Social Acceptance

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Accepting someone for who they are seems so condescending- “who they are” becomes something they cannot help about themselves, making them helpless to what they’re unable to change.

You will usually be told this phrase when something undesirable is being discussed about said person so as to excuse their behavior.

When a person is persecuted to the point of using it in a positive, unique light, they are again using it to cover a weakness- that of social insecurity.

When it comes to being accepted, one cannot be ‘unique’ and expect to be automatically liked or protected from scrutiny. On the contrary, they must force their acceptance upon others, as authority triumphs over being taken in like a baby kitten.

There is a transparent difference between a comfortable introvert and an uncomfortable one. The latter boasts of existential angst, while the former forgets to notice.

There are those who do to be seen, and those who do to be seen hiding to be seen. The lone, misunderstood intellectual is a trend for those it appeals to. Namely, those who believe the best way to be seen is by pretending that they do not want to be.

It is the easiest way for someone who is weak to appear strong. What they will not realize is as they repeatedly talk of their status, and whatever high and mighty excuse they have for not ‘fitting in’, they are giving away their true motivations. These are the same people who do not understand why they really are disliked.

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Yeah,saying it is just because that is “who they are” is escapist.
Even if genetics plays a role it is the environment that leads to genetics, that doesn’t mean it should be held to imply the person is evil or something, but it is important to recognize change is always possible.
If it is just a matter of upbringing, change can be had given appropriate attitude and acceptance of the change.
If it is genetic, it may not be immediately repairable, but the environmental causes can be altered so as to not lead to that for future generations.

Extensive “nurturing” of certain types lead to genetic disposition to nurture in like ways, and to naturally be of that form nurtured in previous generations…
I.E.
an abused person acts a certain way, has a tendency to use abuse to teach their children, and if a product of many generations can have the tendency to be like one abused as well as an abuser if abuse is within the family history, not exactly directly, but simply somewhere in the past…Reduction in allowance for such tendencies to be accepted reduces behavior of those even with the harder to control genetic tendencies, which in the long run reduces the tendency for said genetic habit to continue to pervade, and crop up.