Love

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The reason why women, generally, get over broken relationships quicker is because they have more options.
A woman, even a not so good looking woman, can easily choose her pick of the litter; pussy is an inherent commodity.
Good looking women are drowning in a sea of men just waiting to get inside of them.

In regards to men, they are not so fortunate in this regard. A survey suggests that more than 50% of the male population
goes years without sex.

It’s very easy to get over someone, when you have plenty of other options on stand-by that can quickly make you forget about your ex.
This is why dudes will recommend to their buddies that they should get laid, in order forget about their ex-girlfriends. A nice good fuck
with a new and beautiful woman has a way of renewing a man, kind of like a baptism.

In regards to neediness, a lot of guys end up by shooting themselves in their own feet, when their relationships are ended.
They immediately feel intense despair and try to salvage the relationship. They become needy; constantly sending floods of texts,
bleeding their hearts out, begging for them to come back, telling them how much they need them.

They feel this intense despair, because, in the words of Sloterdijk, a spherological catastrophe happens.
When a romantic relationship is formed, the two people become one, a bubble of intimacy is formed.
A sort of completion, if you will; the other person’s missing half is conjoined.
This completion brings both partners a very powerful sense of joy, inner calm, and contentment.

However, when this relationship is abruptly ended, when the two become separated, it literally feels
like the person (the one still in love) has a nasty void eating away at their soul, a very dark feeling of
emptiness, sadness, and despair.

A sort of withdrawal happens, like a heroine addict trying to go cold-turkey.
Being in love, or rather being around your loved one, produces a natural high (serotonin).

So, when the relationship ends, the spherelogical bubble of intimacy and comfort is broken
and the one still in love feels the cold breath of despair blowing down their neck.
It’s an almost apocalyptic feeling.

How a man handles this situation says a lot about his character, what he is really made of. And women intuitively pick up on this.
It’s akin to how a man conducts himself during a heated and unexpected battle in war. Will the man panic, fumble about, cry and beg for mercy?
or will he remain composed under pressure - controlling his emotions, standing firm, and moving forward without asking quarter?

An ended relationship can be like a microcosmic war. You either have the inner strength to make it out, or you are too weak to
handle it and get crushed.

When you cry and beg for your lover to come back, you only show them that you are a weak coward.
When you are indifferent or self-composed, they find this bewildering in a mysteriously attractive way and this
is because they intuitively sense your inner warrior, your power.

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“like a heroin ddict trying to go cold-turkey”

Correct. This is almost impossible, and believe it or not, getting a heroin addict to eat cold turkey is not much easier. Over a month ago I had a dispute with a heroin addict over a turkey sandwich. I had bought two sandwiches and decided to eat the ham hoagie instead of the turkey sandwich. Brandon, he was the heroin addict, had the nerve to refuse the turkey sandwich and ask for the ham hoagie. Not only did I drive, but I also bought the sandwiches. I told him I’m the one with the money and he’s the heroine addict without a vehicle… so he doesn’t get to choose. Now he was already irritated because I had been lecturing him about the evils of heroin addiction (although I wouldn’t know because I don’t do heroin) and the evils of heroine addiction, i.e., the fixation on female superheroes (I know all about this).

Anyway, I final told him I no longer expected him to quit cold turkey, but goddammit I expected him to eat cold turkey when I bought it for him.

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The tables turn as you age. Now, women hit on me, just they are upper twenties, early thirties. I’m told this will last a good twenty years for me… guy in his early 30s. They even have a gradient calculation for men to women compatibility by age. It says if I’m with a woman, and she is 30, and we break up for even a day, she is instantly too old for me. I have to go with someone younger, it’s not me, it’s science saying this.

Its revenge for being 18 and all the girls my age we’re fucking way older guys, looking at me like I was nothing. They can’t find dates with men under 55 once they hit menopause unless he is a single father in need of a mother for his children at all cost.

Women play the sexuality game when it’s to their full benefit, but then become incensed when the tables are turned. Women find men in their 40s really attractive, and we don’t necessarily have to his menopause ever. You can be some old fart with a beer bottle in front of you, lying your ass off, passing yourself off as the mist interesting man alive. You won’t get the 19 year old, but maybe the 38 year old with that act.

Rickrod her, but a baby in her, and die of a heart attack in bed beneath her. All the war scars on your body are from secretly from liposuction surgeries.

Bitch.

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Love is not a war, not a hunt, not a contest; love is a dance.

It’s a harmonious inter-play of one foot-forward and then one backward - a dynamic duo.

Those who say they want a mate who is a challenge are unbalanced souls, who are filled with inner turmoil.

Love is not a contest of tug-of-war; love is an invitation to dance.

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You’re a Taoist now? Weren’t you a Buddhist not too long ago?

Love is a dance? No, love is a paper bag full of shit.

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Closer to Sufi than Taoist actually in this thread.

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I never was a Buddhist. I had an avatar of the Buddha, but that was a mere avatar.

I like the Eastern mystic philosophies, but I don’t label myself under anyone in particular.

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Neo-hippie? No judgement, who doesn’t like the free luvin of beautiful brain dead flower girls?

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I really like what you say above. I like it’s hesitancy, it’s uncertainty and it’s passion. It is totally feminine and I think most women would think of love in this way.

Zoe Casavettes (daughter of John Casavettes and Gena Rowlands) said her inspiration for her movie Broken English came from her perception of other people’s impression that happiness can only come from being in love with someone, saying: “I got caught up and swept up in the whole idea that I didn’t have any worth until I found that person … So I just wanted to make a nice, little portrait about what happens to someone when they get caught up in all of that.”

She says that the relationship problems the main character encounters in Broken English are mostly autobiographical, saying: “I’m obsessed with the idea of love on many different levels – love through family, love your friends, love yourself and who you give that love to, who you can take it from.”

Broken English

youtube.com/watch?v=rN8DOKphMDc

youtube.com/watch?v=6ynjdDukPxw

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One would think most women think of love that way, but they really don’t, not now, anyway.

It’s the other way around I’ve noticed. It’s basically cliché for women to state, when asked
what they are attracted to in a mate," I want a man, who is a challenge".

It’s understandable that an aloof guy would stand out; guys flock to women by the dozens with
warm adulations. But this isn’t, really, the issue. It’s more about the modern Western lifestyle.

Women want chaos/war. It’s why they are obsessed with gossiping, drama TV shows, nightclubs, and so on.
Modern women thrive off relationship drama. If it is not there, they get bored. They love the emotional rollercoaster ride.

They are agents of chaos, still characterized by the survivalist mentality of seek and destroy.
This is how narcissists think and that’s what society is breeding: narcissists.

The “Diva girl” is a euphemism for female narcissism.

Narcissists don’t think in terms of genuine romantic love or platonic relationships. To them, other people are simply means
of maintaining their illusory aggrandized egos. Other people are merely forms of narcissistic supply.

It’s why modern women love going to nightclubs. They feed off the attention that is given to them, like emotional vampires.

There are down-to-earth women out there, who are not like this. But the reality is that many women don’t have a healthy
conception of what love is about.

Love is not supposed to be boring (too much sensitivity), nor chaotic (too much drama); it’s supposed to be a dance (harmonious, graceful, fun).

It’s all about the balance of benevolent push-and-pull, the pathos of distance.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w5emggEYTwM[/youtube]

It’s passionate, intense, in motion; but they do not challenge each other - they work together, as one.
It’s not about winning and losing, who does better; it’s about getting lost in each other, communion.

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Men make women crazy theory
by Zoe Casavettes

vk.com/video796700_168490784

HA!

I think there is some truth in this, particularly the bath scene.

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Did you ever watch this video, erik?

Exhausting. You see how late they were with that lift at the end when the gong is struck? Me, i’da passed out half way through the song.

Watch when they kiss. They’re breathing so hard they can barely manage it.

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It’s love!

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Who is the woman in your avatar? She is very beautiful.

Maybe I can make her crazy for me :wink:

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Rubbish. It is not that at all.

Second, your arguments are incomplete. Yes, women are whores and savages, but why are they whores and savages? I explained in my other thread. I teach, to ye who listens.

Women are whores and savages because they are mindless and emotionally unstable. They are novelty cravers.
They are not war advocates, bloodshed doesn’t match their hedonistic pallette. They will say they don’t want war, on paper. What they crave is novelty, even at a price.

Women are also bullies, but they like to play mental mind-games, rather than physical altercations. Less intellectual male bullies will use physical altercations to extort services from victims. The more intellectual male bully will resort to other means, such as psychological manipulations, subtle threats to use nerds for lunch money, homework help, etc. It is no coincidence that women also use nerds for homework help, and as soon as the nerd is used, immediately discarded when of no longer use.

Love is not a dance. Male best friends are naturally drawn to each other, sexually, but since they are not gay, nothing ever comes of it. When a male and female are best friends, they are naturally drawn to each other. That is true love. This is rare though, because males and females are generally uninterested in the other, and so “love” becomes a dance, nothing more than a sexual game, a battle of wits vs. the witless.

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This is called platonic love.

This kind of a relationship can be very deep between a man and a woman, but as soon as one moves forward to the next step in a relationship, sexual expression, if the other does not reciprocate, it can be devastatingly frustrating and usually disintegrates into an ordinary friendship. I would not call this a relationship, it usually consists of a woman being the muse for the man.

It does not have lasting value.

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It is not platonic love. Platonic is through family members.

It is not friendzone zone either.

Close best friends have a sexual component. Marcus and Dom Fenix. Since they are heterosexuals, nothing ever comes of it. But if you have it with a male and a female it becomes very steamy quick.

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Look it up.

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I don’t need to look at dictionary definitions in a serious philosophical chat. I know what platonic love is, and it applies to family members. Close best friends have a sexual component…if you deny this you deny my truth and the truth of Otto Weininger before me.