Life is not just party and pleasure,it is also pain and despair.unthinkable things happen.sometimes every thing turns upside down.bad happen to good people.some things are beyond control,such as physical disability and birth defects. we cannot choose our physical di sability and birth defects.we cannot choose our parents or the circumstances of our birth.so if the ball bounced that way ,sorry.but what do we do from here,cry or take the ball run ?that is a choice we have to make.
On a clear day ,there are hundreds of boats sailing in all the different direction in a lake.HOW COME?.Even though the wind is blowing in one direction,the sailboats are going in different direction.What is the difference?.It depends on the way the sail is set ,and that is determined by the sailor.The same is true of our lives.we cannot choose the direction of the wind ,but we can choose how we set the sail. 
Life is stranger than you might fathom.
YES,I did it.