I need a woman's advice

well…I am new to the forums so I do not know any women on here…and i need the advice of an intelligent woman. I would rather not post my personal problems online so if you would care to listen could you say so, so I could pm you?
PLEASE I have no one to turn to…and this is advice only a woman could give.

Careful ladies.

I will not post what he messaged me. Too offensive.

Thanks for the heads-up, Loren - I kinda guessed where this was heading… :wink:

Hmm, did you happen to contact this person Magsj? Sometimes these requests are harmless. I have gotten a few. It can be hard to mention somethings even if you are mostly anonymous. Lots of confusion out there in the world.

and what’s most surprising is that some people STILL accept these baits. :imp:

I did not contact the person in question, Kris, no… :open_mouth:

…coz it’s too tempting a proposition, to want to help a person, that’s why! #-o

Oh well, I guess I will go for the bait. If someone needs help, then i figure its only right, if there is something amiss then I can make a report.

:laughing:

Oh, don’t get me wrong: I was tempted to know what the query was, as I am the curious kind, which can get one into trouble on many an occasion… #-o

I PMed the guy. He was legit. Dont know why he didnt just post it here though. Its not that embaressing if you think about how many people deal with it.

well, maybe the guy was really in search of help

but I do think the probability of it is very low, like in the case of that ‘bullied’ fella

What’s the problem? Erectile disfunction?

How to find where to put it in the dark?

wow…I have sent no pm’s to anyone…so i don’t know what i did i simply want advice about a girl i think i am in love with and that is not the kind of advice you get from a man…since you all think I am an asshole without even knowing me i will post my problem for you to read just so you know i am not faking it…or whatever. Oh…and isn’t saying things like “is the problem erectile disfunction” against the forum rules?

I tried to get with this girl for 9 months and the entire time she denied me because she wanted someone else and had been trying to get with him for about 1 1/2 years. I haven’t seen her in 7 months and I just cannot stop thinking about her. I am the type that thought I could never feel like this about anyone but yet I find my self falling to tears thinking about her everyday.
There is also another factor…our personalities. She went to a catholic school and is the extremely good type of girl…the do no wrong type. I am part of the outcast crowd and am used to hanging out with the “bad” people. I am simply wondering if something is wrong with me for feeling this way about someone so different. Should I try to forget her or should I try to talk to her? Keep in mind she has denied me 5 times mostly because of the fact that she wanted the other guy but also because she see’s me as the bad type…and I am nothing like those people. PLEASE help.

I’d walk away, mate. 5 times is a lot to be rejected by the one person. From my experience and observations, it clicks over pretty much instantaneously if they are interested.
I know it’s hard to stop thinking about someone when you feel as you do, but my advice would be to move on.

Listen to Fent.

Usually, the image you have in your mind about a person isn’t a realistic one…you are putting this girl on a pedastal when there are millions of other women in the U.S., many of which are undoubtedly better than the one you’re pursuing.

I was mentioning this on another thread, but I used to be terrible with women…until I found some resources that helped me get much, much better; however, there was a point made in my research I’ll never forget. Regardless of how good you are with women, how attractive you are, etc., there will always be some women that will not be interested in you, period.

Part of becoming so attached to a woman, usually, is because you don’t have enough options. If you were pursuing 20 girls instead of one, she wouldn’t seem nearly as important. Maybe you haven’t been close to many girls. I know I wasn’t, which made me get extremely attached very easily when I didn’t know what I was doing with women. This, of course, repels women.

Ah, the ubiquitous love triangle/unrequited love… :-k

I guess that until your attentions are turned to another/others, you will probably not be able to move on: which is pretty much the mass consensus here - unless you are happy in your current situation, that is…?

No. In fact, if you search (try “It’s fallen and it can’t get up!”), you’ll find it’s a delightfully frequent topic here.

We were actually thinking about a dedicated “E.D.” board.

I agree with the comments so far, but with one possible qualification.

Is she hot?

I mean, really hot?

The first thing you have to do is to regain some sense of humor about yourself.

You might also try getting laid.

Rinse, lather and repeat.

Yes you can. You are thinking about her because you are used to thinking about her. (like waking up at a particular time on weekend because you are used to waking up at the same time during the week). What you need is a distraction to break this mind pattern. Some sort of goal or project that would require most of your mental energy and free time should do the trick.
The question is, do you want to?

D0rkyd00d,

Your posts are beginning to sound like advertisements for one of those “How to get any woman” manuals. :smiley:

no sympathies from me.

be a man and stalk her.