I am going to feel better than happy. I am doing happily. I notice that if I see somebody and I try to make them feel sad or upset it seems as though I have no effect on them at all. If I try to make them feel joyous or happy, I might see an effect on them, but that is probably because they are feeling happy already, and, I really have no effect on them at all. That seems to be the extent to which somebody can alter the emotional state of another person.
I do think that one could do something or say something that appears to anger or agitate another person, but I believe that person’s distress results from ideas or actions that conflict with their beliefs.
In my eyes, the theory that I control my own emotional state holds water. I decide how I feel through an innate ability we all share called perfect choice. I choose to feel better than happy. I always try to notice if I can see others who also feel better than happy. While it seems there are many people who are not amenable to choosing to feel better than happy, I do notice some who are. I see this by looking into their eyes.
To feel better than happy, I first let my self feel happy. I do this by just pretending to feel happy which, amazingly, makes me feel happy. I continually practice this technique. While feeling happy, I imagine how it is to feel better than happy. From this perspective, I think almost everybody feels happy, and they just do not know it.