The idea of love at first site has always been one that amuses me.
conservately in you’re life id say to encounter (simply physically see) aprox. 10,000 people. depending on how well traveled you are they are probably reside in you’re of residence.
out of the 6,000,000,000 peole on earht and the hundreds and hundreds of languages spoken you jsut os happen to meet the one person who was destined to be with you.
i mean it seems far fetched.
I belive that two people can share many similar feelings and characteristcis and have a close bond with one anyother…but gimme a break
I guess soulmates are not that strange if you believe in Providence.
Kindred spirits are probably possible even in an agnostic view, as similar people get to know one another.
Love at first sight seems debatable. How do you know someone is a kindred spirit from first sight? But I believe in Providence, so I don’t have a problem with The Spirits bringing people together and letting you know. Good spirits, evil spirits. (Or, if an agnostic might think people can be psychic, their own spirits.)
In the 9th grade, so around 16, I saw a girl for the first time, it was love at first sight and it was mutual.
If I wouldn’t have felt it I wouldn’t have believed it. Well it wasn’t that strong and basically I don’t look back on it at all, it was just a feeling I experienced and it taught me something. I also met another girl with which it seems I share everything, except my life. Well not in that way as we are just best friends, but you could say we share our lives too. I can tell you that there is no (good, warm and fuzzy) feeling I didn’t feel for her. She is my everything, not just my best friend - she is my life.
There are all kinds of people out there. Why shouldn’t it be your soulmate, or the one destined to spend their whole life with you, or even better, what if it’s the same person and you get to share both, which is an absolutely fantastic feeling. Love is wonderful and until you can feel ALL levels of love, you can never understand it fully - to its true potential. And I felt all levels and I can assure you, every, each and one of those, exists.
It is just different for everyone
If it wasn’t what would have been the point. I could make a 1000 long post here describing how every level of love felt for me. If it was the same for you there was no need to feel it yourself since you could feel it ‘through me’. But it is different. And that is the real secret that some don’t see. And they probably never will until they open their eyes and see their significant other as nobody else ever saw them. I won’t lie, I do see my best friend as perfect and the most beautiful girl in the world.
On the other hand they say ‘beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’ which again proves my point: it’s different for everyone and I can only wish you all to experience it/them.
This is how it works with the numbers. You got hooked by one and you don’t want another. That’s why later you believe that destinated love between two people exists. Those who love at first sight are people who either have low emotional IQ or watch too much films. The love experience is an event lasting over a period of time, not sets up in an instance. Love changes like everything else in time, even with the same girl. Love at 16 in comparison with love at 26 is like the weed with the fruit. However, age alone does not gurantee that you would love creatively, many love badly at the age of 66. In love, you need to manifest everything for yourself, set up a whole realm for yourself and find your own way. This is what most people can manage, some do it richly, some poorly. It takes strength and intellect, knowledge and wisdom to make love something enjoyable to life. That is something most people cannot manage. “Love has to be learnt”, so wrote Nietzsche. How many people actually concentrate on learning love, given that most of their time are spent on making love. The love experience for the beast is all about getting off. Highly evolved specieses like us surely can do much better. How cheap is the act of sex to you, is how cheap your love is. Much love nowadays cannot get cheaper and shorter, I wonder who, or what are responsible. Nietzsche would let you know, even though he lived a century ago. I put up a scale and measure the depth of your love, “creativity” is the scale’s name.
I have to say I don’t quite agree with you fully. You made some good points but not enough - or at least not the ones I would agree with.
This seems quite wrong and mostly sounds like something someone who never experienced would say, much like one would say “hmm I don’t get what the point is with those cell phones… all nerds buythem and show off… pfft” and the second you get a chance to buy one, you turn into that very same nerd you made fun of (midnight - bad analogy time ) but you get the idea. And please don’t stick to details like “OMG don’t compare love with a cell phone” cos I know you got my point
I never said love at first sight is something meant to last, just that it exists and therefore can be experienced by anyone. LAFS is something like, falling or at least feeling like you are one step away from falling for a girl the second you see her (and I won’t go into obsessive stalking talks and so on).
LAFS has nothing to do with the number of people you meet or maths. When I hear about calculating compatibilities or probabilities on hooking up with or meeting someone… I start laughing.
Love is something that just happens. There are many types of love. I already said that. Some take a minute to happen, others take months, others years and sadly some never happen or at least not mutually.
p.s. Most people at 16 have low emotional IQ, so no point feeling ashamed. However, if at the age of 36 and still expereinceing LAFS so frequently so that have to abbreviate it…
If I haven’t managed to misunderstand Nietzsche, then chances are that I haven’t misunderstand you, my friend. Actually what I believe is that you were so offended by my straight forward words so that you ignored my serious reasoning and my personal experience behind my point. btw, I have absolutely no interest to analyse you, my friend. I don’t even analyse my real friends that often nowadays, because I much prefer their facade.
Maybe I do overestimate love, the power of love, meaning of love and its various variations. I just think that if more people believed in it they would be happy that’s all
I know I am - maybe a false happyness… I admit. But sometimes it is enough when you meet someone wonderful I guess. No offense meant to you of course - everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
You don’t have to explain to me the possibility that your happiness or mine might be a false one. You see my friend, according to Nietzsche the Great, happiness is the product of errors. Mankind is the result of errors. Some errors are virtouse if you can manage to beat off their vicious side. Neither need you tell me about the powerfulness of love, my friend, love is immensely powerful on all souls, it kills some of the most creative among us. Why do you think those poets died so young?
Personally, “soulmates” do sound a bit out there. Although, Love does not. We use our companion to find love. Without them it is impossible to find it (try finding it by yourself).
It doesn’t matter who it is as long as they work for you. They are the mystical, long-lost secret key to unlock something just simply amazing.
) but you get the idea. And please don’t stick to details like “OMG don’t compare love with a cell phone” cos I know you got my point