what do you think about young girls attracted to mostly older men(like even in their 50s) ? is that a problem and if so what might be the cause of this?
i think its natural because of the power and experience of the older man, also the challenge etc., but i would love to hear what you think…
I think, as a general rule, young women are attracted to older men either for money or for “fatherly” sorts of issues. If I were 50 and some 22 year old sauntered up to me, I’d be getting away as quickly as possible.
It’s called cash.
I’ve met so many rich men that have 18 to twenty-something girlfriends that they parade around. It says, there’s no way that I could get this unless I was rich, and I did so I am. They’re right, because if fate made them a greeter at Wal-mart they wouldn’t have the squeeze.
I’m well beyond 50 and have noticed that some young ladies are attracted to me. It is especially true of career business women that I assume are just starting out. I’ve noticed that it’s a combination of knowledge and calmness that appears to put them in a hypnotic state.
I’ve also noted a correlation between quality of interaction when I’m wearing sportswear versus an expensive suit, so draw some conclusions from that.
“Is that a problem?”
That depends which man you’re talking about, and which girl you’re talking about, entirely.
If you don’t wanna talk about this, that’s fine.
But, I’m just curious. How many girlies have you gotten sexy with?
What’s your favorite kind of sX?
I know several adult couples that are married with ten years age difference.
They certainly do not fit the - lolita-style-gold-digger-youth - idea.
Some people just find love…
Dan~,
It’s not especially gentlemanly to answer the questions that you’ve asked. Perhaps if you restate them in a more philosophical manner it will be easier to make my fingers work.
It doesn’t have to turn out negatively, but the ideas that form the emotions of love are based on something, and what they are is really the question.
I’d say it’s cos older gents can actually speak to a woman without drooling testosterone out of their flared nostrils. And an older gent can sometimes also speak to their faces, rather than their cleavages, though finding one possessed of both traits may be a little too hopeful.
But I’m old - I have to say this - Damn, there go my nostrils running again, and why oh why do my eyes keep darting down to the diskette slot as I type…?
Status is money and appearance; love is affection and involvement. Age shouldn’t be a superficial obstacle.
I didn’t say: “Who the fuck did you fuck!?”
Also, “gentlemanly” should have died with the victorian age.
I was just curious…
Dan~,
I was married many years ago for a period of time to a women that I met where I grew up. She and I went through quite a bit together, but she died from a tropical disease while we were still very young. It didn’t set with me very well, so I decided to take a job with a firm that a contact of mine worked for.
The job allowed me to travel extensively, and although that sounds romantic, most of the time you’re alone. As I got past my wife’s death I become increasingly tired of the lifestyle. So, I made an effort to start meeting women again, and networked my friends.
Thanks to contacts across the world I’ve met women of almost every type. I used to keep a planner on the subject like some kind of playboy.
Nowadays, I if the mood strikes me I use Match.com to meet ladies for casual dates when I travel or hang out in an area. My attitude in these years tends towards the relaxed. I have no interest in keeping up with anyone that’s tough to keep up with.
embracetrees,
A few variables come to mind: Smell and confidence … which leads to the ardent need to get laid. Hear me out. I imagine a young woman would have no problems getting involved with a young strapping, disk slot humping, buck of a lad (and this happens quite often, out there on the Serengeti), but that’s not the point. We are talking game here. The hunt.
Confidence: Young women are usually attracted to older men because older men possess a cultivated confidence usually not encountered in the young buck. This confidence is a snake charmer’s delight. It is a power older men have taken the time to master. Older men are not desperate (most of the time … hey, let’s not forget, they are still men. A little knee-jerk here and there is not unexpected).
So, this young woman sees this powerful man who doesn’t need her, and she immediately resolves to hunt him down (never truly understanding that she is the hunted). How do older men garner this confidence? Wealth (this confidence usually, but not always, comes with a touch narcissism, banality, and a few more odds and ends), Experience (the well learned professor), the memory of daddy (okay, this is a default mechanism a young lady may transfer unto the older man).
Smell: Besides the possibility that an older man maybe more adept at certain grooming skills, a human body lets off certain natural scents instrumental in this ritualistic mating dance. Once hypnotized and mesmerized by the older man’s charm and confidence, the young lady is now relaxed to smell his combination of Ben Gay, and whatever hemorrhoid cream might be on tap. Okay, I think I just strayed a little, here. Come to think of it embracetrees, just read everything written by both Mr. Predictable and Tabula Rasa in this thread. They said it best.
Yes, I can’t imagine that many poor old men are getting hounded by young chicks. There’s just a few factors at work.
this all depends on your defintion of “maturity” . . . but . . .
men may mature later in life as far as family life and responsibility, women simply may have better chances of stability with an older man . . . hence why women often marry older men.
But with sex roles played around in todays world, the variables are mixed up a lot, and women may also marry younger men. Lots to consider in this thread.
Mr. Predictable,
On average, I, too, doubt a poor older man would have an easier time engaging a younger woman in a sufficient manner (the idea of using chloroform and van is completely out of the question you old fogies, so don’t even attempt to get any ideas. Besides, you have your backs to worry about), due to certain factors.
These might involve; lack of health, lack of confidence due to lack of wealth (American society can be especially brutal in this context), minimal options, … you get the idea.
But, let’s not overlook the creative poor man. I have nothing on this front, yet.
By the way, embracetrees, it is only right or wrong if you deem it so, or your parents deny you the right to hang with your sugar daddy.
In some cases, there could simply be a sort of fetish - that is to say, preference - at work. Everything doesn’t have to include distinct ‘reasons’ or ‘subconscious’ motives. Sometimes, a person just goes through life and finds they like a certain brand or style of [insert noun here] more than the rest.
I am poor and I am old. I am not hounded. I have been searching this thread for some ray of hope. There is none to be found. I guess I could get rich. But then I’d just have beautiful, eager, submissive girls who would have sex with me, who would use me, who don’t really care, deep down. Who needs that?
I guess the better question is “who wants that?”
That one is a no-brainer.
sirswedishmike,
embracetrees did not as about maturity, and she did not ask about younger men getting involved with older women. I’m sure taking into account the contextual parameters involved might minimize what you need to consider ‘in this thread.’
Faust,
All good points, all good points.
You wouldn’t happen to be creative by any chance, would you?
Poor by design, or by default?