Ofcourse this is not a statement towards womankind, but I would like to talk about the side effects of dependancy mechanics.
If I were a parasite, feeding off of you, [taking without giving], I would be cut off or removed shortly, by all means. But… If I were giving you pleasure as I took away your time, energy, money and thought, what would I really be?
In relationships where the man is the “provider”, the “tough guy”, the “strong one”, etc. What if he believes he must satisfy her every wish? What if he feels he has no right to complain or cry when she hits him? Is that “equality”, or is that the moral belief in service?
Belief itself is the main source of human pleasure. When people believe that they are free, beautiful, morally righteous and in a lucky position, they will enjoy what they have, no matter what it is. On the other hand, if someone believes that they are cursed, unlucky, treated unjustly, and diserving of something which they do not get, they will become upset and angry with whatever expectations are not met.
Apply this scenereo to a relationship between the sexes now. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a pamperd bitch from Central Florida, or an oppressed housewife from the Middle-East, what she believes in and what she wants – is what determines her satisfaction.
it is interesting that ‘in the eye of the beholder’ technique,for actually believing what you have is good if you are wading in the shit or believe you have it bad if you are rich and get your almost every desire.
in this subjectivism,the whole world can be tailored. while intriguing,this seems smited by seeing the rest of the world so an objective basis can be formulated.
the rest is cultural infant programming. i suggest reprogramming your mate to combat this culture is distasteful-if possible. not that I’d know dick about how to interact with a mate in this universe via experience.
and…
like vermax?* oh; that would be a drug,or a thing that utilizes natural drugs within. can we really underestimate gratification with this much misery going around?
I can see where you are going, but there is one little bit I have trouble with with theses such as these.
As far as I know, when I came into the world, I didn’t have any “expectations”. I didn’t “ask” to be born to parents X and Y. I did not ask for them to treat me in X and Y manner. I certainly did not ask for whatever those actions were to shape my overall personality.
Many people are not “free” in the sense that they cannot look back and realize that what went on before is what they are doing now. Shit, even people who KNOW that often end up in compromising situations anyway.
These sorts of theses would work well if it were not for the element of determinism that plays so largely in being the result of that from whence you came to a large extent.
What you believe is often determine by what you experience, and when you are young you have no control over what you experience but it shapes your life in very serious ways.
You already know how to treat a mate, if you know how to treat your own body:
Be patient. Admire the good things which the body does. If you are curious and do not understand a part of it, tenderly explore each area antil you fully understand exactly what can satisfy that body.
It’s dreadfully simple, so obvious, yet unseen…
Inner pleasure chemicals are meant to be bodily guidance.
The existential paradigm of:
“pleasure vs pain”,
“comfort vs discomfort”,
“satisfaction vs longing”,
It’s not a bad paradigm, as long as it can somehow be coherent, accurate and wise.
Both a robot or a man can say either: “yes” or “no”. But wisdom, versatility and efficiency can greatly influance the ‘quality’ of the “yes” and the “no”.
shinton, I also believe in determinism.
What I feel would be important to a person’s well-being:
learning how to be satisfied and mild.
I do not think that “Human evils” are due to an abuse of “Freewill”.
[I guess Christians believe that human-evils are an abuse of freewill.]
I think that “Human evils” are ALL FORMS OF MISGUIDANCE.
Ignorance and deception are just one of the many forms of misguidance, and yet, these two alone are the source of most human sin.
(( And when the bible “God” allows deception[Satan], I think it’s as good as causing that deception himself, as he is “All-powerful”, and it would be quite easy for him to theoretically remove the causes of error and suffering on earth. A deterministic belief system, combined with Christianity, utterly destroys it, as God becomes the one morally blamed for all “imperfection”. It is no wonder that Nietzche both believed in fatalsim, and had dealt such a blow to Christian-styled-moralist-philosophy. ))
I also don’t think male-female relationships are very fair.
I think that in some cultures men tend to be abused and exploited,
And I think that in some cultures women tend to be abused and exploited.
I’d tend to agree with the exception that being too mild in this world will get your ass spanked pretty heavily.
I’m on the fence on this one. Some people act nasty who seem to know better.
Right. In America, both get abused, but if it happens to be the man who gets abused, he gets a double dose first by his wife, and then by a legal system who doesn’t believe men can get abused.
