Too many spoiled children today.
Too much nastiness. Too much violence.
Too many special orders.
Too much debt by spoiled children.
Too many so-called adults cheating.
I watched TV for one week and now I am back
not watching. The world is very cruel.
Please define “spoiled,” turtle. Exactly how do children become “spoiled”?
Jonquil----you always do this to me. But I like it.
I just can’t come up with a good definition.
Unable to endure hardship - hardship defined as “not my first choice”.
Naaaah.
How did you come to that conclusion from watching TV?
cheeg-----what do you watch on tv? Maybe I am missing the good news.
turtle,
Instead of spoiled, how about people having unrealistic expectations? Otherwise, you have people 65 years old who have to be called spoiled children.
cheeg-----what do you watch on tv? Maybe I am missing the good news.
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Football, comedy.
turtle, you really must elaborate on what you mean by “spoiled” and how that happens. If not, your post is meaningless and impossible to discuss.
OK Jonquil—I am writing about any person who is spoiled no matter what their age.
A person who feels special and above others.
Typically a person without inner limits.
It is common today to place the child as the center of attention. Not good. Much better to see the family as the important thing. The child needs to be civilized not idolized.
Hmm. A lot of people confuse being spoiled with getting one’s needs and expectations met, a good thing. That’s why I asked you to do two things, explain what you mean by spoiled, which you have done; AND explain how it is that a child gets to BE spoiled. How would that look? I see your take on what is meant by spoiled as a result of abuse because no child grows up to think of him or herself as special or different or better without having sustained serious hurt and oppression. Otherwise, the child would always feel that sense of connectedness and empathy that we are all born with.
I think that what you are trying to describe with the word “spoiled” is the phenomena of people feeling entitled to self-esteem without having undergone any sort of action that would traditionally merit such esteem. I think this brings up good questions. What kinds of things ought one feel esteemed about? Ought we teach people that there are certain conditions where one ought not feel good about themselves? More specifically, I think we live in a culture of passivity. We think so long as we do not interfere with the “natural order of things”, we’ve done our jobs and can go home happy. Perhaps the nature outgrowth of this is to feel esteem for simply doing nothing at all. We are taught to be hostile to anyone who interrupts our mode of living, even if that mode of living is harmful.
We have often become selfcenterd with this “pleasing” culture, we free the underdog in us and let it ravage, we give in to our selfish desires because there are no one to tell us no. It’s where money talks and moral walks.
We thinks being “good” means that we should spoil our children rotten and not make demands, because we fear it would “hurt” the children …which is overly phobic and hysteric.
In many non industrial countries where you get your ass kicked because of bad behaviour, there are higher moral and extreme self diciplin.
…the world has cruelty, but also beauty and hope. There has been great massacars and wars since dawn of man, yet the world still turns …dispair not my friend.