Did i do the right thing? My sister returned to my parents house in the US from New Zealand-she’s 27. My parents allowed her back provided that she do two things,
break up with her too much older for her boyfriend and 2) never return to New Zealand again and instead stay in the US and try to get her stuff together here.
Well the other night, I had the misfortune of learning from my uncle that she was leaving for New Zealand this morning after spending an unhappy 3 months in the US…but she swore him to secrecy. So i was in a moral dilemma, do I tell my parents she planned on secretly flying to New Zealand in the morning or do I respect her desire to not have them know so that she can sneak out quietly? I chose to tell my parents and they had it out with her before she left. She left anyway, did i do the right thing?
Hello philosophyGirl,
I think thats a problem very personal to you. Does it matter what other people think about how you handled it? Family matters are very hard for an outsider to comment on.
Yes, you did the right thing. Your sister still ended up making the decision, you didn’t have to keep a secret, your parents and sister got the opportunity to talk about, however angrily.
Think about if you said nothing than your parents might be worried and not know what happended to her. If you didn’t tell them do you believe your parents would have found out from your uncle? Then your parents learn that you knew where your sister was the entire time and you didn’t tell them. I think they would have more of a problem with that.
Now, this is just my theory so let me know of there is a flaw in what I have said.
I hope what I have said is of some help to you PhilosophyGirl.