Back in the past century my wife and I discussed the types of complexes that men and women have regarding sexuality and personal security. Among those we discussed were the whore/virgin complex and the Peter Pan and Cinderella complexes. The Peter Pan complex is about the perennial boy inside the man. “I don’t want to grow up’, etc” The Cinderella complex is that "Some day my prince will come."In other words some man will come and make my whole life worth living. Romance novels usually are about the Cinderella complex.
In my experience I did not see my wife as a problem of virgin vs whore. I was Peter Pan. She was Cinderella.
Your insights appreciated.
I can’t imagine Peter Pan and Cinderella having sex. So either these archetypes were only partial or you guys didn’t have much sex.
Peter Pan has a hard time sweeping a woman off her feet sexually.
He might be able to fly her off a pirate ship but he won’t end up ravishing her.
That’s why the most powerful female is the size of a dragonfly in Peter and Wendy.
I think with all this talk about these idiosyncratic “complexes” people miss the obvious more general one - modern people are unnaturally hyper-sexualized.
My wife and I had great sex until she began to look elsewhere. Part of that failure was my own promiscuity of the mind. She acted on her impulses. I didn’t. But I have no blame for her. Causes of failures are always shared.
The Peter Pan/Cinderella complexes were not the total picture. But it was her Cinderella complex, complete with credit card abuse, that ended the marriage.
