What makes the majority of us like skinny girls in short skirts as opposed to fat girls in sweat pants?
I like ‘bigger’ girls.
If those sweat pants are the tight kind, then I can explain perfectly.
We are doubly repulsed by a fat girl who insists on wearing tight clothing. Here, she must know that we know that she knows she doesn’t look good, or else she is calling us a liar, in which case we would actually be attracted to her but not admit it, and that is an insult.
The politics of fat girls and flirting are extremely complex. They are granted privileges that hotties are not, and vice-versa. But there are some general rules which are not contextual, the above mentioned being one of those rules.
I would rather a fat girl just let it go, and perhaps work on other areas of her personage, because trying to look sexy just ain’t happening.
The whole basis for sexual attraction is Evolutionary…“survival of the fittest” …obviously there is nothing too fit about fat girls…We want to have sex with the person that is going to give our child the best chance to survive(the best genes)
lol… fat girls are in no way less capable of giving a child the best chance to survive…
fat or slim is pure cultural preference… if you ever saw a painting by rubens you know what i’m talking about
you can’t brag about dogging a fat chick
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh damn
are you including or excluding me in this thread?
i will not speak furthur without a respective answer
thank you for your precious time.
DDF
Your basing your opinion on society and overlooking the fact that we are animals. As animals we have an instinct that draws us to the more fit of our kind. People who are fat wouldn’t make it in the animal world because they would be slow with less energy, thus our instincts repel them.
This is a question of natural selection.
Fertility having a relativity to physical appearance.
Now you may continue with TV-styled replies…
Well we’re all talking about evolutionary instincts, however is it not possible that sexual attraction is based on instincts, but for more intelligent animals it is also a product of the society the animal is brought up in.
For more intelligent animals (not neccesarily humans) there is probably an aspect of their society that plays into what kind of mate they are attracted to, and what kind they repel.
Its a challenge, a competition, if one male seems interested in a mate, then the other animals fight him for that mate.
In the human world, well at least the modern world we have magazines and roadside ADs and T.V. depicting not fat people but thinner more appealing people, we are rarely exposed to people who are considered undesirable, at least at a consumer level.
However when we see these people for the first time we are taken aback, we wonder “what is this and why is it not like everyone else”, it is not desirable because it is an outcast, it is not what is considered the norm, the beautiful, and everything that is socially connected to sexual attraction.
Some guys like big girls, why that is, might have something to do with their earlier years, and in what context ‘big women’ have been presented to them.
[size=150]The Media[/size]
Seriously.
If ET started talking about how it’s cool to be fat, it would be attractive for most of the west.
i know what i’m talking about, sun 
you may be keen on slim people, but there are many cultures out there where most people take a fancy for fat woman… the european culture in the 17th century did too 
sorry mate, i’m - as they say - spoken for
detrop, I know what you mean.
I have this girl who goes to my highschool who is hopelessly obese.
However, everyday, she wears extremely tight sweatpants, and shirts that reveal rather unappealing cleavage.
Me and my friends all say, “You know I’ve got nothing against the girl personally, but cmon I mean she knows she can’t look good in those clothes, Why in the hell would she wear that shit?!?”
Detrop, I must say you have brought up a subject of discussion on this topic that most would have not, Why they hell do they do that!?!, you’re right, its very complex, and I know this girl very well, and I think it has to do with the influence of her friends. The fat girls that wear tight clothing usually are hanging out with girls who are much more attractive and thinner them themselves and as a product of ‘peer pressure’ end up dressing like these girls.
If we accept that fat people have a better than average chance of being lazy, we could suppose that young fat chicks are in the process of getting fatter, and they wear tight clothes because they didn’t used to be tight, and are wrapped up in laziness or self-denial about buying the kinds of sizes that would actually be appropriate.
I think that’s much more common than some delusion about being sexy, or some sadistic desire to make other people see something they think is gross.
Well, yes that is also a good point.
I was talking about the specific case however, where it is obvious that these clothes are not just outgrown, it is an obvious attempt to look sexy in clothes that she is driven to believe through whatever form of societal influence, are sexy.
There are of course, the people that understand that they are fat, and not sexually attractive, and don’t really take the time or care to do anything about it. The lazy ones.
But there are also however, the procrastinators. You could classify them along with the lazy ones, however, these ones in my opinion are a bit different.
They understand that they are overweight and desire strongly to live up to their own potential. They know that they are really very beautiful, and have not lost hope in the opposite sex, but don’t quite know how to present themselves.
So they go to what they understand is sexually attractive, at the same time they are still understanding of the fact that they themselves are not sexually attractive, but in a somewhat dilluded desire tom appeal and conform to the standards of society, they dress in the manner that we are describing.
They have not forgotten that they are obese however, but they just cannot break themselves of the habits that are making them obese, and they cannot bring themselves to engage the desire that they have to lose weight and complete their reform to the standards that society has set.
They have the desire, but they do not quite have the willpower.
Their willpower is damaged by the habits that they have already formed.
Fat girls pros:
Obviously from a rich family, your children won’t starve.
mammaries hold much milk
cons:
Complications during childbirth
regular girl pros:
no complications during childbirth
healthy, fit
cons:
does not necessarily have the same family inheritance the fat girl has
You guys are both right.
Though the pros and cons of each girl are related to evolutional “fitness”, individual pros and cons will be more important in different places, swaying the balance in favor of one type or the other. So, while it is relative to the place and society, it is still based on evolution as well. The reasons themselves are objective, while the importance of each reason is subjective.
Agree?
(my pros and cons table is not complete, obviously, so feel free to add stuff)
I strongly agree with you on this one. I’ve got the feeling that some people are walking through life being blind-folded and they don’t even realise it. Have you ever asked yourselves why we like certain things more and other things less? Is it really due to our personal preference.
All media types, both printed and digital ones, are powerful tools for manipulation people.
Let’s travel back to the times of the Roman Empire. If we look at old paintings from those days, we’ll see that women depicted on old paintings were of somewhat larger shapes. Those women were considered devine. Nowadays we’d say those people had a slight taste disorder.
We have different standards and a different idea of beauty. However, our ideas of beauty depends less upon our own desires, but more upon the ‘fashion’. We all see those skinny models on TV, in magazines, on posters and subconsciously we develop standards. We like them, because everyone tends to like them. Most guys don’t want to admitt that they can be attracted to bigger girls purely because of fear what their friends or other people might say or think. Therefore it would be out of question to go out with such a girl, because someone might actually see it and consider it as ‘abnormality’, since in our time we’re ‘supposed’ to like skinny girls.
Unforuntaly, ‘skinny girls’ is just one of the examples how we, human beings, get manipulated and fooled. Our visions are falsified and poisoned.
However, the process of sexual attraction itself is more complex. Sometimes we get attracted to the physical aspects of a person, but in some cases even sexual attraction can arise just by getting to know the person. The inner qualities of a person can be at least as attractive as the outer ones.
Don’t let anyone fool yourselves, gentlemen.
Even big boned girls can have a lot of sex appeal. Moreover, beauty is not skin-deep (what a ‘cliche’ saying, I know, but it’s true). There is more than the eye can see. Keep that in mind.