“how to be a good friend” is one of the most difficult questions I’ve ever encountered.
Who is a friend?
Many see friendship as a form of mutual exchange. In good times, everyone wants to be nice to you. But in bad times, no one wants to have anything to do with you. Can that type of people be considered one’s friends? On mutual exchange, could the two be considered friends when they mutually exchange insults?
I have the idea that a friend is someone who you enjoy being with, who would stick up to you when you are in trouble. Someone to share the good and bad times. Would the idea friend be someone irrational? Why would someone stick by you when you have nothing to give? And if you want to be a good friend, do you also have to be irrational?
Can ‘friendship’ be defined under specific characteristics, when the bases of friendships derive from different experiences and social groups in relation to the individual?
The definition of friend is one who loves at all times. proverbs 17:17.
That means a friend loves you as a friend and as an enemy, in the good properous times and in the bad adverse times.
That means that I am my first friend when I lvoe me as my own best friend and as my own worse enemy.
Then, by first being my own friend,
I can also be the best friend to all others by loving them both as my best friends and as my own worse enemies!
“Who is a friend?” A Lover. One who loves you under all conditions and at all times.
A friend is just another name for a Lover.
A Lover is a true friend because a Lover will also love u as an enemy.
“Many see friendship as a form of mutual exchange.”
That’s conditional Love in friendship.
“In good times, everyone [loves you only as good and nice] wants to be nice to you. But in bad times, no one wants to have anything to do with you. Can that type of people be considered one’s friends?”
No. But I can’t expect people to lvoe me in bad times or love me when they see me as bad if i also hate me as bad and only love me as good.
"On mutual exchange, could the two be considered friends when they mutually exchange insults?
Yes!..if they love themselves as all words!
Yes, if they love each other as enemies.
In Love of all words, insults wd be exchanged in Love and in a friendly manner! They wd be friendly enemies or opposing friends!
No, if they hate each other as any words.
People can only be insulted or offended if they already hate themselves as the names they are called.
They wd then be hostile enemies and part-time friends.
“I have the idea that a friend is someone who you enjoy being with, who would stick up to you when you are in trouble. Someone to share the good and bad times.”
That’s it. By ‘stick up’ you mean love.
So u shd expand that definition like this:
I have the idea that a friend is someone who loves you in joyous times and loves you in sad times, who enjoys being with in good times and who is sad being with you in bad times, who would love and stick up in Love for you at the right time when you are in trouble, and who wd love you and at the right time in Love wd NOT stick up for you when you are in trouble.
Someone to share Love with you and be happy with you in the good and share Love with you and be sad in the bad times.
“Would the idea friend be someone irrational?”
Yes! That is the friend who wd love you whether you were rational or irrational! Whose Love for you wd be rational in the rational and irrational times!
“Why would someone stick by you when you have nothing to give?”
Because they loved you unconditionally, without any condition such as ‘having something to give,’ so that when you did have nothing to give, they wd still lvoe you since having nothing to give had nothing to do with their Love for you! Because they loved you for no reason, because they loved you for nothing, because they loved u just for you, because they loved you just for being there, because they loved u because they want to.
“And if you want to be a good friend, do you also have to be irrational?”
Yes! U have to lvoe you as irrational and as rational!
Which unconditional Love will seem irrational to others even tho it IS MOST rational! Which unconditional Love for you will enable you to handle people calling you and your Love irrational!
see?
In inconditional Love, you wd KNOW that they who hate themselves as any word can’t help but think of you and your Love as irrational!
And already loving you as irrational, you will be able to say:
I agree with you that I am irrational!
[That will surprise them!]
Then you will say:
And since I, an irrational person to you, agrees with you who are rational to you and to me, does that not make me rational too and make you irrational too? So that we are both rational and irrational?
Then you say:
So does that not mean that real irrationality is HATE ourselves as irrational or as any word?
see?
What you are saying is really crazy. I do not think unconditional love exist. If it were to exist, then everyone would be in love with everything.
The fact some people are in love with certain people shows that there are certain things certain people can give. Some love the size of purse, others love sense of humor, others love the brain… but all those things consitute conditional love. would you still love someone even though they are brain dead? i.e they can no longer tell good jokes?
Pinnacle of Reason:What you are saying is really crazy.
I: I agree with you that i am crazy! smile
So a crazy me agreeing with a sane you means that i am also sane and you are also crazy!
And means that the real crazy is the idea that there is no unconditional Love!
Pinnacle of reason:I do not think unconditional love exist.
Iloveu: Unconditional Love is the only sane idea and the only true Love that exists!
I can only agree with you that i am crazy and lvoe you as sane because I unconditionally love myself under BOTH the conditions of sanity and insanity!
Pinnacle of Reason: If it were to exist, then everyone would be in love with everything.
Iloveu: That’s the whole point! If we are all in Love, we wd still be in agreement to lvoe each other even when we made different choices or disagreed. Being in Love is what allows us to live our own way and let others live their own different ways while still loving each other!
“If you love everything, you will perceive that Love is the divine mystery in things.
Once you perceive that, you will begin to comprehend it better every day.
And you will come at last to love the whole world with an
all-embracing Love.
Love the animals: … Love the children especially …
If you resolve on that Love once and for all, you will subdue the whole world.
The humility of Love is marvelously strong, the strongest of all things, and there
Is nothing like it.
… It’s all like an ocean, I tell you.
Then you would [be] … consumed by an all-embracing Love …
Treasure this ecstasy of Love … .”
FYODOR DOSTOYEVSKY
1 John 4:16
16And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us.
God is love;
and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God,
and God in him.
“Until he extends the circle of his Love to all living things,
Man will not himself find peace.”
Albert Schweitzer, 1875-1965, German Born Medical Missionary, Theologian, Musician, Philosopher