Sex and Control

Ichthus77 · June 19, 2025, 6:08am

Backdrop to my contributions above:

divergent sexuality would never happen if we were happy with our biological situations, and sexually faithful (consent respecting) in our minds. What was sexual life like before the first consent violation?

If we could go back and live in that experience (an ethical problem in and of itself… Quantum Leap fans…), we would color it with our own. It is something from which we exiled ourselves (and others we initiated).

Would there be any possible way to nurture two brand new babies into adulthood without any taint of consent violation?

Shouldn’t we be teaching them (and so ourselves) to be happy in the skin they are in, and not to do anything in their minds they would not have consent to do in their behavior— and that if something is good for the mind, it should also be good for the behavior, and vice versa?

I’m not talking about becoming prudes who experience zero pleasure and zero joy and zero life. I think if we survive only on the “bread” of the mind, we become spiritually anorexic, if none of it comes to fruition in our behavior. And if the dreams of the mind are enslaved to impulse, when it comes to fruition in behavior, we become… spiritually morbidly obese & diabetic. Malnourished in both cases.

Then there is the scenario of not going anywhere in your mind because everything is approaching you from outside — and no one is telling you/others no, or violating your/their consent. Still, it is impractical (chaotic… focus-robbing) to say yes across the board.

…but that just brings me back to …if it is focus-robbing to say yes across the board …why not say no across the board? And on the flippity flip… If it is good to say yes to one in order to escape burning with passion, why not say yes across the board in order to escape burning with passion? And that is the conundrum. roflmao I need a nap.