hi, i’m a noob, starting a new topic on a board i just descovered… feeling a bit nervous, but i have a topic i feel worthy of discussion.
love… what is it? is it just chemical signals that make you feel good, or is it a primeval need for security?
without wanting to start a debate like a total amature, and not wanting to clog the topic up with pointless explanations, i’ll just start at the start.
i just tried to discuss with my girlfriend what i believe love to be…
(may not have been a good idea)
i told her… love is NEED… i love you because i need you… nobody else in the world can give me what you give me. but true love is reciprical need… to have somebody need you just as much as you need them. if the equation is unballanced, that is when fake love is born… i will chase your love until you finally need me.
if you think about the way some men’s motto is ‘treat them mean, keep them keen’, the women strive for the man’s attention, thus convincing themselves that they are in love with them (this could equally work for men too). but all they really want is that person to feel the same way about them… to need them as much as they do.
now when you talk about true love, and a relationship buit on it, you will probably find that each partner NEEDS something from the partner that no other can give them, and gives to the partner in return.
ahh, i really shouldn’t be drunk when i start a topic…
oh well
It’s cool. Half of the stuff on ILP is written under the influence of weed or peyote.
Anyway, I agree. Love is another basic need. And still, its not just a electro-chemical cocktail. Its a feeling, one with profound consequence. In short, you gave her the right answer; I just hope she thinks so…
…this post was brought to you by Cannabis: “Good times, any time.”
true love also gives loyality , honour , respect , kindness, support , understanding , honesty , commitment , and trust. which is resipricated between the man and women.
I don’t think we can so easily qualify love as one of the basic needs, of which would include food and shelter. One can survive, live – dare I say – quite a happy and even fullfilling life, without love. If one can do without it, then it isn’t a nessecity.
But, of course, love is so much far more interesting than that. I would like to turn this question a little sideways. Can someone describe an act of love that people would all agree to as, definitivly, an actual act of love.
I can think of, for instance, a person sacraficing his or her own life for the one s/he loves. Is this done out of need? How about from an evolutionary perspective? Doesn’t make much sense, does it? Survival is more basic, primary.
Honestly, there’s not a lot here to criticize. I suppose one could say you’re being a trifle simplistic - love is more an amalgam of many emotions, not reducible to another, more simplistic term like ‘need’ - but, generally, I think you’re in the right ballpark.
In turn, the question would be: Do you think this is a good or bad thing?
