When humans experience happiness they feel a constant rush of exuberance about their outlook on life and the further joys it may bring in the near/distant future. In misery, on the other hand, we feel a constant entrapment in the now, or in a word a general helplessnes about the standstill of the moment we find ourselves in, and our inability to change it. When we are happy we feel generally content about whatever it is that caused our departure from misery and the effect this agent will continue to play in the future. Misery deals with the now/past and happiness deals with the future. For this reason we can never be truly happy because happiness exhausts itself as we come to our senses and think that yes indeed I am not in the future but in reality still dealing with the now. So life actually is a constant state of misery and loneliness because it deals with the now. Only in our daydreaming about the future do we discover happiness which is only simply a mask for the depressing state of today.
Ultimate mental misery is rooted in the future as well in my experience, the worst kind of misery is loneliness and complete loss of hope and hope is about the future.
Other then that I agree.
Why ones cant be feeling happy at the right instance of the now?
I dont understand your idea that misery is past and now and the future is happiness? why? many happinesses are happening righ now and will belong in the past memories eventually
and perhaps many sad events are populating the future equally?
Happiness and sadness can belong everywhere in the past, present and future
eg: many occasions of happiness can happen just right now…eg: the moment you give birth, the moment you receive a diploma, a degree, got the house of your dream, the return of a loved person or the entrance of a new love…a pet lost come back, all those things can happened in the now or have already happened in the past though they can be visual dream of hope for in a sad present they have the possibility of being what we perceived of them too…
I know, but the only reason you are really happy is because you are looking forward to enjoying these things in the future, not so much happy because you have them now. agree?
Sure if suddenly some exciting and happy circumstances enter my life in the NOW I will be happy regardless if it is lasting…of course if it is lasting that would make me twice as happy …however everything in this world is temporary…and I just cant imagine oneself eating one favorite dish for ever and ever without feeling nauseus or having the most incredible sex for ever and ever…we are creature of habit and are also easily bored by routine…to try to keep the momentum eternally is not of this planet…
we live in a binary world, a world of opposites…and we can often, only really appreciated love after we have encountered indifference or hate or loneliness…the same with savouring peace …it is so much more appreciated after a war (war with a neighbour, mate, parent, kid … not only with a country)
I love beautiful sunny days in the summer but when a sudden rough rain
happens I enjoy it so much more…
nothing is lasting…so to build one happiness not on whats happening right now but mainly on its projection in the future is a sure way to be unhappy and never be able to appreciate it totally when it surprises us now!
I am not saying that in an ideal world your logic wouldnt be better than mine …unfortunately we are not living in an ideal world yet…
I believe that happiness is a celebration that there can be andend to misery. I believe we need misery in order to be happy again because with out our never ending ups and downs of life, happiness would be nothing special. So, when you are miserable, simply be glad because it cannot be forever unless you let it.
I also belive that futures are nonexistant. Why should we spend today thinking of what we are going to do tommorrow when there is no assurance that the dawn will greet us?
It seems like you quoted me but responded to someone else, I see no correlation between your reply and my quote.
Why can’t happy be now? Obviously, wehave no control over these things. Some of us are happy in the present and some of us are miserable. Plus, the present is the only thing we truely have becuase we cannot grasp yesterday or tommorrow, therefore, we will all be miserable and happy in the present.
Is there something wrong with you, can you read or write english?
Actually I need to clean my key board, lol. When I type fast, I screw up badly. . . as you can tell, but thank you for taking an interest in my illiteracy.
It wasn’t the serious spelling errors alone, it was the content. Your reply had nothing to do with my post and your the second bad speller in a row in this thread to do this, I was just wondering if everybody else is reading another post and responding to this one mistakenly, or maybe I’m crazy. Try actually making a point about someone’s quote when you post it, or make your own point without posting a quote, hell I don’t care, I just thought I would mention that your reply made no sense what so ever.
We are responding to how happiness and misery respond to the past and the future. Have you not been reading any of this?
Yes, I have, so why did you quote my disagreement with another poster about my point of misery also being steeped in the future of no hope with a reply that seemed to be asking me why we cant be happy now? What do the conditions of misery have to do with being happy in the now, please explain.
Am I missing something?
Aaaaaw Kingdaddy you read pretty grumpy in those last posts of yours…relax, have a bit of tolerance for others…who are trying their best to write English. How many languages do you write yourself?
Probably if you could shoo away that dark cloud of contempt you might find yourself being HAPPY NOW!