But there is a kind of kindness that is offered because the person giving it has an abundance of strength, will and power, and can therefore afford to be kind without this being in any way a measure of their constitution.
Kindness, the kind chosen to give by those who are satisfied, content and confident in themselves, is not a weakness.
Rather ironically, it would be an insult if anything; I am powerful enough to decide on a whim to do what the weaklings do because they must, and cannot do otherwise; be kind.
These people are peaceful only because they cannot be warlike… not because they choose to be so. If you chose, then you would be an abundance of power… because that would mean that you are capable of evil, but have the legislative power over yourself, your values, your drives, your appetites, to demonstrate control.
The kind one from weakness has no such opportunity, no such option, and is therefore less free. Freedom is an indication of power… not freedom in the metaphysical freewill sense… freedom in the state of being less restricted.
In turn, to be less restricted means that one is holding a center of power that is expanding and incorporating circumstances in the world and environment into it, rather than being neutralized…changed, affected and controlled itself, by competitive external forces and powers.
Genuine kindness is afforded by those who’s power could be horrible and over-dominating, not by those who are kind because they cannot be otherwise.
But there are very many degrees of this and probably an ‘infinite number’ (oxymoron intended) of interaction contexts between people in which this is operating.
For instance, John borrows money from Joe because Joe said fuck it, I’ll do it. But Joe isn’t doing it with strings attached. He is not doing favors because he thinks he should do favors for his own sake… make John happy so his happiness will be in Joe’s favor. That would indicate a dependence in some way to John. It would mean it was in Joe’s best interest to help someone else… rather than not having to help anyone else (the measure of freedom and independence… that being ‘less restricted’) and continuing to be sustained.
A kind gesture from someone who wants you to be happy because they need you to be happy is not as valuable as the kind gesture from someone who couldn’t care less.
You can like that irony. Go ahead, it’s okay.
p.s. I think I said the same thing like three times in this post. I just smoked some of that loud, so forgive me.