How should/can I pretend to care about other people (when I clearly don’t)?
I figure that I’m going to go start socializing much more than I regularly do, even though I hate doing it.
So, how can I trick people into them believing that I care or am interested in what they’re saying? I think I can do it well enough, but I want advice on this.
What kind of people should I start making contact with (i.e. which “groups” are the most interesting)?
The indie rock people are pretty interesting, assuming they aren’t the coffee shop kind.
Stoners, always a good one.
Try immitating Edward Norton in the Fight Club. Like visiting counseling groups for sickness even if you don’t have those sickness.
Let’s focus on how I should pretend to care about other people first…
Just smile and nod? I’m good at that–I have it down–anything else???
Do what you’re doing. Listen then reply.
Why pretend?
Why not be genuine?
Because nobody can tell me something I haven’t heard before.
And besides, why does it matter whether I care or not as long as the other person thinks that I do? 
Because you might have something in common.
My question is why do you all of a sudden want to be social? It seems like you don’t really want to be, but have to, which is why i ask.
If you hate doing it, then don’t. I’ve found that doing things out of obligation, often leads to my unhappiness.
I need a woman to have sex with–I don’t like to sleep around, so I want a relationship, no matter how trivial or how high I think myself to be above it.
I can’t afford the kind of quality prostitutes that I could see myself spending money on nor can I afford taking numerous girls out on dates.
So, I’m just going to go socialize cheaply and find a woman/people that way. I need to pretend how to care–I’m looking for advice. I think I already do a decent job of pretending to care what other people have to say in the “real” world, but if I can improve it then I should.
In the end, there’s no woman smart enough for me (and the exact reason why originates thousands of years ago in human history–women aren’t “made” to be “smart like men”)…
I spend a lot of my time at ILP, because this is pretty much the only thing I find interesting/(possibly) meaningful to my life. I’m content with that. It just means that when I have to deal with people from the “real” world that I want to learn how to better get what I want. Pretending to care is a necessity for me.
So, I’m still taking advice…
(Thanks in advance) 
Get a wad of one dollar bills put two or three 20s on the outside of that, fold it so that only the twenties are seen, put a rubberband around that wad… Walk into a bar with plenty of females, act drunk, One female will see the wad, seperate you from the bar and get you alone. remove the twenties without her noticing before sex, leave the wad of cash in your pocket, pretend to pass out after sex, she will then steal your ones and there you have it, sex all neatly wrapped up without doing anything illegal. You just had a quickie relationship and both of you got something out of it.
Realun - you have set the arbitrary standard that any woman you are to spend time with should be as smart as you. There are other qualities a person could have that you might find worthwhile, if you gave it a chance.
It’s a decision.
The goal of not being lonely may have to be reached through a series of intermdiate goals.
You are setting yourself up for failure by letting yourself get stuck on this one quality.
I know plenty of women who are smarter than that.
It’s one thing if the world defeats you.
It’s quite another if you defeat yourself.
My advice is to try to grow up.
But not too much.
You haven’t met another woman as smart as you? Maybe you’re talking to the wrong women.
Walk through life with a casual tone. No one’s judgemet really matters. If someone talks to yo you can either talk to them back or move on. You shouldn’t worry about looking cool, rather, just not looking stupid.
If someone gets on your nerves you can either play an avoidance game or tell them straight up.
At places like work and university you shouldn’t take anything from anyone. If someone made a snide comment toward me (which they never have) i would probably tell them to say it again with my face 3 inches from theirs…
You don’t have to like people, you just have to respect them; they’ll respect you.
Imagine if you could restart elementary with the intelligence you have now… Imagine how you would act…
Thanks for the advice people–I think I hit rock bottom over the last few days. Luckily for me, there’s nowhere to go but up now.
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This is what I have been doing anyway–I’ll continue it.
I pretend like I care all the time. Come on realun, admit it, you’re a sociopath just like me. You feel nothing. You don’t care about what’s right or wrong. You don’t even like happiness, you just want to be sure you don’t suffer. Exploit every situation. Make friends with people by flattering them. Don’t ever try and date a smart girl, be friends with her instead. Date the dumb ones that’ll let you shit on them and tie them up. It’s alot more fun that way.
I only desire to fuck the smart ones and spread “smart people” genes. I suppose I’ll pretend to care and marry said woman too, just to make sure my progeny gets established. Other than that, I suppose I’ll make some money too just so I can do some kind of things, though I’m not sure what yet… When all is said and done, what do I want to do? I don’t know. I already could have everything I ever want already–now.
The world is my stage and its people are my puppets.
The question is–what kind of play amuses me the most?
Dude use a rubber or pull out when you fuck the dumb ones. I’m not saying give your good genes to some cretin. Just exploit her for pussy. Using another human bieng for your pleasure, at the expense of thiers is highly gratifying. Here’s some stuff you want to do…
Sleep outside in a public place, while broke, and drunk.
Go to a strange land and fuck the people’s women.
Go to another strange land and make a total ass out of yourself as an American.
Tell your best friend to go fuck himself for no reason at all.
Convince a girl to love you, then coldly break her heart by sleeping with a woman inferior to her. For instance, get the smart girl to date you, then cheat on her with a stripper.
Try and make everyone around you as uncomfortable as possible.
Those things are fulfilling.
More to come.
“Good genes”. Isn’t that a value judgement?
What the fuck is wrong with you?
…I don’t agree with the dating/breaking heart one, though, as that is just too cold: especially if it is that calculated!