Madam or Ms. or Miss, if you have any compassion &/or empathy left in your heart for men, I would be grateful if you took the time to read this and offered your opinion. (ok, guys too) Yes, I’m aware this topic sounds laughable to some, but I am wondering if I can and should combine the two. (Ok, this is a little dirty, bear with me please; I’ll try and keep it short, but usually fail). Basically, every woman I’ve loved (as women usually understand love, not most men) has been a non-philosopher/-izer. Usually what happens is that everything is fine at first, she even seems interested in philosophy or at least intellectual discussions (I often later find out that was feigned interest, unfortunately it seems at least a few women are also not above this ‘tactic?’). But inevitably there is a dis-integration and the questions begin:
Do you have to analyze everything?
Do you have to read all the time?
Why do you read such strange books?
Why do you have so many books or don’t you have enough books?
I believe in X and I don’t care if it is irrational, something just tells me its true
Why don’t you ever seem interested when we go shopping, to disney world, the women’s ‘accessory’ store, out with my friends (usually all women and sometimes a ‘man’ who is just ‘one of the girls’, that mostly exchange gossip, small talk, opinionate (is that a word?) about pop culture, celebrates, their tivo’d soap operas, and look dumbfounded at me if I mention anything remotely intellectual)?
Do you have to think so much? (i’m restarting the questions here)
Why won’t you go to church with me on Sundays? (I actually do go once in a while, just to get updated on the ‘evils’ of evolution, but that’s beside the point)
You get the idea, basically conflicts arise, I believe, mostly because of our different interests. A lot of people not interested in Philosophy seem to have a hard time understanding those of us who are, especially if we’re serious about it.
So my little theory, my hope, is that a woman who is interested in philosophy would be more likely to understand me and therefore, hopefully, we’d be more compatible…loving and living happily ever after.
Is this just a self-deluded pipe dream? I can see on this forum, and many other philosophy forums I’ve been on over the years, that there are definitely women interested in philosophy, although their numbers for some reason seem roughly half that of men’s. Even at that it seems there must be quite a few single (I suppose its more PC to say ‘available’, but some women might be offended by its connotations as well, perhaps ‘unattached?’) anyway, women who might be interested in a relationship (maybe even with me!). However, there’s not a good, or rather, dare I say, efficient, way of interested parties to meet (i.e. god forbid, a sort of online philosophy dating site). Many of us project the image that we are above such things so I know some will find all this quite humorous (sir, you have my permission to fo;). Since such a vehicle doesn’t appear to exist, and I’m not one to build a bridge when I can cross with a ferry (no pun intended), how would people so inclined proceed? Directly emailing a philosophy forum member of the opposite sex, especially in the male to female direction, can be quite risky, IMing may be even more so. So what to do, create a pretense to justify the intrusion? I’m not particularly incline to this, since some women act highly upset when they find out the true motive, not to mention the approach seems to me to tread shaky ethical ground.
Ok, I’ve gone on enough, you get the idea. How can or does or should a philosophically inclined person meet a like minded, available and interested sexual opposite of the same species?
Thanks, butwhoami
ps. I might post this on another forum site in an effort to elicit a second opinion, I hope that doesn’t freak anyone out
ps. two, I would be grateful to receive a private message, email, IM, forum post, or even a sound thrashing at this point, from any eligible women.