Excellent, Gobbo. Review Monooqs records and get a trace on any posts pertaining to sexual matter. Then report back to me.
Ummm ok and the point is…
No point.
I’m just borrowing your thread.
In this thread I’m asking for help on how to write a letter.
If you don’t want to help…don’t bother posting.
Wow, what a hoot! Except for one thing. I don’t know anything whatsoever about women, but I hope to god that they aren’t a thing like the monster faust described. Aren’t they just men with different sexual organs, and a psyche designed for child-rearing and not killing antelopes? Or was that a stupid thing to say? I don’t understand, please enlighten me.
Oh, and, Screenraider, I think you need to read more philosophy and ignore girls for a while. You kind of come across as a jerk…
I’m not having much luck… that search function is about as useful as eating paint chips. I’m convinced it’s nothing more than an outlet for more ads as it does literally nothing of any precision.
I did scan a few posts though… and judging from
the fluid metaphor and what seems like an otherwised introverted sexual energy let loose temporarily screams, to me, of only one person. But from this whole thing I get the feeling it is not her as you two seemed to have been past the anonomous pm’s.
You know who I mean.
Screen,
You better stop talking to us and write this letter already before you lose her to some foreign pool boy named Felipo.
…and also:
I am not incapable of being domesticated, godammit!
No! Touch me, chase me. I want it!
This is fucked, Gobbs. I think I know who it is too. My God, could it be her?
The gods have smiled upon me.
You leave Felipo alone, buster. He works hard for his family and coulda been a quantum physicist had he the proper education.
Secret admirers are candy-assed, psycotic craps.
If you ever got “in touch” with the childish foolz, they would be the sort to expect for you to give them everything that they wanted without them even asking, thus they get frustrated with you and hate you for no reason.
Basterds, all evil basterds.
Avoid them! 
Imagine that you are her, what would you need most? What would do you the most good if you were her?
^
Thus – my “advice”.
Never put yourself in the “im sorry” submission position, that doesn’t help anything, just cut the crap n focus on what everybody needs.
Thanks Dan, yes I think your write. The I’m sorry submission, I can’t do that, that’s just lame - like you said, focus on the positives maybe.
It’s Sleepless in Cyberspace.
If it’s her… then I would count you as lucky my friend.
Go to her!
Yes Gobbo. I will go to her.
I will go to her dressed in my best italics and I will bring her a dozen fresh emoticons.
If that doesn’t win her…I will use bold lettering and leave the caps-lock on.
Thank you for your counsel, Old Gobbo.
lol
careful with the caps lock approach… it’s sort of a love it or hate it type thing.
Best of luck detrop, if there’s a woman out there who feels she can tame you then best of luck to her too…
…and now, an exposition. eek. Hit nerves aside,
Raider,
Chump? Dumbass? Okay, this I understand, but F-me? Raider, I’m not sure I am that kind of friend. You have to understand, I am not one of your one-a-night girls, I am independent. Your reactio…um, er…responses to my post are very telling. Were you caught up in a drunken rage when you responded? Surely it can’t be this easy…can it Raider?
Don’t worry about writing me an apologetic letter. I mean, what’s a little venting among friends? I’m here for support Raider. Let it out, let it all out. Raider, I could say you are fascinating but we both know the answer to that question. I have to admit, my response to you had a multiprong approach that served it’s purpose well…for most parts. Usually I just stop here and move on but, just for you Raider, I will demonstrate, if only a little, the point of my exposition. First, as a friend, I would like to see nothing but success in this endeavor… be-it you moving on, or ending up with her.
There are certain aspects about you I wasn’t sure about, call them inconsistencies,… thus the mental exercise (you might have later caught on… hey, did someone tip you off? no fair you were mine, all mine…well, after faust). I can now, almost, acertain that you have what would be referred to as an alpha male disposition. So, these rumors flying around on the net about you being with a different girl every night might contain some merit (oh wait a minute, you said that). This alpha male thing might just work for you. Displaying your feathers, you can puff up your chest and make her week in the knees triggering memories of the days when you ravaged her. But before all that, we need to work these inconsistencies out… and, of course, establish friendship first.
You have to understand Raider, you’re currently displaying consistency only attributable to that of a slippery eel (as if there were any other… you know, an eel that wasn’t slippery). Not only have we experienced your reactionary responses, but we have also been privy to your blatant misconstruing of previously made statements (statements made by you). I, as a friend, don’t have a problem with this. You can B.S. me all you want (just says something about you). See, I imagine this is mandatory for your a-girl-a-night habit (yes, I know, you don’t do that anymore…I’ll take your word on that). I’m just not sure if this very smart girl will put up with it (the B.S.).
Of course you might ask what it is you misconstrued; a demonstration: In an earlier post (I’m just going to abbreviate here) you mention that you drink only to later insist that you don’t. 2. You start out by saying that you desperately want this girl back (something about being chilled out), now you just want to write a nice little letter to say sorry so you can move on. 3. You mention you hadn’t had contact with her in 5/6 months but then you mention having seen her (conveniently)with a few of her friends a little more recently (I am hoping she wasn’t having a pajama party with her friends while you were lurking outside in the bushes with your friend holding a big bag of popcorn with binoculars in hand). I imagine talking to her in this situation would create a new set of complications.
Now that I have your attention, let me ask you; what kind of letter would you expect from me after having offended you in this way? Would you even want to correspond with me in a civil manner (think about this Raider).
Now, can see why I recommend friendship first? No? Okay, look at it this way; we (you and I) have only been friends for a very short time and our little spat might be resolved with a simple smiley emoticon (I’m easy that way) without a necessarily long somewhat gay letter (but that would be nice). Now imagine if you will; I’m thinking you slept with her (she gave her self to you physically…this is significant). This otherwise quiet girl shared her life experiences with you (thereby leaving herself vulnerable). With that in mind, I would like you to now consider the annoyance you had with me and multiply it about ten times just to get an idea of how she feels about you.
Raider, I am proposing friendship (with her) because you are currently the object of her pain. In proposing friendship, this will give her options. It’s safe. More than anything, she needs safety right now. So, if she has options, she is more inclined to feel safe. She can walk away whenever she feels threatened (yeah, I know, she is in a different city which makes stalking somewhat of a problem…we can’t have it all)…think of walking away as a metaphorical stance. If you can manage to secure a friendship, start demonstrating what caring and trustworthy(?) guy you are. At least Try. You have a chance to prove yourself in this friendship environment and she has less to lose …given you don’t violate the boundries. Here, you can slowly win her confidence.
I personally don’t want you to give up on this contingency because of the growth potential (not trying to fix her, but you growing inspite of her). She helped you recognize something about yourself and that, I believe, is very important. Hopefully she remains, not only, a catalyst, but a driving force, in helping you develop this new found revelation.
Do apologize. Tell her what kind of friend you want to be to her. Promises have to be made. Ask her, inturn, what her expectations are in this friendship (she needs an illusion of control). This is a good opportunity for you to develop your communication/interaction skills.
Other than the momentary self defensiveness and a few problems with consistency, you seem like an otherwise nice guy. Remind her of this quality (the nice guy, not the defensive or inconsistent guy… save that one for the forums). Most abusers are always very apologetic only find themselves back in that cyclical pattern (she’s probably seen this with her dad. She might recognize this in your apology). Try to figure out what made you snap and deal with it. The alcohol only created an amplification. I only had a relatively minor glimpse when I wasn’t even trying. One can only wonder what damage greater stressers could generate.
Get to know your knee-jerk reaction. Yeah, I know, I know, if you know your knee-jerk reaction it wouldn’t be a knee-jerk reaction anymore dumbass. Well Raider, not quite; you may know it (your knee-jerk reaction) but not recognize what triggers it… these things you know. What we ultimately seek here is delayed gratification (in so many ways). So, try to be cognizant of those triggers.
I now see that in trying to expound on some of my previously abbreviated points, this arduously long winded …(can’t even come up with a word here)…came flowing out. It’s me, not you.
I guess that teaches me to never break a rule: ‘Know thy audience.’ But hey, we are simply mandanely babbling right? So in that spirit, I opted for the oft venerated ‘get to know thy audience.’ Hey, at least I made a new friend. So, everything works out. I’ll leave the other stuff out for now… faust gave you a clue.
Faust,
thanks for that correction. Wasn’t sure why I was hastening to bid adieu. Still trying to figure these boards out. Did you know there are some creatures on this board that utilize animated avatars as a form of subliminal communication? It’s semiotically(caution: made up word) criminal, just criminal. Anyway, I might need yours and Imp’s help on some issue I’m having with a friend (no it’s not raider) regarding idealogy and tribalism. He’s lamenting that tribalism is destroying idealogy all over the world (quite the melodramatic fella). He utilizes Hegel’s Thesis/ Antithesis and incites the massacres in Serbia (?), Rwanda, the Congo, Sudan as his underlying premise… I found myself saying it’s a Hobbes world afterall…(he wasn’t amused… the friend, not Hobbes).
Short of saying, 'well, duh, this ideology has collapsed because it was imposed in the first place (not generated by the tribes involved thereby supressing said tribes) -this is where I might need Imp’s exposition on the barrel of a .45. No imposition, resume tribal wars… let’s not forget the shift in power. I am now wondering how a social contract would function in societies under an imposed ideology?
Hmmmm made me think Sangrain
Although some of the things you seem to have misunderstood. I never said I want to write her a letter and move on, I havn’t forgotten about her and it is has been 6 months so I want to write her a letter…period
I said I hardly drink and when I do it is very light. Once I got drunk, that once was infront of her.
Raider,
Good luck.
Remember, you don’t always have to be right. I beg you think of this in some form of contextual parameter. Learn to let things go. Ask yourself; how does what I’ve misunderstood really matter when you closely examine the context? I could disprove you by quoting verbatim, but that’s not the point. But, if it will make you sleep better, I was wrong, you were right. I completely misunderstood you. Thanks for shining a light unto my aberrant ignorance.
Take care raider, best of luck.