Selfishness vs. Selflessness
This is a great thread and it actually brings up some thoughts I’ve been having for awhile now.
People are selfish first and foremost. We are this way due to one thing–the meaning of life. What is the meaning of life? That’s an easy question. The meaning of life is to survive! This explains why people are selfish first and foremost… A living organism values survival above all other things, such is the will of life itself. All meaning and purpose come from this willpower to live in the face of imminent death! So, it makes sense for people to be selfish, simply because we are living beings. All living beings share survival in common. It is the ultimate truth of life.
Living beings evolved into our present situation today, while never forgetting (or maybe we did forget?) that survival comes before everything. What humans represent is the culmination of untold years of progress through basic living organisms. Cells united and evolved to form tissues, which formed organs, which formed bodies, which formed minds, etc., but why? Why did life evolve? Life changes in order to survive–it must adapt and evolve. If life did not change, then 1) it would not be living and 2) it would not survive. You may ask, “are living and surviving separate concepts?” No, they are not. At the roots of living is surviving, and at the roots of surviving is living. At some point, these two concepts are so intertwined that they are really one form (in my mind at least). Only when a person realizes the meaning of life will the line between living and surviving blur into one unified concept. Understanding the subtleties and secrets of ‘survival’ is more important than ‘life’, because people as living beings ignorantly assume that we have the living part figured out. We don’t… In fact, when we realize that we are ignorant to what living means, we can find answers in what it means to survive.
As the human animal adapted and evolved within the category of species known as ‘mammals’, we evolved to survive (i.e. live) differently than other animals. Within our so-called ‘individual selfs’, we represent a ‘single’ living being. This is an illusion, because the human body is actually comprised of many different living beings. The label ‘single’ is just a categorical/semantic tool that helps us build foundations of knowledge. Anyway, our individual self is selfish, because as individuals, we want to survive first and foremost. Human beings, like all living beings, want to live!
However, being the humans that we are, we have evolved to become social animals. Human beings are fundamentally dependent on other people. Hypothetically, if you were the only living human being on the planet, you would die and the specie known as ‘human beings’ would die. From birth, the single person would die without care. From childhood, the single person would die unable to defend itself. From adulthood, the single person would die from depression/suicide/insanity.
So humans aren’t so “self”-ish after all, because we need other people to live. Humanity exists only within constant relation with other people as social animals. This is where the concept of ‘selflessness’ comes from.
Selfless acts may or may not exist. It’s hard to determine how/what/why they are what they are, if in fact they even exist…
Yet, we have clues and urges toward the concept of ‘selflessness’. What this concept means to me (as I’ve personally defined it) is connection between people. Do I believe selflessness exists? I cannot say for sure, but I have faith that it does. To say that it exists definitively one way or another seems to be a metaphysical leap from my point of view. What even is it in the first place?
When selflessness is conceptualized as ‘connection’, then it makes more sense under the actuality of humanity’s existence as social animals. We need other people, while remaining selfish. Though, our selfishness is not the extent of our own lives, because if it were, then there would be no need for other people. Selfishness cannot exist as an absolute drive for a human being, because it would not accurately reflect the nature of human beings. We seek connection to other individuals. This may seem selfish and it probably is, but where does ‘selflessness’ come from? I view ‘selflessness’ as a leap of faith that other people exist–that there are other people in this world, and I am connected to them.
To me, selflessness is beyond a subjective or objective view of the world. All I know is that I exist as a selfish living being and that other people exist as a selfless living being. I have not yet bridged the gap to a subjective or objective ideology, because ‘other people’ cannot be objects unless I consider myself an object as well. With this metaphysical foundation, objectification of a person is irrelevant and redundant anyway. Selfishness and selflessness are reflections of living and survival…
The problem with saying what is or is not selfless is that humans as individuals see the world through our selfish perspectives. It’s truly hard to say example X is a selfless act. But, let’s get pragmatic/practical and say, “fuck it!” Let’s finish things here…
A man sees a bus coming down the street and a young child balancing on the sidewalk. The child loses his/her balance and begins to fall while the bus is approaching at full speed. The child stumbles out into the street while the man runs up and pushes the child out of the way of the bus with all his strength and speed. The child rolls out of the path of the bus, but the man dies.
You are a bystander that wasn’t paying attention until it happened. You were just a witness. You can say, “blah blah blah he acted out of selfish interests,” now on the ILP boards. But if this event actually happened, how would you truly feel and react? I know how I would react, I would say, “HOLY, FUCKING, SHIT!” I’m going to take a wild stab at it and would say that the action would change you, your thoughts and your actions, because it is an example of selfishness, selflessness, living, and surviving all rolled up into one ball. The simple fact is that there was some kind of connection between the man and the child that speaks louder than any text of philosophy. It goes beyond words and ignorantly reducing the situation to just a degree of selfishness does not speak truly to the enigma of life.