What do we call opposed to egoism in this regard?
What?
I would think having children could be egotistical, or selfless, or greedy, or cowardly, or bold, or self-effacing or just about anything else.
Or just an accident that becomes beloved family. Our kid was a BC pill baby.
Creation for the sake of another. No, that’s dumb. It’s not necessarily egoistical to want children. It can be seen as instinctive.
or out of the love for life to continue, for childhood not to fade, and most of all, to make HER happy.
Her? Obe, it was my husband that wanted our baby, not me. Out of love for him I became a mother. The male very often influences the female on this choice.
Do you mean altruism?
Some parents think of children as their little slaves that will eventually also take care of them when they grow old so yes, it can be egoistical.
But usually the reasons for wanting to have a child are, at their core, instinctual - preservation of species by propagating genetic material and having offspring.
Atheris,
You sound more like a scientist here. Actually, I think that “usually” if it’s a planned pregnancy, it’s because the man and woman love each other and want to create something, someone, to express that love, to share in that love, a child. It’s like a loving alchemical union of opposites to call forth a Being to be binded to them, with them.
If we consider that there are 4 races and that for 2 of them love is entirely terra incognita, then we must conclude that having children is, for two of them, egoism, and for the two other out of creativity, or call it love, which is non-egoistical. Therefore two races live in polygamy and the two other in monogamy.
It is interesting that the modern f*ckers do consider open relationships as a selfless enjoyment and monogamy as something selfish, but they don’t know the love of one’s soul but only sex.
The modern man is a degeneration.
Why? Society changes, grows, regresses, goes somewhere new, it is all evolution. Would you prefer no change?
Why do you think you have the right to tell anybody who and how many they should love, or if they should love at all.
Polygamists can love many people at the same time, is that not better than loving just one person?
No they can’t, and everybody has the right according to his power.
If someone regresses it is ok to remove him like an animal.
Aahh one of those.
Yes, it is also natural to have children.
Might is right? And then you talk about love?
Kris: Not to break up the flow of ideas, but i may
have a basis
for a difference of opinion here. Yes, Your Husband may have indicated he wanted the child, yet he may wanted it for You, Your hapiness. But it’s really hard
to say who wants it more, the man or the woman,
the feelings, the psychologies are so much different. A man wants to literally fulfill his duty, a woman wants growth, continuation, permanence. By duty, i
mean of loving, caring, protecting.
We both were on the phone hearing the results, when we heard positive, I caught a smile on his face and hope, he turned a way quickly then turned back with a bland look and said it was up to me since it was my body. I know my dearest friend too well, his face was bland, his eyes twinkled with hope. He knew I was career orientated.
Fathers want to be dads as much as mothers want to be moms, and sometimes just one wants to be. Maybe in the past women dreamed of babies, not so much anymore now that options are there.