Since the you have grown a lot recently, you must be looking for your active identity. Being part of a whole person involves moderating the various aspects of your personality, helping yourself out when feeling confused, criticised, or depressed, giving input to silence the self-talk, and generally being your own best friend.
If you are interested in finding yourself just look within. Look deeply at who you are, and who you have always been. Forget about your name, age, and geographical location. Write a few paragraphs on what you know about yourself, and why you like yourself.
I am emtiness – I am desire – I am cowardice. I want but I do not act. I act but I do not want. I am habit – I am chained to my habits of desires which have gone dreadfuly wrong. I am cold, uncaring and harsh though I care. I am closed, afraid to come out, for, the moment that I do I shall be forced to look at myself; I am afraid to see myself so I do not act. I am laziness. I am tired and weary of life. Uninspired. Little motivated. I am beneath pity worthy only of loathing and disgust. You wish to know who I am, well here I am, do you see?–it is appauling! I see too and that is why I hide. I am fear, afraid more of me than of you. I am sadness and pain though I laugh. I am ugliness though there is beauty within the ugliness. I am crying though I have no tears. I am doomed . . . but so are you.
I am me and you are you. Mirror, oh, dreadful mirror! What does thy want from me? Why does thy not let me be? I hold thee in contempt you wretched fiend! Be gone and let me rest! No . . . oh, dear me. It is all a loop . . . all a dreadfull loop…