ok, would you rather:
be with someone who you loved and you knew would never leave you no matter what?
Be with someone you would absolutely crazy nuts in love with that you werent sure might leave you one day and maybe didnt love you as much as you loved them.
Stay single and just have brief affairs with the latest hot number you come across?
I choose 3. I’d rather have meaningful relationships with people who I like for something other than sex. If I actually like a girl, I’m far less likely to try and get into her pants.
What does that have to do with 3?
If I choose 3, then I can satisfy my urges without tainting the relationships with the people from 1 and 2.
so youre saying youre incapable of being faithful?
I just haven’t ever had a reason to be.
so youve never been in love?
What do love and faithfulness have to do with one another?
obviously the anser is no
I’ve been in love before. I’m in love now. But that doesn’t mean I have to just have sex with one person, or that I can’t be single and still have certain types of relationships.
o…k
What does that mean?
Which one would you choose?
im trying to decide, thats why i ask
Hi Apple,
Choices, when it comes to people are never black and white. These three are too limited. While it might be satisfying for a while to have brief affairs, when love finds you, it’s very difficult to choose this path. I’m not talking about the unrequited kind of love, the kind where you’re crazy about him, but he’s not that crazy about you…that kind only leads to heartache. Love is our teacher, it teaches us to have the highest ideals for our lives.
Love when it finds you, you will know. The one you love, will mirror your love. Know that there are no guarantees, you cannot say, “he will never leave”, because we don’t know what will happen. But what you can say is, that I love you, and I’m willing to go through the joy as well as the pain with you. Because our love is true and deep. You deserve nothing less than to have your love reciprocated.
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
A
one
How can you respect someone who would never leave you no matter what? You might love such a person, but how could you be in love with such a person?
This is a good description of being in love. You never know when your crush will leave you or if (s)he even loves you, (s)he being not the faithful dog-type person mentioned above.
And have only the physical pleasures and not the psychological ones (the rapture and the affection mentioned above)?
If you yourself were made of particularly weak stuff, perhaps?
Or even, if one wanted to believe in some inherent form of selfhood (genetic, spiritual, religious, whatever), i.e. one wanted to believe that one has certain qualities so that regardless of what one actually does one is these things. Being-for-itself convincing itself it is being-in-itself. You’ve read Sartre, I’m sure. So, the person that will never leave you, no matter how much of a jerk or a liar or a bitch you are, is a vindication of these inherent qualities as they ‘shine through’ all the dreadful behaviour that such complacency will almost always bring about.
Now, this may be sad, stupid, weak, confused and unsound, but we are talking about humans loving each other.
There is more to that question than just the one side. You would never leave them either which means you would deal with their faults too. No one is perfect. So to have someone that accepts your faults and you accept theirs, is ideal.
Love last for about two to three years. One can love another but not like them. Once love runs out, one can be left with a person they don’t like, and in most cases separation is the normal course of events.
The best thing for someone who wants to have a life-long relationship with another would be to like the other person. Off course, best of all would be to like someone, but also be in love with them.
With time psyches grow to complement eachother, so that living without one-another makes one feel withdrawal symptoms. And, as some of you might already know, fear of withdrawal symptoms is a much more incentive to keep doing that something, than the damage that thing might be causing.
Often times people chooses slow comfortable decadence, rather than a brief fit of pain.
The question nowhere says that you wouldn’t.