke types are what every guys dreams of, lol not only is she gorgeous… but also they dont have to check their language with her, whereas the otherone is sweet but boring and average looking of course she faded from the mind in light of the other woman
(sorry awful grammar)
But saying that ‘women dress for each other’ is pretty much my point. They will dress for other women, but then be shocked when men don’t like what they wear. To complicate matters, it is then stated that men have no sense of fashion.
It seems like the same thing is going on with this competition. They have a super model who is acting in a way which is most un-lady-like (which at least the poster frowned on and a large population of women also frown on) and a nice, sweet, caring, average looking girl (what the poster, and a large population of women think an ideal woman is like).
The problem is that this doesn’t match up with men’s desires with respect to women. Enter confusion. “Why don’t the men like that sweet girl? Why would they want to hang out with that crass woman telling fart jokes? I don’t get it.” When in actuality, it is the crass woman telling fart jokes who is far more desirable, personality-wise. Throw on a hot body and, well, holy shit, who knew they would all choose that one? Yet the conclusion that is reached is: clearly the men were doing it just for looks and have no taste in personality.
That is the communication breakdown. Capri pants are just an example of it, this is another.
OK no, the model was rude and offensive in a freakish way, also the average girl wasnt just sweet and nice but she was just really cool and got along well with everyone…but anyway, youre right, I need to rephrase this question :
If you had the choice to marry a drop dead gorgeous model who was not very bright and slightly ignorant OR a really cool chick with a great personality that you really liked but who was average looking, who would you pick?
I need to be sexually attracted to a female. That gets them in the door. But if they can’t talk about art or music or the strangeness of the moon, then its better to be single.
I’ve taken the liberty of ignoring the preface from television and am instead focusing soley upon this question. The answer is obvious: the latter. Others have assumed (perhaps correctly) that by ‘offensive and rude’ you mean something specific - something about farts and whatnot. I’m not reading it that way. If I find a women inherently and objectively ‘offensive’ - if she offends me with consistency - it doesn’t matter in the slightest what she looks like: that’s not someone I’ll be associating with on an aquaintence level, let alone ‘be with’.
ok, so obviously both personality and sex appeal needs to be there, but after that, my criteria, is that you need to feel like the universes are exploding inside of you (yeah I"m fucking cheesy . . . deal with it) and then you have to have fun with the person.
So what if she is hot, and has a great personality, unless you have a blast together, and have a magnetic pull that draws you together, who cares?
To me, casual sex is boring, being in love is a fucken blast.
I’ve never had casual sex. In fact, I’m not casual in any way. I make love like you’d imagine Kant doing it - as though one should always make love in that way.
A good body can make up for a good bit, but I think I could deal with a beautiful face without an amazing body more than a good body with an ugly face.
Obviously the combo is what we are going for, or for me at least a slightly above average face with an amazing body, ass is very important.
Yeah and I can’t handle girls that just completely suck ass I suppose. But usually I tend to find silly, stupid girls that are cute to be very endearing.
I mean I can deal with a girl that is a few french fries short of a happy meal as long as she isn’t a bitch as well. A dumb, sweet, and cute girl is perfectly fine with me.
