I only just came across this concept in the book ‘The Psychology of Happiness’ by Samuel Franklin. Developed by Abraham Maslow, he observed there are such persons who have satisfied needs such as food and shelter, love and belonging, self acceptance etc. and thus exist mainly to pursue principles and values. He then observed some traits of such persons associatedcontent.com/articl … erson.html.
I feel I can strongly identify with these traits. As an only child who received keen attention from my parents and grandparents in childhood I have nonetheless appeared shy and aloof a lot of the time. I quite enjoy time alone and also get bored with people a bit too easily. It is only recently that I have made myself more sociable and more accepting of other people’s quirks, but I still reject the idea that I should make friends with people, even arseholes, just because it makes me look more popular and I could have more contacts. I prefer to bond with people deeply over shared values and interests rather than shallow friendships based on mutual need.
Do we not bond with others on varying levels though? dependent on circumstance… bonding with work-colleagues on a shallow level which would enable us to have a good working relationship with them but nothing more, and bonding with friends on a deeper level because we chose them for friendship and not having that friendship forced upon us as it is with work-colleagues.
Hi. You sound interesting. Are you spoiled?