Dear machismo, I’ve written many different things on many different subjects.
All you have to do is look for them, if it interests you.
That this one subject has received so much attention is due to these reasons:
1- It has to do with the fundamental psychological undertone of the human, and the living, condition: sexuality or reproduction - self-replication.
Within this issue the very identity of man, as both a biological and thinking entity are intertwined.
The reason sex is so important is because of one simple fact: mortality and how men, and all living creatures, deal with it or come to a compromise so as to ensure some kind of survival.
It’s all about surviving in the face of a certain death.
2- It touches upon sociological and cultural matters that, if explored, can lead away from the all encompassing central undertone and reveal the very heart of the human condition, as a reactive universal temporal phenomenon struggling to maintain itself, cope with existence and the suffering it entails and deal with its growing self-consciuosness, and as a cultural creature full of the social and political conflicts that produces the world of man as the environment that usurps the natural order and replaces it with human ideals full of the hopes and fears of mere mortals.
Now, if you fail to appreciate the many topics involved in this thesis and you can only percieve the sexuality or gender issues, in relation to modern idealisms and cultural norms, then that is your problem.
I do believe, whether you know it or not, that you’ve already allowed yourself to be used for sex.
Then again, so have I, and I remain open to being used repeatedly for the sexual satisfaction, or not, of another…preferably female and of my own species, of any pigmentation.
I just don’t fool myself that it was all full of romantic idealism.
But I also admit to myself that my friends have an interest in remaining my friends and that they do not always share in my griefs but may also gain a satisfaction from my misfortunes, and that my parents also had an invested interest in my well-being and they gained something from their efforts and cares concerning my welfare.
Reciprocity, for me, has eliminated the need to remain obtuse and naive about human relationships, the human condition and what intimacy, friendship and love really mean.
In the same way that I recognize my selfish motives behind all of my actions, I also perceive them behind the actions of others, even if they may mask them or deny them or be unaware of what really lies beneath their every breath and their every word and their every desire.
That’s my favorite flavor.
Fudge.
I only hope that it tastes just as good as it looks.
Experience tells me that it rarely does as hope often makes expectation and reality miss each other.
Disappointment is the result of overestimation and underestimation - although the former is more undesirable than the latter.
The human imagination rarely manages to interpret all the information, available, precisely and human vanity, hope and fear enter to cloud reason and lead the mind astray.
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But, for me, it’s all about the ass. It’s shape, size and firmness.
The rest is detail.
What about mutuality - do you think it doesn’t exist in that situation?
…sex for sex’s sake? or so it seems…
…which is why we should all aim to meet our match, and not shag just anyone who offers themselves up along the way - perhaps it’s a case of wants exceeding needs…
Or instincts outweigh intellect because most have little or a distorted self-awareness.
How many know, or even care, about the real motives behind their actions?
I’m always up for being used for sex: inspite of being perceived as the inferior one in the liaison, colour-wise. 
