Magsj I’m expecting updates on how your event went.
…goes -it hasn’t happened yet… but I will, when it has.
Currently on simmer… till then. 
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…planning what to wear, to events I’m planning to go to, so need outfits to wear.
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Oh, worthy Genie, MagsJy,
Please send me back in time to when I was eight years old to that moment when my father (not my real father - though I did not know it at that time) pulled out and kept going. This time though, I will catch up with him. I will run faster and faster and I shall overtake him. He will then explain things to me and all will be clear in my mind.
As for the rest, it will be up to me.
So, can you, in your power, make my wish come true and transport me back to that very moment - no - not THAT moment, but a few moments before that time, to the most opportune moment, when he will not have any other choice but to speak and to listen to me.
I thank you for your gracious time and energy.
S/he can’t give you resolution. There is only One who can.
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Does God, for you, Ichthus, do this all by Himself in one quick swoop…or in one ongoing journey to the end only with Him and then voila - you have resolution?
Is there any help along the way from others? Does He send others?
Does He need to feel that He is the ONLY one who gives resolution?
What if, at times, He wants to be silent before us? Is it okay if we seek help from others?
It may not apply here but Carl Jung said that ultimate truth needs the concert of many voices.
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So you think God wants to use her to bring healing… or you to heal her… without being grafted in to the source of life?
Doesn’t matter how many voices are involved. That music is … dead.
Do we not feel it?
But perhaps her garden senses the verge of something.
Would you lock up something you wanted to see fly?
Keep reminding me.
Sorry for your pain, Arc.
I don’t think we need to say anything to anyone but ourselves.
It is disempowering to put one’s welfare in the hands of another.
If it rings in your heart, that is enough.
Sure, we can dream of different lives where our hopes and expectations were met,
but those are dreams, and we have still have our life to live.
‘You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.’ - Unknown
Is a wilting flower not as poignant as in bloom?
Is tragedy not a shade of light?
‘How can I sell sorrow, when you know it’s a blessing?’ - Rumi
My hope is that you wished you were able to say goodbye and express love -
but perhaps your father was a different man, and you had something different to say.
( a lot of the above says more about me than you, probably )
I think I got my first wish, then a second wish followed the first to assure my full confidence that would remove all doubt that what I wished for was really what I really want and need, and that wish inordinately led me astray to thinking. that after the first wish may have been ordinatelly attached to the first by default, so I ask for this last one non ordinatelly and properly as a third and final wish: of revealing what the first wish was about.
Gotta explain here;
There are biblical reasons in which I certainly have absolute creedence, that it is forbidden to look back to inquire about, , the iffs , how’s, and whys about it for some real forbidden reason.
So finally please grant that last wish and I know the consequences of forever loosing the chance to have another wish ever granted again.
Thanks
fish fish you get your wish
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S.eek
K.nock
Who’s there?
me know
We gave at the office.
What to wear, to a fashion show… 
Ichthus
Who is her, Ichthus?
I am not sure what you mean by “music”? Are you referring to my last, past moments with the man who supposedly was my father - the one who left without explanation?
If you know anything at all about human beings, you will understand that that music will play on until it is meant to stop.
Feel what?
Who is the “her” here, not to assume - me?
That is a very good question - at first glance. I will have to ponder that.
I am speaking about something which happened to me when I was a little girl and it can still affect me at times.
I had no say, either way, of allowing or disallowing it to fly. It was not my choice nor was it my personal freedom to allow it to stay or go and it certainly did fly!
Why is it sometimes so easy for people who do not understand something of what someone is going through or went through, especially if perhaps those same people have never gone through it and do not understand the dynamics involved, to automatically non-judgmentally, give advice - even if their intentions are pure?
I need to know what you are speaking about before I can remind you.
In answer to your last reply…
Her^
Any her.
Or him, for that matter.
No one can be the person with whom you never resolved a conflict.
But there is one who can give you unlimited rest within every test. The ground of intrinsic value. The keeper of the ones we lost, who now know (if they didn’t before) they lost us. There will be reconciliation.
But you are vulnerable to predators who will take advantage of your need for resolution. Be careful.
This is also a word to mothers/parents missing lost sons. Especially if you never got to allow/nudge them to grow up.
The oppressed/oppressor trauma bond has two victims.
Ichthus,
Can you re-word the above, Ichthus? I am not catching your drift here.
Ichthus,
I do appreciate your concern here, Ichthus, thank you, but that is not going to happen.
It is not really the strongest need so much as it is - let us say - like ironing out the wrinkles somewhat. I am not sure if that expresses it. Some wrinkles are more difficult to iron out than are others. It is also a bit like grief I might say. It is not always with you - it comes and it goes - and hopefully each time it goes, it leaves a little more clarity and understanding.
I think that Rumi expresses it well below.
Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.
Rumi
Whether or not someone is dead, no one can ever replace them, and it’s putting too much on them to expect such. Some conflicts will remain unresolved if not all parties are willing or able to reconcile. Forgiveness is costly, a kind of death, and it does not require anyone’s participation beyond your own willingness. Holding on to what you can’t control will make you and others vulnerable to the transference of the need to control. Let others control themselves, and protect yourself and vulnerable others from harm beyond their control (& within yours).
Don’t reset a leg that wasn’t broken in the first place. But if it’s broken or not healing properly… don’t use it for a crutch. The only one qualified to be used as a crutch is the one whose leg was never broken… or can miraculously heal their own leg.
Sometimes the leg is the least of one’s problems, and sometimes brokenness is a blessing… We can lean on each other (best) when we BOTH get all of the above.
Better?
I prefer to let God move mountains, put camels through eyes of needles, see a valley of dry bones revive, and watch s/he who is forgiven more, love more.
But that’ll never happen unless you do acknowledge dead as dead. Some folks prefer their wrinkles. It’s in God’s hands.
OK Ichthus, thank you for your caring imput.