Okay, but then what might follow, which is only my perspective - not in order to seek approval from others nor to wallow in self pity, but would you ever take a second look at what someone is saying, IF something “rang a bell”, reflect on it, in order to see if what they may be saying is “true” ? Isn’t this a part of personal growth?
Naturally, but I take this feedback within the context of specific relationships and not from every Tom, Dick and Harry (who are free to draw whatever unchallenged conclusions they wish to draw).